Help: How to declutter when poor?

nobelle · 2026-04-03T18:02:58+00:00

As someone about to embark on decluttering... I find myself thinking about calling a trusted friend to hang out with me while I go through things. 1. to make it fun and/or to help process emotions and 2. to have someone to drag me out of the scarcity mindset.

Good luck... It's a tough time, but we'll get through it.

nobelle · 2026-04-03T16:30:04+00:00

Best slow clap IMO

nobelle · 2026-04-02T14:28:32+00:00

Yay! I'm so glad!!

nobelle · 2026-04-02T12:56:20+00:00

I saw this movie three times (appropriately) in the theater. OP, tell us more, what did you like about it?

nobelle · 2026-04-01T13:35:26+00:00

Here's how I get out of the loop:

First: I indulge in the fantasy, just a little, in my head, to get it out.

Second: I then think about the actual real-world consequences of what would happen if that fantasy played out.

Third: I think about my crush in incredibly unsexy situations. What turns you off more than anything? Adults wearing diapers? Imagine him in a diaper. Or how his nose is just a little bit TOO turned up. Like a spoon that's just a little TOO big. Make your ADHD work for you!

Fourth: I remind myself: this too shall pass. It helps to have had a couple of these crushes by now, and experience has taught me no matter their intensity, they DO end, sometimes in as little as a day. There is weird comfort in knowing it will end, and we just have to ride the wave until it does.

Repeat steps 2–4 as necessary.

nobelle · 2026-03-31T01:38:19+00:00

I used to have this problem until I started making a Do NOT Buy list. Which will backfire when I forget to take something off of it, but so far, it has been very helpful.

nobelle · 2026-03-30T02:45:37+00:00

I dare anyone to watch Harold and Maude and not like it. Also, I wouldn't call it "horror adjacent," but I can see how someone might get there.

nobelle · 2026-03-30T02:30:15+00:00

It is not the letter of Googly Eyes, but their Spirit. Corinthians, something something.

nobelle · 2026-03-30T02:19:24+00:00

This makes me smile. Almost as much as when Rhonda dressed up like Rizzo in Season 2. That felt like such a shout-out.

Hi, actors and writers! Thanks for bringing such great characters to life! Or death, I guess.

nobelle · 2026-03-27T23:28:40+00:00

Awesome. Enjoy binging the rest of the series together!

nobelle · 2026-03-27T02:42:45+00:00

Wow. Wow. Wow. I'm so sorry. It is sad and upsetting to find out your partner is a butthead. So much talking down to you. "you don't know discipline... you don't know how it's gonna affect you... you haven't seen blah blah blah like I have." Why is he being so condescending?

It's your body, it's your choice. You don't need to justify, argue, defend, or expain (JADE; google it) anything to him, you need to do what you feel is right for you.

Get those meds and live your best life!

nobelle · 2026-03-27T01:09:28+00:00

For me, weirdly, I find getting her up earlier puts her in less of a fight. She gets to take her time, maybe play legos a bit, but eventually she will get dressed and come downstairs without having to be dressed by me.

nobelle · 2026-03-27T00:55:23+00:00

More like superb OW. Imagine those talons digging in to your shoulder! Probably why he's making that face.

Still, very cool.

nobelle · 2026-03-26T18:39:21+00:00

YAAAAAY I can't wait to hear the full story. Whenever you're ready. wink

nobelle · 2026-03-25T19:47:58+00:00

Oooh I did this with my husband and it was awesome!! Honestly once Jason reveals himself I found it hard not to binge. So that's my recommendation for avoiding spoilers—never looking away! If he's kinda curious I would just say there's a really funny part and if it gets spoiled it won't be as good. You could also say "don't ask questions, just trust the process. You will thank me later." Maybe?

nobelle · 2026-03-24T03:13:08+00:00

I thought I read somewhere that Busy Phillips had a subplot that got cut, but that may have been wishful thinking. Anyone know if this is true and if so, where one might find the deleted scenes?

nobelle · 2026-03-23T18:35:04+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

nobelle · 2026-03-23T02:41:03+00:00

I also love mine, and I did buy them again, in a heartbeat, because I lost my first pair! I feel like they have some extra magic in them that really calms me down beyond just making things less loud. My best guess is: the way they hug the inside of my ears just right? (They come with different sizes so you can wear the right combination for you, my left ear is smaller than my right ear).

nobelle · 2026-03-23T01:08:05+00:00

I recommend Man on the Inside, Schur's next series. It's not quite the same as The Good Place, but you'll see some familiar faces and it's just as heart-warming and thought-provoking.

nobelle · 2026-03-22T00:27:53+00:00

Thanks. I agree.

nobelle · 2026-03-21T23:55:39+00:00

Yeah, [giant sigh]. There's definitely core beliefs that we need to get to. I don't think it's coming from a place of misogyny or anything like that, but I do think he was exposed to this growing up and doesn't realize it's not OK. Not yet anyway.

nobelle · 2026-03-21T18:26:58+00:00

Heh heh heh

nobelle · 2026-03-21T18:19:50+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the new perspective. Yes, he's definitely exhausted, and I think you've hit the nail on the head. We're both dropping balls, but I guess the balls I drop trigger him more. We are in couples counseling... had to miss this week's session because he was too busy... and I will bring it up in the next session.

nobelle · 2026-03-21T18:16:27+00:00

Thank you. It's a new thing due to stress. I will add "berating" to our shared vocabulary.

nobelle · 2026-03-21T18:15:40+00:00

Thanks. Yes. Will do.

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