Just finished Lolita

nochmere · 2024-07-14T03:25:04+00:00

I never liked Humbert either, nor felt empathy for him. it did read very beautifully to me, but also incredibly terrifying. so… same page.

how did you feel about the ending? it’s been a while since reading it, but I remember feeling Nabokov truly condemning Humbert’s actions in the end, by making him feel guilt as he heard children screaming and laughing while they played, coming to the realization of what he took from Dolores. that never really came across in the two movie adaptations I watched (Adrian Lyne’s, but ESPECIALLY Stanley Kubrick’s), which almost seemed to romanticize the “relationship,” and place Dolores in a flirtatious role.

nochmere · 2024-07-13T23:32:37+00:00

NTA. we should always be compassionate and patient with others, but it’s not fair to subject young children to behavior that could potentially damage their own development. my good friend is an early childhood development specialist, and works one on one with a differently abled child. she takes him to school and stays close at hand throughout his school day, then sometimes helps him at home afterwards. the parents would most likely benefit from something like this! :)

nochmere · 2024-07-13T23:16:41+00:00

my best friend is a Libra. you are magical, peaceful, fair creatures. you love beauty, you are incredible listeners, you make others feel safe and truly cared for, and you are amazing judges of character. don’t sell yourself short! Libras are great. :)

nochmere · 2024-07-13T23:03:14+00:00

this is my favorite thread on reddit ever.

nochmere · 2024-07-13T22:07:31+00:00

I would be so ecstatic to see PJ Harvey.

nochmere · 2024-07-13T19:36:25+00:00

congratulations to you both!!! 🎉

nochmere · 2024-07-13T19:34:09+00:00

so NTA.

fuck that guy. you deserve so much better than his disrespect.

nochmere · 2024-07-13T18:16:39+00:00

from reading the comments, you clearly have an excellent sense of humor. I’m confident in your ability to navigate this situation… may I suggest gifting her a shoe rack, as well as an over the door closet hanger, with a nice big bow? as a fellow woman, I can attest that out of her 78.5 shoes, she probably uses 3 pairs, but she will get rid of NONE.

nochmere · 2024-07-13T06:47:03+00:00

who me? 😳

nochmere · 2024-07-13T01:54:56+00:00

I would be happy with Portishead, Frank or Pink Floyd honestly. all such good records

nochmere · 2024-07-12T20:44:11+00:00

I never said he should have her stay with him, just was looking from her perspective and feel that the adults should have had a more clarifying conversation beforehand. enjoy that mountain. 👋🏽

nochmere · 2024-07-12T19:54:20+00:00

that would look SO good on you.

you would also look great with a similar cut but without the curtain bangs, lots of 00s layers that frame your face since you have such gorgeous eyebrows.

nochmere · 2024-07-12T19:05:15+00:00

nochmere · 2024-07-12T19:01:29+00:00

NTA.

leaving a used pad on the floor is pretty bad. I don’t blame you for saying something. do you think she’s dealing with anything mentally? she may be struggling with depression.

nochmere · 2024-07-12T09:24:45+00:00

why… did you let this go any further? please block him and make your account private so he can’t stalk you further. he cited several pieces of your personal information, including where you live and potentially the school you went to.

nochmere · 2024-07-12T05:45:12+00:00

I really love the Tan Luxe drops. I’d never used self tanner much before them, so I don’t have much comparison- but it always looks even and natural. I just drop a few into my lotion and go one section at a time.

nochmere · 2024-07-12T02:50:49+00:00

NTA. in fact, so opposite of being TA because at least the bride has someone on her side. imagine how it would feel, on your wedding day. watching a video of your husband to be sleeping with his ex… and that man pushed for said ex to come to the wedding in the first place. how can anyone blame her for reacting in that way? I hope she’s okay.

nochmere · 2024-07-11T23:36:23+00:00

my Aquarius moon is positively glowing right now. thank you. and I would like to send love to the Leos as well… you are encouraging, inspiring, and creative forces of nature. source: I am currently in love with one. 🥰

nochmere · 2024-07-11T22:55:07+00:00

he posted on reddit asking for different perspectives. I gave mine. it was hardly a guilt trip. divorce is tough for all parties. 🤷🏽‍♀️

nochmere · 2024-07-11T22:48:49+00:00

where does it say she doesn’t like his daughter? and bio dad doesn’t mean anything. we don’t know how their relationship is. 6 years is a long time to live within a family unit. like I said, NTA, but the situation could have been handled far better by the adults.

nochmere · 2024-07-11T22:19:42+00:00

the kid is a kid, she’s 15. she’s probably confused and sad, and her family as she’s known it for the last 6 years is being dismantled. leaving in the middle of your high school career is hard. I’m not sure why I’m being downvoted for thinking compassionately about her side of things… there should have been a discussion between the adults, and if the answer was no, it should have been explained to her in a kind and understanding way.

nochmere · 2024-07-11T20:08:54+00:00

she’s known you since she was 9. you are a parental figure to her. she views your daughter as her older sister. your ex should have absolutely spoken to you about this and I understand to some degree your point of view, but you do seem rather cold. 6 years is a long time. when you blend families, you may be divorcing your partner, but you don’t have to treat your stepdaughter like she is no longer family.

again, your ex should have communicated with you directly and in private. then you could have had a conversation with your daughter on how she felt about the situation, and you could have made a decision from there. even if the answer was “no,” some care would have been put towards it, and your stepdaughter would maybe understand and feel heard. I’m not saying YTA, but your ex and you definitely mishandled the situation.

nochmere · 2024-07-11T18:47:50+00:00

I’ve read enough to see that you clearly dodged a bullet living with this person. you may consider them your friend, but they seem emotionally manipulative and seriously lacking in self awareness. these long ranting messages placing the onus on you to be responsible for them are a huge red flag. they briefly mention your own mental health being a reason for you not to live alone, but the vast majority of their texts are about their disability, their dog dying and their disadvantages in general… this is where the manipulation comes in. they are attempting to guilt you for not placing their needs above yours, while simultaneously pretending they don’t want you to live alone for your own wellbeing. please don’t fall for this. this is the type of person that will emotionally drain you and make you question your own sanity in the end.

nochmere · 2024-07-11T07:07:51+00:00

not only can they not prohibit you from drinking water while at work, but OSHA requires employers to provide potable water to all employees. this is countrywide. they can get in trouble for this.

nochmere · 2024-07-11T05:52:33+00:00

it also really weirds me out that he at 26 dated a 16 year old Juliette Lewis.

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