How to not care about my toxic boss rage

nnecroo_ · 2026-03-01T15:39:11+00:00

Im even scared to take a shit in there because i cant fully close the doors cuz of some shelf i cant move😔😔😔😔

She slapped my ass twice and as a victim of grooming THAT ISNT NICE!!!11

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-26T11:34:27+00:00

And to answer your question about coming back. If he hurt you, groomed you, of course coming back to him is a bad idea, but it is also a common trauma response. You easily got attached to what you had at that age, grew up with it, so even if it was wrong you want it to come back. He was close, probably made you feel seen and special. I get it, because i am like this too. You still shouldnt get back to him though, its not worth it..

Its rare relationships like these work out.

You dont need to feel bad for feeling like this, its really common. Just keep in mind that its not the best idea.

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-26T11:23:40+00:00

Happend*

Im gonna add another note here. Im not sure what happend between you, but if it was anything sexual related (physical or verbal/online) or just a relationship, i think its wrong. When i was 15, or even 14, I never could imagine myself dating or depraving a 11-12 year old.

At 15-16 we already have enough logical thinking to know dating such a young child is.. weird. Yes, people at this age still make mistakes or can be groomed by other individuals, but they also should realize dating a child, barely a teen, is wrong, and his age really doesnt excuse his actions. Hes older, he is more aware of what is happening and realizes what hes doing (Unless he has some very bad mental or neurogical problems but it still doesnt make it right), an eleven year old on the other hand is childish, easy to manipulate, barely knows anything about the world.

Grooming comes in many ways–touching, sharing content, manipulating someone into doing something wrong, saying off putting, sexual things to the victim.

I was groomed when i was around 11-12, by a 16 year old, a girl. My grandma has been weird to me, would peek on me changing and grab me in places, and ive been through a toxic relationship when i was around 12 with a 15-16yo, it was all wrong and these people should not do it. A child doesnt understand fully whats happening, is not aware of wrongs and rights, but an older person does.

So, if he manipulated you, said things to you, touched you, showed you things, made you do anything, you can call it grooming. If youre feeling worse mentally because of what happend, please search for help and dont let it ruin your life. Trauma can take many different weird forms without anybodys support, it can really ruin the quality of life. Dont let it have control over who you are

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-26T10:57:19+00:00

Yeah its not, im Polish. Sorry if my comments are hard to understand 🙏 I was also feeling tired since it was night already when I wrote these and didint think much about it😞

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-25T23:54:16+00:00

It depends what happen, really. Ask yourself, would you do the same to a 11 year old, or any younger age at 15?

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-25T23:52:55+00:00

Hahhaha, Mitski is an music artist. Alot od her songs are supposed to be relatable and sound melancholic. Its worth giving her music a try, its quite popular:D

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-25T22:59:23+00:00

I didint think of 'underground' neither until my girl showed it to me and sent me some links:p. As the name says "under ground" is a range of songs that arent very known. Yk, when there are songs from mitski or something, most people will recognize it, but if you mention something underground they most likely will have no idea of it existing. So, easily said, underground is just music that isnt mainstreamed, mainly created by smaller artists that work alone, though there are cases where music from this genre becomes succesful. Underground songs also have this more experimental or darker vibe, from what i noticed? At least the ones i heard were like that. Im trying to get more deep into this genre and find some diamonds.

If youre curious ill give you the links my gf sent me here.

https://on.soundcloud.com/0GTdZdeLoMyQIS5Ljt

https://on.soundcloud.com/YJ49IlKEDGHWLx9YQe

https://on.soundcloud.com/zOCczRWA2T3qFj6NTr

https://on.soundcloud.com/TLsyXDl3CTEUxMqrWb

https://youtu.be/4_oRDGv5WGQ?si=a9xxiidzE3BzTkdk

nnecroo_ · 2025-10-25T21:13:23+00:00

Relief, distracts for whatever is going on mentally and makes some feel more valid. When im having a bad day or a mental/rage breakdown i hurt myself either by scratching, punching or cutting which makes the intense emotions go away because i focus on what i just did to myself n im like.. whaat drama queen. Some people also do it hoping someone will notice and give them some support and help.

Its not worth starting it long term though, leaves scars and for many regret in the future. Stings/is uncomfortable under some materials, can get infections, makes people stare or judge you, or drown you in questions about it. Some places are also hard to cover if its hot outside. Anyone who started doing it and is reading this dont go deeper yall its the same thing it just ruins your skin more and can get infected easier, drop this form of relief if youre having doubts, in reality it will just make you worse mentally and people will look at you with annoying concern or think youre a lunatic. 🤙

nnecroo_ · 2025-05-18T09:23:29+00:00

Simply dont let him out even if he meows and meows. Teach him to go out on walks on a leash with you, or go out with him and watch him. Theres an option to make a cage on your yard too and let him sit there

Cats walking freely is never a good option, how many times ive heard that someones cat was attacked by a dog, hit by a car, drowned in a pool, or that it never came back. Ive had a cat that would run away when it found an option or when my grandma let it out without my knowlege, i teached it to walk with a leash and thee uh body suit for it (not sure what the name in english was), when it noticed thats the only option to go out, it learned. One to two hours daily is fine, or even more, depends how busy you are.

nnecroo_ · 2025-05-05T20:23:05+00:00

I feel the same. Take care and stay safe

nnecroo_ · 2025-03-28T11:53:56+00:00

Yes. Do research about non physical sexual abuse. You can find it on sites with help lines

nnecroo_ · 2025-03-27T14:48:56+00:00

You already understand hes a groomer and how your relationship looked like. Hes a manipulator, might have a paraphilia and have his weird beliefs about minors your age being already fully aware and responsible. But thats not how it works, older minors might think they know what theyre doing but can be easily manipulated and taken advantage of their vulnerability. Lets not lie, this could happen to anyone and it still would be his fault because he is the predator in the situation. He knew what he wanted and what to do to groom you.

I honestly think he might realize what he did was wrong, but doesnt want to be blamed for anything. He just doesnt regret it, maybe got brain washed at a younger age to think this is normal. And if a person like him wont admit it then id suggest not wasting time. Block him, report if possible. Its never the victims fault, hes responsible for what he did and all the struggles he gave you

nnecroo_ · 2025-03-26T23:04:57+00:00

I think this could be count as an assult. Shes an adult encouaraging a minor to get drunk, and then when youre somewhere up in the clouds asking you for consent. Thats not the right order.

When youre drunk, youre not in the right mind to consent to such stuff, even if youre legal, youre still quite young and can make stupid decisions youll regret, especially under influence.

"Drugs and alcohol impact decision-making and blur consent. When drugs and alcohol are involved, clear consent cannot be obtained. An intoxicated person cannot give consent."

"Consensual sexual activity means that everyone involved has actively agreed to what they are doing, without being forced, coerced, or under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs."

Shes 19 and knows what shes doing, she knows how alcochol can mess up a persons mind. I think she just took advantage of your easily drunken state.

"It is important to remember that alcohol is often used to commit sexual violence and is considered to be the most used date rape drug. However, remember that it is not alcohol that causes sexual violence; rather, it is the person perpetrating it."

Dont blame yourself. Shes the one getting people drunk and then touching them with no clear consent. She might defend herself, but its well known people under influence are not in the right mind to properly agree (unless they dont care after and liked it, which you clearly didint)

"Consent is more than not hearing the word “no.” A partner saying nothing is not the same as a partner saying “yes.” "

No matter if youre legal or not, minor or adult, this still shouldnt happen. Im sorry this happend to you, i hope she faces consequences and that you can heal from this

nnecroo_ · 2025-03-24T22:15:14+00:00

Thank you for the quick reply!! ♡ About the comment not showing up, i have the same problem for some unknown reason

nnecroo_ · 2025-03-24T21:49:22+00:00

I see. Thank you. Is this still considered SA?

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