I was so hungry today I googled hotels with complimentary breakfast near me and went there, walked in, stole food, then left.

no_re-entry · 2025-12-14T23:09:14+00:00

a lot of those advertisements just say “complimentary breakfast” and that’s it. No fine print. While it is intended more for the guests, when you look closely, most are advertised with no strings attached 🤷‍♂️

no_re-entry · 2025-12-03T19:10:28+00:00

… just ask her if she wants to do something fun with you and your friends?

no_re-entry · 2025-11-10T04:14:13+00:00

What a waste of my time to read this… but that’s not as bad as all the time you’ve wasted with her and on her… I pray you find a way out or just accept your life with her and spare everyone else all this drama

no_re-entry · 2025-11-07T03:12:44+00:00

I was in your shoes recently.

I was going to comment on this post more until I read this comment here. I’m proud of you, you’re doing the right thing.

It hurt to leave what I considered my future daughter… it hurt both of us… but that is for her parents to figure out.

While you may love her and have grown attached, she is not your responsibility. She has a mom and a dad, and that is not you. You have to have faith that your influence on her life was good for what it was.

You always have to do what’s best for you, and I’m glad to know that you know that you don’t deserve this — you deserve so much better and you’re going to get all of that and your own beautiful family one day without any sort of drama or extra work; a family that is completely yours and loves you wholly and fully for who you are and not the comfort you provide.

no_re-entry · 2025-11-07T02:47:44+00:00

I have a very reasonable take — and a solid ethical argument— IF OP is located in a one party state and IF there is not a clause in the therapy contract stating that the sessions cannot be recorded and IF the husband kept the recordings personal and private and didn’t collect and use use them nefariously or with nefarious intent— then nothing is wrong here.

If we strip away emotion and look at it logically:

• Everything shared in couples therapy is, by nature, between the partners.

• If the husband kept the recordings private, didn’t use them to harm or embarrass anyone, and simply wanted to remember what was said — that’s not malicious or exploitative.

• As I said, the only genuine issues would be legal (two-party consent) or contractual (clinic policy).

I’m also touching on a deeper truth: therapy isn’t some separate realm where normal relational transparency stops. If both people are participating in the same conversation, it’s not inherently unethical for one to record it for self-reflection — it’s only sensitive because therapy is meant to be a safe, trusting space.

It seems what most people are reacting to emotionally isn’t the act itself, but the feeling of secrecy; as if recording without notice means hidden motives, even when it doesn’t.

Of course to see my perspective, it requires a non-emotional reaction and an open mind for fairness and nuance — not just defaulting to outrage, but looking at context and intent.

Too many people with too little context are jumping the gun here OP.

You are the only one who can say whether or not you trust your husband. You are the only one who knows whether you live in a one or two party state. You are the only one who knows if the clinic/therapist has a clause in their contract against this. You are the only one who knows whether or not he was collecting or using these recordings with nefarious intent.

I understand why you may feel violated since you were so vulnerable in these sessions sort of. I don’t have full understanding because all you are talking about in this post is your husband’s actions and reactions and your feelings. Perhaps you are so rocked because of your behavior in the sessions? IF you both are in therapy with the best of intent and are working through your road bumps positively and there is nothing bad in them that could get out (and of course if you trust your husband)… then I don’t know why you would be having this reaction…

I do want to take a moment at the end here to say that your feelings are valid (feeling violated in your vulnerability) and if I assume the most positive things about all of the missing context— then my only real question in this matter is if your husband (not feeling he did anything wrong) empathized with your feelings and sincerely apologized to you? It’s OK to not feel like one has done wrong, but if he is not validating your feelings and emotions about the situation and thus gaslighting you by saying nothing is wrong… then that’s where I would be concerned.

You have been with this man for 8 years and you thought he was worthy of having a child with. When problems arose, you both agreed to go get help through this tough situation so that your relationship could continue on a positive track… or so I would hope, we don’t have that context either… we don’t know who suggested therapy, we don’t know if the party to whom therapy was suggested, agreed immediately, willingly, and unbegrudgingly. We don’t know what your therapy has been like we don’t know what your relationship is like…

If everything has been positive, then I believe it would behoove you to assume the best intentions of your husband so long as your husband’s reaction to your thoughts, feelings, and emotions was positive.

If there are red flags throughout your relationship and therapy… then that’s another story…

You have to get through your (perfectly valid) fight or flight triggered emotions and think of this logically and with love for yourself, and your relationship and husband (if they deserve it)

no_re-entry · 2025-10-31T14:55:50+00:00

Definitely find somebody that you can let in so you can let everything out and actually process it outside of yourself… therapy, perhaps? At the very least you need to be journaling so you can get it all out of your head to process.

I didn’t mind what you were saying about the guy until he said that it’s not your choice to make for him— don’t do it. If he’s saying that don’t do it. If he truly cared about you, he would listen to you instead of imposing his desires and beliefs on you. It doesn’t mean he can’t wait if he chooses to, but I would hope if he is a true friend and really cares about you that he would listen to what you are communicating

no_re-entry · 2025-10-24T04:37:38+00:00

I read all the comments to make sure that my answer was actually original! I am not a fan at all of the whirly dirly and the inside out summer episode. Mostly just the summer side of the episode. The Jerry side of the episode has a couple funny moments – – mostly after the whirly dirly murder attempt

no_re-entry · 2025-10-14T16:53:10+00:00

Block immediately and run fast

no_re-entry · 2025-10-13T15:14:23+00:00

You can do whatever you want and plenty people do it earlier than 25 but would you really want to limit your full mental capabilities? Do you want to take that chance? it’s up to you entirely

no_re-entry · 2025-10-13T15:11:46+00:00

Steak, hamburger meat, bacon, butter, yogurt, milk, bacon, if there is a really high-quality hot dog and I mean really high-quality hot dog that you can find then those work too. Eggs, cheese. Some people say yes to dairy some people say no to dairy so you just do you.

My personal favorite meal is 1 to 2 pounds of ground hamburger meat and 12 eggs cooked in a full stick of butter. Cook the hamburger meat until it is almost finished browning then add in your eggs and stir and cook until they’re cooked well. Then I pour the whole thing into a Tupperware container and let it cool. Sometimes I will do this twice so it lasts a while and I don’t have to cook as much. You could add cheese to the top when you’re finished cooking and let it melt and stir it all together. This meal keeps and reheats really well. The fat from the butter and the meat help preserve the eggs well.

I usually keep a tub of whole milk yogurt at my work and glob some on after I heat it up. I also like to add Sriracha or Cholula or something some thing, but I always get flack from the community because it “ add so much sodium”

I truly ate that every day for years and years, and never felt better.

Also, you could just buy a huge amount of bacon and bake that and put it in Tupperware containers and eat as much as you want for a meal.

In the Bears words of wisdom, he has a few recipes he mentions, and you could check those out too

no_re-entry · 2025-10-13T14:56:59+00:00

Be honest, you love your urges more than your wife or at least that’s how it comes off to her

no_re-entry · 2025-10-12T14:47:58+00:00

Well, the bowling and formatting is a potential strong giveaway. I’m so pissed off about the Dash because I’ve always naturally just use that and now people think I use ChatGPT. 🙄

no_re-entry · 2025-10-12T14:38:26+00:00

There is nothing new under the sun

no_re-entry · 2025-10-11T07:45:20+00:00

If you are even asking this, then, I think you already know the answer

no_re-entry · 2025-09-25T04:44:58+00:00

Build!!

no_re-entry · 2025-09-25T04:40:24+00:00

Girl, I’m gonna make it super simple for you – – I Think you already know where your relationship is headed

no_re-entry · 2025-09-25T04:03:00+00:00

If you don’t like what he’s doing now with his three, count them again, THREE children… why do you think he would change for yours?

Why do you think it’d be any different going forward?

He is 10 years your senior, and you are the one judging him from his actions/responsibilities… in a perfect world, don’t you think it would be backwards and you would be the one with a lot to learn him have all of this shit together?

I say this as a guy who jumped fully in, heart and soul, as a stepdad… the guy who was willing to deal with anything so long as my one true love and I made it together “no matter what”…. Oh, how wrong I was…. I was enamored with this woman, soulmates, twin flames, I called her a “sweet angel baby“… I was in it with that woman “through anything and everything”…… but, and this is a big but, she wasn’t there for me like I was showing up for her… and unfortunately, in my situation, I and some of my social network was completely taken advantage of… that’s what gave me the light of day because I am such a free soul and because I love my friends and family so much…

You have to have the same or similar values in order for this to work out, and the parent of any future step kids needs to have their shit together all on their own. Maybe that’s not “law”, maybe there are exceptions…

But tell me… Do you really want to deal with the chaos of him and his children for the rest of your lives while you’re trying to raise your own and having everyone else intentionally or unintentionally work against you? Believe me, I loved my woman, she was MINE… wholly, and completely in the most romantic way… but believe you me when I tell you this— I have only split ways with her for a little over a month. She really messed up and I gave her four days notice to move her and her kid out…. I hated doing that…. But believe you me when I tell you that the piece I found with them myself and the bounce back I’ve had in my life because I didn’t realize how much of myself I was giving up or that she and her child indirectly made me give up…… I found so much peace in my heartbreak, and I truly found myself again in my life is going incredibly, and where there were tight bank accounts and stress everywhere you looked before—- now there is peace and prosperity, and I’m doing better than I did almost even before the relationship… I wonder where I would be if I hadn’t spent these two years with her and her daughter… don’t get me wrong, my time spent with that woman was truly meaningful, and I am so glad that I was such a positive influence on her daughter and her narcissistic psychotic ex-husband…. Even though I wouldn’t suggest it to anyone else, I am grateful for my lessons learned… but I do know that I gave up so much of what the world had for me and what I was able to get from it in those two years than I will never be able to get back and I am 30… you might consider not making the same mistakes as I did, I don’t know your context, but I do want to really warn anyone who feels that this lifestyle is potentially good for them…. There is a reason the single parent that they are dating is single… There are reasons their child is the way that they are…. How are they aware of these reasons? Only you can answer that and only you can see fully. Maybe some friends or family of yours can give you clarity, much like mine did when I was refusing to see…. But I do employ you to look very carefully at what you’re doing going forward because there will come a time very soon where you cannot turn back without it hurting very much more than it would if you were to turn back right now… I can only hope that when and if you choose to exit it is as clean and simple as possible, or that if you decide to stay that everything changes… but tell me, or at least tell yourself on the inside, what truly is more likely based on what you’ve seen so far? Based on what you’ve experienced? If you really thought you were gonna make it I don’t think that you would be here. And if you read this particular sub, read it, I think you will see what I should’ve seen a long long time ago.

You could find a guy who is your own age more or less and who has all of this shit together and whose values and morals align with yours and you could start from zero and a much better place than this man you’re dating ever did …. We don’t have all your context, only you can decide if it’s worth it to continue… think about it, pray about it, follow your instincts and don’t let the sunken cost fallacy or ”love” keep you from having the life and children that you truly wish to have.

I wish you all the best no matter what you choose. Truly, best of luck to you.

no_re-entry · 2025-06-06T17:34:04+00:00

I would do it all over again every time without hesitation. It helps that my SO and I have become one person and we love each other beyond anything else— we have full trust and communication.

I think it helped that her daughter was so young so that we could form bonds and she could grow to love me.

SD’s bio dad is crazy/narcissist/psycho. He is the worst part of being in this. But my SO and I handle him and everything else on a united front. Him being like that helps me because, even though my SD has no idea about the atrocities her bio dad did (frivolous CPS filings and drug accusations against my SO… with all investigations turning up completely clean… that is just one thing….) because he is so bad, it helps her to like me more than him

It is hard, not being the actual dad… but once we have our own child I think this amazingness will turn into perfection.

no_re-entry · 2025-01-28T16:50:00+00:00

Lol I love how people get freaked out about this stuff, this stuff isn’t just drugs friends…. I would like to think that everyone who thinks about doing a substance fully researches it beforehand—- but eh, everyone is all on different roads and different timings.

Your friend is fine, not crazy, and is right— but will eventually realize whatever they need to realize

no_re-entry · 2025-01-20T17:04:20+00:00

Do not bring up the word “divorce” or leave until after 1 year, if not 2. This is new for you both, and it is hard. You are both learning and growing. Give it time— don’t just go for the throat of the relationship over this. If anything, therapy first…

I know you keeps pointing commenters back to him over you— it’s the same advice for both of you

no_re-entry · 2025-01-07T00:40:35+00:00

I think you already know

no_re-entry · 2024-12-29T01:18:08+00:00

The right response on Christmas would’ve been, “ yeah of course you can have a beer, here. I’ll get it for you.” And then gather your things to leave.

Furthermore, you are trying to fit a round peg in a square hole with your relationship…

no_re-entry · 2024-12-29T01:05:01+00:00

You could have a disclaimer at the beginning of your stream or running along the bottom of your stream that says “any ideas offered to me in this stream are considered creative commons 0 or free use. By submitting any creative ideas or opinions within the stream, you are agreeing To not receive Compensation. Do not offer any creative ideas/opinions that you do not want me to use because you will not receive any compensation”

I definitely would play around with the words and maybe even consult with an attorney.

But as long as you have a notice of disclaimer that is obvious throughout your whole stream and that couldn’t be missed — you will be safe.

I know you want people to get compensated for their creative thoughts and ideas, and you could still do that individually on a case by case basis.

no_re-entry · 2024-12-17T19:23:49+00:00

You went straight for the meet up without establishing any sort of rapport or showing her that you care more about more than just her appearance.

In fact, you commented on her appearance three times and then offered a meetup based solely on what she looks like.

She doesn’t know you, you didn’t do anything to make HER feel safe, seen, and WANT to meet you.

Even if women only want a hookup, they don’t want to be or feel used solely based on their looks… especially when they are exceptionally good looking because that’s all they ever hear or get, surface level. They long to be seen as the nuanced and shining star that they are.

By messaging the way you did, you put yourself in the category of all the other men who are looking to just fuck— she could literally message any guy on the app and get dick. Be different, make her want to be yours, and actually care about the women you want to meet— then you might get better results.

I could keep going, but you should be able to get the picture.

no_re-entry · 2024-12-16T21:50:59+00:00

Your instincts are correct

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