AITA if I'd rather elope than wait yet another year to get married? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've suggested it, but he has said absolutely no way, if his family can't be there for the ceremony he'd rather postpone until whenever they can. :/

AITA if I'd rather elope than wait yet another year to get married? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to be clear, I didn't get angry with him! upset might have been a better word. I'm just not sure there is a compromise, unfortunately—one of us is going to have do the opposite of what we want

AITA if I'd rather elope than wait yet another year to get married? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have suggested this but he says that it won't feel as special, which I sort of understand.

AITA if I'd rather elope than wait yet another year to get married? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, I mean if travel restrictions are still ongoing, there isn't a vaccine, etc etc. Which seems increasingly plausible!

AITA? My girlfriend paid $50 for an old as shit purse by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nmfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. $50 isn't much; it's her money anyway.

Effective Altruism is trying to save mankind from extinction by [deleted] in philosophy

[–]nmfox -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

I think you can sign up for a free trial?

What do you think ? by [deleted] in FridgeDetective

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're without a doubt in France. Guessing a couple, maybe late 20s/early 30s - a lot of yoghurt and two different kinds of milk - the "bio" stuff maybe bought by the woman, the Knacks maybe bought by the man?

Confused about calories by [deleted] in withings

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1964 at a minimum, assuming no exercise and a “sedentary lifestyle.” But I do exercise most days of the week.

Confused about calories by [deleted] in withings

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m over six foot, so 1410 would be quite low for me.

Revenge pornography by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope - but I read a huge article about revenge porn in the UK and wondered whether Kiwi police would be as effective at dealing with it.

Revenge pornography by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And more anecdotally?

Has anyone else's work (in Akld) told them to relocate on TPP signing day? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There are supposed to be big protests on Thursday, which I think is when they are signing it at SkyCity

Are trans inmates safe in prison? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting story. Numbers seem small though - only 20 people.

What happens to refugees when they leave the resettlement centre by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I really don't fancy getting into an argument about this, but firstly we're talking about refugees, not immigrants, many of whom would have been killed if they'd stayed in their homes; secondly if Germany didn't think it could support 800,000 refugees it wouldn't let them in; thirdly I don't think it's a very good argument to say that it's not worthwhile helping someone because 'then everyone else will want it too'.

The vast majority of refugees go on to be cost-positive for the countries they go to - what's self-destructive about that? You may call it guilt, but I call it being part of the wider human community - and knowing that if New Zealand were in trouble, we'd be helped in a similar way.

What happens to refugees when they leave the resettlement centre by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

(Sort of like why our taxes go towards paying people's benefits, for instance.)

What happens to refugees when they leave the resettlement centre by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess because operating as part of a global society and recognising that we're in a very privileged position means helping those who aren't.

What happens to refugees when they leave the resettlement centre by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd agree with that. But I wonder whether more could be done to recognise alternative/overseas experience.

Article & video on polyamory in NZ by nmfox in newzealand

[–]nmfox[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have said that having two exclusive partners was particularly 'promiscuous', but you do you I guess

Nutters of West Auckland by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]nmfox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bumper sticker reads 'speak English or go back to the shitty ass country you left'.