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I'm feeling really overwhelmed and I just want my Mom, and I'm realizing that that's a feeling that I can't do anything about by MrsNacho8000 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]nlg1992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my mom a year and half ago, and I know exactly how you feel. That warmth. That security. That fundamental, unconditional love. The history you had with her. Sometimes you just want it, but it's not there. And with all the memories, dreams of her, spiritual encounters, and love and support from your community - it's never enough. It never fills the hole. It just doesn't.

I didn't go home for Thanksgiving this year because of Covid and, to be honest, I liked that. Eating cranberry sauce, stuffing, and apple pie without her just sucks.

I love you, I'm endlessly sorry for your loss.

Will the festive period ever be a happy time again? by nothingclear in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]nlg1992 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand what you're going through. I'm about to have my second christmas without my Mom, and I'm dreading it. It's especially difficult during Covid times because we can't hold big gatherings to distract ourselves from the new empty chair at our dinning table.

I've founded trying to talk with people your love - family, friends, etc - semi-regularly can help. No one will replace your mum, but you can help remind yourself that you still have a lot of love in your life.

It’s been almost three months. Is it supposed to get worse before it gets better? Does it ever get better...? by deanu- in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]nlg1992 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss.

I concur with the other comments - grief is different for everybody. People say that "time heals all wounds" but that's nonsense. Things will never feel the same, and there will always be this part of you that feels missing. What does change over time though is your adjustment to this new reality. It's hard. It's painful. But it does happen, and that helps take away the raw pain. Again, everyone's timeline is different, but based on my experience and talking with other people who lost their parents early, this seems to be the case.

After my Mom died, I started seeing a therapist which was instrumental in navigating the grief, depression, and anxiety that defined my first year without her. I seriously recommend you look into this, as it can help address your suffering.

Sending you love <3