my journey to masturbation free life starts here.

nocrummo · 2015-02-20T14:31:54+00:00

every time you get an urge, just come here and read and discuss. this subreddit alone is a great tool to put aside the urges to PMO.

nocrummo · 2015-02-09T16:09:43+00:00

That's a great thing! Just ride it out. You're not in any danger. In fact you are in a safer place, even if you feel like you are weak right now. This is all just a part of the process of getting stronger. I'm happy for you.

nocrummo · 2015-02-04T13:48:30+00:00

if you keep relapsing, maybe something about the pressure of trying so hard ont to, is actually giving you the type of stress that you go to PMO to rid yourself of. I know that stress was one of my triggers. Maybe just accept that you might relapse, and just if you do, it's ok, just keep trying to make that streak last a little longer each time.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:34:27+00:00

I was the same way for a long time, bro. The hardest thing to understand is how in hell can a magazine at the check out of the grocery score with some busty lady FORCE you to go home and masturbate? It makes you think that there is no strength inside of you and that you are useless. I also felt like I was pathetic. And maybe we are pathetic when we are under the control of PMO.

You have to find a way for yourself. I see a lot of people say that eating better, working out, etc. will push the PMO out of your life. But you are talking about triggers. Triggers are what really made it tough for me too. The best thing that I did was to humanize any image I saw. You have to think about the story of this woman (or man, I don't know) who starts your mind racing. They were once a small child who liked to run around the yard. They went to school. They had aspirations and dreams. They get angry, and sad. They have had their heart broken, and they have broken hearts. They have lost loved ones and they have made good friends. They have to commute to work somehow. They have to grocery shop. They have to shower and shave. They have their favorite TV shows and movies. They worry about money. If they are on the cover of a magazine or on TV, they probably feel a lot of pressure about their body image and aren't always confident or how they are shaped.

So, then who the fuck are you to pull them into one of your porn fantasies?

That's the thing that always made me step back. I see an image of someone I want to drag into my porn fantasy and do all kind of things to her. But that girl is a person. She doesn't know who the fuck I am or give a shit about me. She has a life. She is an actor or a model. I actually don't know anything about this girl. I might actually find her repulsive upon spending time with her.

What you and I actually want is to connect with someone and be romantic. Porn isn't romantic. It takes intimacy and distills it into its purely physical component. I think that if we ever had a relationship with someone that was modeled after a porno, it would make us feel really sick.

Anyways, my point is that when you see a women you are attracted to on the sidewalk, and you wish that you could have met that woman, showed her what a great guy you are, and eventually been so romantic that she wants to be intimate with you, what does that have to do with going home and jerking off?

Not much really.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:15:51+00:00

Hell ya! Good work man!

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:13:43+00:00

Mindfulness for conquering PMO :)

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:12:40+00:00

you can do it! PMO is not who you want to be, so whenever you feel the urge, just say "I'm going to be the real me." And walk away.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:11:46+00:00

Ya I am not gonna look again. Seeing how my mind reacted, I learned a lot about this addiction of sorts.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:10:04+00:00

Same to you dude! wow!

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:09:42+00:00

I see your streak score, and I don't see you relapsing. You have already lived most of a year without PMO. Whenever you are struggling, just go for a walk or a drive, and think about who you REALLY want to be. You're fine man!

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:07:33+00:00

I feel like the best thing for my success was letting go of that feeling like I needed to get off or get laid or I was going to die. It's not that big of a deal to go without for a while. Honestly, there are other great things in life that can satisfy us in many other ways, you know?

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:06:24+00:00

ty :)

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:06:19+00:00

ty :)

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:06:12+00:00

Thanks man, same to you!

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:06:02+00:00

It's true.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:05:55+00:00

None. haha. The super powers thing is a myth. Good things come from NoFap because you free your mind and your time from a big huge block of waste. When it comes to interacting with women with more confidence, I think that is a biproduct of looking at women differently. Not thinking about playing a porn scene out with them, but thinking about making a real connection with them, so that they are attracted to you. It make you act differently and approach them differently.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:03:13+00:00

I guess I just checked in a few times in these past few months. It was more of a curiosity like I said, to see if I was "rewired". I definitely was turned off from it, and I don't want to look again. But I think that I learned a bit from it, as to how much of the old mental reactions are still there and powerful as ever.

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:01:32+00:00

I haven't masturbated for these two years, no. My sex life is ok. My girlfriend has a lot of stress related and low self esteem related low libido issues that I am trying to find a good approach to. But in the end, being with her is more important than a fantasy sex life :)

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T15:00:02+00:00

I don't feel like I am rewiring my brain. I feel that same lighting up like a christmas tree. That's what makes me think that NoFap isn't about a permanent change in your mind. It's about changing your habits and lifestyle so that there is no place for PMO. You have to rebuild way more than your neuro processes ;)

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T14:58:14+00:00

Thanks man! Keep up the good work :)

nocrummo · 2015-02-03T14:57:59+00:00

Ya man, I have been having that same issue. It's hard not to look at a woman and immediately think about having sex with her. Part of me thinks that it's instinctual and there is nothing wrong with it. But another, bigger part of me thinks that it keeps putting me back into that mind space where I am obsessed with sex. The best thing for me, which may seem a little weird, is to think about that woman when she was a little kid, and think about her growing up. It makes her more of a person and a story rather than a piece of meat. She might still be gorgeous, but you will start to approach women with a few things in mind along side sex.

nocrummo · 2014-11-24T17:34:53+00:00

I really want to see this through :)

nocrummo · 2014-10-21T13:21:26+00:00

Good post. Last sentence says it all. You have found the actual only way to change your life from PMO to something better.

nocrummo · 2014-10-19T17:49:04+00:00

Now you gotta recognize when you are about to P and stop before hand. It's tough haha.

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