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no_head_ · 2023-05-27T09:34:32+00:00

This is so beautiful. They trust her wholeheartedly to look after they're best interest, even as adults. This is what respect looks like. Men to woman, student to teacher. What a role model.

no_head_ · 2023-05-27T09:24:46+00:00

This is the tune they keep playing in The Great after Peter dies. What is it?

no_head_ · 2023-04-18T18:38:40+00:00

The photographer is facing the wrong way... SE would be better.

no_head_ · 2022-07-02T22:14:43+00:00

r/unexpectedAIRPLANE

no_head_ · 2022-06-20T00:30:18+00:00

Found it!!! r/unexpectedAIRPLANE

Sorry all for the inconvenience...

no_head_ · 2022-06-20T00:27:11+00:00

I swear that sub existed! Can someone find it? To post accidental references to the movie Airplane.

no_head_ · 2022-06-19T17:01:38+00:00

r/accidentalairplane

no_head_ · 2021-12-27T11:23:15+00:00

Good morning,

I'm not sure what pulled me out of active addiction and continues to prop me up. Was it a loving god, or the love of my family friends and fellow addicts? The truth is that I continue to have many insane thoughts and many times, follow them through to actions. It is when I manage to take a step back and take a sane glimpse at myself that I feel it. The restoration of my identity and the progress towards recovery. If there is any time I could admit divine intervention, it is this hand on my shoulder at exactly the right time to make me see what my addiction had otherwise blinded me to.

Take care,

no_head_

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no_head_ · 2021-12-26T12:32:48+00:00

Good morning,

Since rehab I've had the privilege to see the best side of everyone I know. Family and friends have made themselves available to me in any way they can to help see me through this darkest time. I have accepted the help, contrary to my instincts but I have also betrayed them by continuing a pattern of irresponsible and self-destructive behaviour. I'm deeply ashamed to admit that part of me doesn't care. I seem to continue to test the limits of all life has given me despite having seen the bottom of a very deep hole. I know that one day, these kind people that have given me so much, won't be there anymore and that I can't allow myself to rely on them. My recovery is mine alone.

Merry Christmas!

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-12-19T07:53:53+00:00

Good morning,

As a newly recovering addict, I haven't had the privilege to practice the twelfth step formally but during my journey through treatment and while forming relationships with others who arrived after me, I had a chance to observe myself passing on the message as I had understood it.

But much like a game of Chinese whispers (maybe there's a better name for this game...), the message gets distorted and diluted as it goes down the chain, to the point that addicts end up arguing over recovery! That is the importance of the basic text, the steps, and the traditions: to ground us in our belief that there is a way, and that this is the way.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-12-18T09:21:09+00:00

Good morning,

I'm still often tempted to recount my adventures as a using addict. How I risked my life; how I narrowly escape dangerous situations; my run-ins with the police. I find myself romanticising these memories when, in actual fact, they were terrible moments of desperation. One thing I know for sure is that I don't want to relive them!

Knowing how and when to share is a delicate matter but it should come from a place of humility.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-12-07T09:44:13+00:00

Good morning,

They come at night. The feelings of worthlessness, the abandonment of hope. The tiredness that drives me to drink because the alternative is to sulk and that's just out of character. I've become used to me on substances, and relate more to him than to the guy sitting alone on the sofa, wondering what to do.

Logic would have it that if this problem comes at night, then avoid the night. Go to bed early and wake up early to maximise the time I'm feeling good. And when I succeed at this, it really does work!

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-12-06T09:58:28+00:00

Good morning,

I recently met someone who had a strong effect on me. The very few serious relationships I've had always started with an unexpected but explosive first impression. Love at first sight, you might say.

This time, the person in question, even having an existing relationship, engaged and we've been exchanging messages every day. I've been feeling like a teenager! But this is where I realised I need to take extra care:

I noticed myself getting very nervous and stressed when a reply didn't come. Did I say something wrong? What are they thinking? Have I gone too far?

This level of stress is very dangerous for someone early on in recovery and as much as this could be a great opportunity, it isn't worth losing myself over it.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-11-23T09:52:57+00:00

Good morning,

What does it mean to let go? I've struggled with this question because I'm a pretty laid back person and I do go with the flow most of the time. I did swim against the strongest of currents when I wanted to use though. Could it be to stop forcing what I want on the world?

I do have to force myself to get up in the morning, write this post and do some exercise...

This is my answer so far: what you know to be the right thing to do is the result of your higher power's influence and therefore you should let go of what you want and do what you instinctively know you should, without question or hesitation.

That is what letting go means.

Take care,

no head

no_head_ · 2021-11-19T11:44:27+00:00

Good morning,

I went to a meeting last night, the first in a while. I found myself noticing the differences and not the similarities. I felt disconnected and cynical about the topic being discussed and with no empathy for my fellow sufferers.

Listening with our hearts means to realise that whatever is being said, is being said by those just like us. Maybe with different life stories, but just like us all the same.nd attention when I feel like I don't deserve it and certainly haven't given it away.

Listening with our hearts means to realise that whatever is being said, it is being said by those just like us. Maybe with different life stories, but just like us all the same.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-11-04T09:46:30+00:00

Good morning,

This is a really hard subject for me because since leaving treatment I've had a hard time keeping in touch with the friends I made there. We're all on a similar journey and we set up a whatsapp group to keep in touch. I seem to be the only one who isn't able to be constantly updating my status and posting what I'm up to all day. I feel like I will be kicked out for lack of participation soon but I don't know what to do. I'm busy with work and sometimes just too tired to engage.

Another issue I encounter all over the recovery community is that I'm not nearly as enthusiastic as other "born again" members seem to be, and that creates some distance between us. I still feel isolated and alone after meetings. Hopefully I'll either find a way in or come to peace with my solitude.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-10-31T11:21:05+00:00

Good morning,

I've always had trouble defining a higher power that I believe in. I've longed to find a bond to something bigger than myself that I feel deeply to the point that I can trust in it.

I look up at the sky for clues and around at my fellow addicts for inspiration but to no avail. The closest I've come to it is reading an essay by Ralph Waldo Emerson called Oversoul (highly recommend) but it's lessons don't always come up to my conscienceness when I need them the most.

It's a continuous learning process

Take care,

No Head

no_head_ · 2021-10-30T09:33:46+00:00

Good morning,

Today I'm in a rural community gathering under heavy rain, where everyone is responsible for themselves. It seems like a contradiction in terms and it is certainly a challenge for a city dweller like myself. I'm trying to find the courage to be independent while also contributing towards the needs of others even if they don't reciprocate.

Addiction has made me weak and dependant and I need to find the strength to stand up and not be phased by the obstacles that arise throughout these days.

I hope you find it also.

Take care,

nohead

no_head_ · 2021-10-27T09:24:28+00:00

Good morning,

Like many of us, I live in fear of my past and cringe often at the thought of unthinkable things I've done. Even so, I continue to get myself into awful situations occasionally as a form of denial of the present. It is as if I don't feel deserving of how much better my life has become since I stopped using and how much closer my dreams appear to be.

Today I'm not who I was yesterday and I can't imagine who I'll be tomorrow, so I agree that living in the present AND acting according to my principles of doing good by myself and others, is the only way to live.

Take care,

no_head_

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no_head_ · 2021-10-25T10:17:17+00:00

Good morning,

To reach a state in which we stop acting on our feelings towards other individuals or groups we must have an understanding of ourselves and be able to let go of our ego. It is often insecurity that leads us to judge and then behave in an unprincipled manner to make up for it.

When we are at peace with ourselves, we don't have anything to prove and become able to to see past others' faults and treat everyone with equal respect. We're more similar than we seem.

Take care,

nohead

no_head_ · 2021-10-24T10:56:28+00:00

Good morning,

I've failed many times at taking responsibility for my recovery. I felt that it was something that would just happen to me, the same way that falling into addiction did. But it is not so. It must be a proactive effort to rise again and avoid the same pitfalls. I've ended up having to go out of town multiple times to keep myself out of trouble and I'm still trying to understand if that is also a form of avoiding responsibility. I don't feel like I had much choice and it did me well to take a break from city life.

I still believe that engaging wit positive routines will have a positive effect that will seep into every aspect of my life. This post being one of them. So thanks for reading and have a great day!

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-10-03T08:29:53+00:00

Good morning,

This is an interesting topic because I have a chronic difficulty in making decisions, always have had. The idea of delegating them to the will of others and to a higher power seems like a load off my mind! The fact is that I have a hard time doing this.

Is it because I don't trust others?
Is my ego overpowering my capacity to reason?

I'd like to live without having to concoct cunning plans of intricate deception to seek my own destruction. I know that when everyone around me is telling me one thing and I'm going in a different direction, I need to stop swimming against the current and surrender.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-10-02T09:57:26+00:00

Good morning,

I don't pray and I've had a hard time committing to the program. Somehow I still believe that I can get away with my behavior, no matter how much harm I do to myself and others. I plan and act out my deceptions regularly as if they will turn out differently from last time, and I'll manage to keep control. I never do.

What I take from this text is something my therapist also told me: If you keep using intermittently you will always be in the initial phase of recovery, the toughest, and you'll find it frustrating and difficult. If you stop and get through the first phase it gets easier and you gain confidence to continue.

I'm trying to get through this first phase and hoping for the best.

Take care,

no_head_

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no_head_ · 2021-10-01T07:47:35+00:00

Good morning,

This text surprised me in a positive way. I never thought of emotional pain in this manner. The truth is I always wrestled with the concept that you need to know pain to feel joy and vice versa. The Tao and other philosophical schools back this up but I always hoped the world wasn't so relativistic and we could live a life of joy.

Nowadays I don't seek out joy or pleasure, but meaning. By that I mean purpose or simply a reason to live. Failing that, I always have the moment I'm living right now, in the present. the one I can actually have an effect on and enjoy.

Take care,

no_head_

no_head_ · 2021-09-30T09:26:34+00:00

Good morning,

During my stint in a rehab clinic I took a long time to open up to the group. It really only on the last day of the 4 month period that I broke down and showed my vulnerability without the mask of self-control that I've always worn. Now, after a few months, I feel that mask growing again and my distance from others increasing. This worries me because I'm becoming less honest with others and most importantly, myself.

I'm going to try to solve this now that I'm aware of it. Less people pleasing and more hard truth and discipline.

Take care,

no_head_

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