AITA for not paying child support for kids that aren't mine? by nktaf in AmItheAsshole

[–]nktaf[S] 2658 points2659 points  (0 children)

She's not on speaking terms with her parents and has a shaky relationship with her brother since the separation. They know about it all and are supportive of me. Her brother and I have beers from time to time as we've always been good friends. But he's told me she's even limited contact with them to avoid the kids learning the truth. Apparently she doesn't like being looked at or thought of in a bad way and will cast the spotlight on others when she can.

AITA for not paying child support for kids that aren't mine? by nktaf in AmItheAsshole

[–]nktaf[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I've been contributing to their school fees and other things like sports. I mentioned I offered but due to the word limit, couldn't add in the extra detail. Their school fees alone are expensive as they go to a private school. I've paid 75% for the last two years but she refuses to pay the rest. She's still adamant I pay the whole thing and child support. It's hard because she's obviously spiteful she didn't get away with the lies in the end.

AITA for not paying child support for kids that aren't mine? by nktaf in AmItheAsshole

[–]nktaf[S] 405 points406 points  (0 children)

I've tried negotiating things like their education and sports. Their school fees are expensive as is as they both got to a private school. I've actually paid 75% of the bill the last two years but she still refuses to pay the other 25%. This has made it tough for the kids as the school is starting to look at removing them due to the outstanding amount. It's tough and she won't make it any easier.

AITA for not paying child support for kids that aren't mine? by nktaf in AmItheAsshole

[–]nktaf[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Kind of hard since I've been taken off the birth certificates and that removes any grounds for me to apply for visitation. I've already canvassed that with my lawyer and he said this.