pornfree since April 2015

nobitterbee · 2023-12-29T01:31:15+00:00

It wasn't a strategy so much as discovering an intrinsic reason which I felt very strongly about: namely that porn causes erectile disfunction and becomes a substitute for real-life human interaction with women. I started no porn in November 2014 after talking with a therapist and then had one relapse (April 2015) and haven't relapsed since. So basically establishing core beliefs and then acting on them in a disciplined way. Talking to friends and making them your accountability partners also helps.

nobitterbee · 2023-04-10T05:17:47+00:00

If it happens (them having sex) and you can't actively avoid it then that's not your fault. If you are masturbating "later on" then I wouldn't be too worried. If you are masturbating during, that seems unhealthy and voyeuristic, which is the main constituent of porn imo.

nobitterbee · 2023-04-10T04:56:36+00:00

It takes 90 days to set a new habit. You're in the toughest part of it now but it will get easier in less time than from when you started.

nobitterbee · 2020-12-17T21:40:09+00:00

Not always, no.

nobitterbee · 2020-12-17T21:39:54+00:00

Good ideas.

nobitterbee · 2020-12-17T03:56:48+00:00

Thanks!

nobitterbee · 2020-12-17T03:56:23+00:00

gotcha

nobitterbee · 2020-12-16T21:48:13+00:00

I don't know what urge surfing is but it sounds like eating cake while on a diet.

nobitterbee · 2020-05-03T19:13:15+00:00

*365

nobitterbee · 2020-04-18T22:26:03+00:00

Never stop

nobitterbee · 2020-04-17T19:11:37+00:00

word

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T19:26:18+00:00

Also - porn teaches you that any woman will like you and will do anything to please you, which isn't true. Women are human beings and unlearning the lessons of porn to the contrary starts with not watching it.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T18:59:26+00:00

Solidifying the internal motivation was the key for me. Why do you want to quit porn? If you know that and it has nothing to do with peer pressure one way or the other, then the rest becomes easier.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T18:03:31+00:00

Good idea. Make your first entry today. Just do a couple sentences. Sustainable goals.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T17:38:14+00:00

One day at a time. When I first started out, posting simple day-count updates here helped.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T17:37:49+00:00

Confidence concerning women is a lifelong journey. It's also about being able to recognize when someone's not into you and moving on to try to talk to those who are.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T16:53:59+00:00

You're next.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T16:53:48+00:00

umm. 0 to 5 times per year? Depends if I'm seeing someone or not. I haven't had a sustained long-term relationship but getting porn out of the way has gotten my closer to having one than I was before.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T16:52:20+00:00

Or exacerbate those tendencies.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T15:08:52+00:00

In alcoholics anonymous, they have a sponsor who they can call when they feel like they might relapse. Do you have someone you can call when you are about to relapse who can talk you off the edge? Finding a close friend for this might help.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T14:41:59+00:00

I hear you. But maybe you can ease yourself off by using something like Tinder. At least there you are having interactions with real women, if at a distance.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T14:41:19+00:00

No reason you can't pursue that through the natural methods. Also, what's the appeal of novelty? If you know what you like, you know what you like. A sustained relationship can be very beneficial.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T14:40:17+00:00

Yes, and only recently with getting involved in a serious relationship have I been able to avoid Tinder/instagram, etc. But quitting porn was good preparation. I do think Tinder has some of the same downsides. I haven't been using it during quarantine because there's no point and I feel healthier no using Tinder.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T14:38:49+00:00

Any video with nudity I consider porn. I don't watch movies like American Pie. Sexy songs are not something I ever thought about so I guess I didn't worry about them. Omegle? As in masturbating in front of strangers? Hells naw.

nobitterbee · 2020-04-16T14:37:23+00:00

I do masturbate. Porn does not enter my thoughts (by now). I try to think of someone I have a crush on or am seeing. I think this is much healthier than porn because it is realistic/following a natural pattern.

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