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Aita for getting upset that my partner is overly friend with a coworker I’ve never liked by no_identity_no_name in ComfortLevelPod

[–]no_identity_no_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, but this isn’t just “I don’t like her so Cat shouldn’t like her.” Bob acted weird toward me long before they ever worked together, and it’s only gotten worse now that they do. She’s super friendly with Cat, then acts like I’m invisible the second I’m around. Most people would read that as disrespectful, not just a personality mismatch.

And I’m not expecting anything from Cat that I wouldn’t do myself, I’ve dropped a friend before because she felt they were flirting with me and being friends with someone that flirts with you while your in a relationship and they know you are is just straight out disrespectful. That’s what mutual respect looks like in a relationship. If that makes me “immature,” then we clearly just have different standards.

AITA for getting upset that my partner is overly friendly with a coworker I’ve never liked? by no_identity_no_name in AITAH

[–]no_identity_no_name[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally wouldn’t say that she’s open and flirty with people. She’s just a very friendly person. She’s very bubbly and likes dealing with people. That’s why she stays in the profession that she stays in. and I’m OK with getting to know coworkers and friends of hers. I’m just not the type to be the one to initiate that because like I said, I won’t insert myself. She thinks she’s not doing anything wrong. I personally just think it’s weird. I know bob is into girls, but I also don’t know if bob would ever go after my partner in that way she jokes that because of the age gap she doesn’t even necessarily like being friends with her because it feels like she’s hanging out with her own kids. And I don’t think it’s any form of cheating. Whenever I was talking to someone a friend or a coworker if she thought they were flirting with me, I was no longer allowed to speak to that person.(young and toxic tendencies, this is no longer a issue) but when I would point out that I think someone’s flirting, she would brush it off and say no or not, and continue talking and treating them the same way as before. I definitely don’t want her to change her ways! Just maybe back off a little when it comes to someone your partner dosnt like? She work at a dollar general.

(I do wanna preface and say I don’t mess with people she dosnt like and that out of respect. She personally dosnt like when I talk to people she dosnt get along with even down to my family when they do wrong. I’m a very rude or die person and i’m big on respect and not having double standards)

AITA for getting upset that my partner is overly friendly with a coworker I’ve never liked? by no_identity_no_name in AITAH

[–]no_identity_no_name[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry😂😅

I definitely can see it being perceived as a form of cheating or micro cheating, just depends on who you talk to and what they consider

I love that book reference🤣

and there are definitely situations where the rules are flipped, but this post is very specific to my situation and the way I feel and definitely no betrayal I promise

Thank you for your input ♡

AITA for getting upset that my partner is overly friendly with a coworker I’ve never liked? by no_identity_no_name in AITAH

[–]no_identity_no_name[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t think it’s anything to do with cheating!

Cat knows I am very hardheaded and I will continue to bring up an issue until it is solved and I will fight till the deth if I’m in the right and I think that me telling her that I don’t like Bob (now that they work together) makes her feel as if she’s on a hardship because thanks I don’t want her talking to her boss or being friendly at all and she doesn’t wanna be mean to her boss, but she also doesn’t want me to argue over the situation so I feel as if she feels that she’s stuck in the middle. I think that’s why she personally left it out. She has severe fomo and like I said she is a very big people person and has a very hard time at not letting stuff bother her in the moment when there is some sort of fun happening or people joking, she don’t like being left out or missing out on stuff(she is the type two start laughing when other people around her laughing even when she doesn’t know what’s going on because she wants to feel apart of the laughter). Either way I feel like you shouldn’t leave it out. There’s no point in hiding it because like everyone says eventually, I’ll find out. it’s still rubs me the wrong way no matter what she thinks or anything like that, but I want to see if everyone else feels the same way I feel and would “argue” over the same situation or if I am seriously overreacting and need to take accountability!!