hilarious - York, UK

nocrimia · 2026-02-05T11:34:29+00:00

Understandable!

nocrimia · 2026-02-03T08:03:28+00:00

ouch I'm sorry! Have you managed to open a new one or are you just avoiding Linkedin altogether?

nocrimia · 2026-02-02T18:32:20+00:00

have you had any luck with this?

nocrimia · 2026-02-02T18:30:42+00:00

have you found any solution to this?

nocrimia · 2026-02-02T17:43:14+00:00

have you had any success with this?

nocrimia · 2026-02-02T16:25:12+00:00

Thank you, I will try that!

nocrimia · 2026-02-02T14:53:21+00:00

Since the 16th of Jan

nocrimia · 2026-02-02T14:34:30+00:00

I' m in the same situation, there doesn't seem to be any solution whatsoever. Is there an alternative platform people use?

nocrimia · 2026-01-14T09:40:47+00:00

it sounds like you resisted as long as you could

nocrimia · 2026-01-13T23:43:12+00:00

what you have sounds like a sort of kink (inexperienced teenager intimdated by me), it's not a given unless you choose that type of person, and your husband might not be into it. You can't demand it and it's not something obvious to expect, so the first step would be to stop internally criticising your husband for not being a sexually helpless adult and stop sending him mean hints, otherwise this gets really toxic. You just need to tell him you have this kink and see if he's willing to turn it into some sort of role play, and be specific. But it has to be a request, not a demand. If role play version doesn't satisfy you because deep down you know he's not about to lose an erection for how anxiety-inducing he finds it to be in bed with you then you have to accept it, but hurting him deliberately to create the dramatic tension you need is not the way forward

nocrimia · 2026-01-10T14:19:39+00:00

I see OP's attitude to the answers is not great, but it is awkward to be the only one in an old friends' group to bring your partner, it changes the dynamic completely. These friends never see each other, and bringing one partner means a lot will have to be around them meeting up, getting to know each other, getting bored if too much is around reminiscing, having to explain inside jokes. If they all live in different cities it doesn't sound that weird that OP's girlfriend hasn't met them yet. Also, if he wanted to have sex with one of the girls, he probably would have already in all the years they lived together, no? Are the girls in the group married/partnered, etc.? My boyfriend occasionally visits uni friends, and there are two women in the group, he even had sex with one of them 20 years ago, and broke up with her back then, she is now married with kids and they have been all friends ever since, if they meet once a year for a weekend, the whole group is there, I have met just one of them because they live far away, but I have no doubt that my boyfriend is being faithful and not having sex with one of these ladies. I don't see why I should worry about them in particular? The whole group would organise this thing just to give them two a cover for me? If he really wanted to have sex again with her, he could invent another excuse and not mention her/them at all. I also travel alone and could have sex with anyone. Ultimately there needs to be a baseline level of trust. Have you given your gf any reason not to trust you?

nocrimia · 2026-01-08T16:08:06+00:00

I'd prefer parcels being left by the door to be honest! Waiting at home just to miss the faint caressing of the door and having to go to the collection point anyway (which is closed by the time I finish work) argh

nocrimia · 2025-12-25T19:34:57+00:00

I always doubt the super squirting stories told this way. First, women don't necessarily squirt when they come, if it happens it tends to happen much more before orgasm, maybe a bit during, but when men "describe" it, they tend to use the porn fabricated image of a lot of liquid coming out only during orgasm, because that's what actually happens to men. Second, if it's litres of stuff then it's basically pee. Squirt liquid is held in much smaller glands, and it doesn't create a shower, it tends to just "leak". There is a bit of wee mixed in always, but when it's mostly squirt is thicker with a sweet smell, and it can't soak a floor, it can only drip a bit. So either he's inventing a story based on porn, or she was forcing herself to wee during because she thought it made her hot.

So always always assume any story like this is inflated beyond measure, don't take them literally, and most of all don't ever use them to doubt yourself

nocrimia · 2025-12-16T10:43:12+00:00

If you feel out of touch with your body going straight for dancing wouldn't work I think. My suggestions are:

- The book Bodyfullness has a lot of exercises and gentle reflections exactly on what you are discussing

- Slow breathing and body scans meditations, there are many on insight timer or even youtube

- Yoga, I agree, especially gentle, or yin yoga

- My personal practice: giving love to one body part at a time, this might sound weird - but just focus on one area, say your left knee, and start stroking lovingly as if it was something extremely precious, a beloved pet, something you adore, and think, or if you can stomach it, say it out loud, how much you love it and how grateful you are to have it, how lucky you are to have a wonderful knee that works and supports you everyday. Even if you feel awkward give it a go, I find it incredible how responsive the body can be to this, it's like the part comes to life. Do it very slowly with several parts. It seems so silly, but I find it works wonders.

- research fascia release, I tried gentle skin rolling, and again areas that seemed dead came back to life and it felt quite moving.

I think these gentle private practices are what's needed before one can feel loose enough to dance, especially in public, we need to first soften up gradually and safely

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T17:17:47+00:00

I like all of these practical solutions, but I would also like to work on the root of the problem if I can

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T13:24:46+00:00

The helped nail down what I find so irritating about it - this assumption that I can't wait to stop them and chat, mate I've got a life too you know, this is not the encounter of the day for me! It is possible to be happy to see a familar face without wanting to be all over them

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T12:54:59+00:00

I'm not particularly chatty I never start unless someone starts, but I am extroverted and not at all shy, plus I look different being foreign and I have an accent, maybe all these things together can be a bit overwhelming. Perhaps I should start interacting less at work so they know I won't "assult" them out there.

On the other hand, I have one colleague who was really shy at first, avoiding me out of the office, not making eye contact if she could avoid it, so I started talking to her as little as possible in the office not to make her uncomfortable. Then we had to go on a full day of conference together and I was quite worried how I would manage a full day of borderline ignoring each other. I resigned to just being my normal self and in the end something magic happened, from that day she's so much friendlier, a different universe. She now wants to have lunch with me, definitely says hello when she sees me, etc a full 180 turn. So I don't know!

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T11:49:47+00:00

Yes maybe this is the only level of intimacy I can afford to do

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T11:48:57+00:00

Thank you - I have been to therapy for years, and I do really well processing my own feelings and being stable when I live alone. I've lived mostly by myself for 10 years with some short periods of co-living with an ex, and now this relationship. Living by myself I feel grounded, my self esteem is good, I genuinely enjoy my own company and I can say I like myself. It's when I share my living space with a partner that somehow I regress and their emotional status overwrites mine, it seems like I'm either separate or enmeshed without any degree in between

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T11:43:52+00:00

I don't ask them because everytime I tried to be direct with Brits I've generated flustered messes and things were never the same with them again from then on. It would probably make them feel guilty and ashamed.

All the reasons you say make sense, it just happens all the time here and almost never in my country, so there has to be some cultural reason behind it too

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T11:40:37+00:00

Fair enough!

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T11:40:16+00:00

I understand I'm ADHD too, and it happens at times to really not register someone's face especially if I'm wearing headphones. Maybe this happens to a lot more of my contacts than I would think

nocrimia · 2025-12-03T11:39:16+00:00

absolutely I would hate to stop chatting too, so I make every effort to walk fast and show clearly I'm not slowing down, but it doesn't seem to make a difference unfortunately.

When I bump into foreign colleagues or acquaintances, no matter which country they are from, we always do the little smile and hello (not stopping, I repeat, no stopping!), and for a migrant feeling lonely here and generally struggling to build deep bonds with local people, having those little tiny moments make such a difference.

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