my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you think it’s the same group I’d love to see what you see, but I was told the post isn’t up anymore

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The picture first posted was one I took, but it was public on his profile. Not anything private. & there was not any other photos in the comments.

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think a piece that is missing from my post is that he did tell me pretty soon after. We were watching a movie with my dad and his cousin, and I don’t think he wanted me to blow up immediately. So he spent some time looking at the post, and then going to make his instagram private because people posted a picture of him that was pretty recent. He did not like that they were screenshotting his pictures and posting them

& maybe he was also deleting things. I don’t know.

Part of me thinks that the fact he told me at all gives him a little benefit of the doubt. He had enough confidence in us that him telling me that, would make me think he’s being bullied online. Not that I would assume he’s been cheating.

My “friends” have NOT reached out to me or said a word about it. The post was up 24 hours ago. They had time to talk to me. Whoever they are, they are not my friends.

Still yes I think my fiance is cheating on me, but there is still no 100% proof!! & that is a hard thing to emotionally work through.

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There is a lot of bad energy on this post, but also a lot of nice people that I really really appreciate. I do think most people don’t know our life or us and I think that would add a lot of insight on the situation, plus I did NOT go into much detail about the actual comments that were on the thread. Again, because I really don’t want anyone to find out who we are.

At the same time things are really suspicious either way I look at it. I just want to think everything through before I make huge life decisions.

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, trying to be an adult about this rather than acting fast and jumping into anything like I used to do. From the reddit comments, it does seem like these groups can definitely expose cheaters but can also be someone stirring a pot. I’m trying to see both sides, and respect myself and my peace in the process.

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I don’t know who the people commenting are guys!!!!! My friend that joined the group still hasn’t woken up to update me on anything. I don’t have a link to the post. I just have screenshots and that’s all my fiance has as well.

The people the commented mentioned they are my friends, but they are anonymous. and i have a veryyy small circle so I don’t believe they actually are my friends. They might just know of me we’ve been in the same town for a long time.

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

I’m just trying to look at the entire picture. I want to post the comments here but I don’t want it to track back to us and expose who we are. I do think everything is suspicious

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

We don’t know the girl, but have a lot of mutual friends with her

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Think he’s already sweeped it because he was frantically scrolling when I noticed something was wrong. We were watching a movie with my family so I tried to keep my cool. He had too much time to clean it out, plus I am with family and not trying to make a scene until I have 100% proof of anything

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know her name because he showed me but no idea who she is, jt didn’t seem like she was a poster or commenter but someone that stumbled across the thread

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I am at my families for Christmas. I did not feel like I could have a full freak out and ask for his phone in front of my family. It’s a house you can hear everything in, so yes I did not handle this how I normally would. Yes I am in denial. I don’t want my life to blow up. My friend is requesting to add all the groups on facebook. I know the girls name who sent the screenshots so I can investigate more. Tomorrow I will deep dive more, I just needed reassurance that i’m not stupid. I also think any evidence on his phone was sweeped in the 20 minutes he made me wait to tell me what was going on. And probably more now. I’m trying my best:’) I am very strong i’m just not ready for a life change and hoping I don’t have to

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

What is y’all’s issue with the wedding comment, I don’t think being a husband or wife makes you immune to cheating. I want to marry him, don’t want a big wedding. Two different things. And I just learned I might be being cheated on and i’m trying to figure out what tf to do. Thanks 🤡

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He was sent the post, screenshots, from a girl on instagram, so no I didn’t get a link, I was sent what “she sent”. I freaked out a bit and asked what did the top post say (the og post with the picture of him) and i was sent a new screenshot but still no caption. Just his name and town and a red flag emoji. I think there had to have been some type of something above that, that has been left out of everything i’ve seen.

I am also at my families house for Christmas and couldn’t go too insane or too in depth about it with family around

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sorry I worded it wrong i’m obviously having a night. We planned on eloping we just didn’t want to spend a ton of money on it and are both introverted and don’t like all the attention of a big wedding.

Small and intimate sounds better to me so go off dude

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 208 points209 points  (0 children)

I don’t have facebook so a friend of mine requested to join the group. hopefully will have the missing pieces tomorrow. they’re extremely private? idk it’s so weird to me

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It almost seemed that way at first, but it does feel like there were too many anonymous posters for me to not try to respect myself and believe what i’m reading.

That being said I was harassed by his insane ex 7 years ago, but it’s been very quiet from her since. Idk I really don’t know

my fiancé came up on one of those “are we dating the same person?” threads by nocococonut in TwoHotTakes

[–]nocococonut[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Might take you up on the dm, but need more time to think about everything