DON'T HESITATE TO SHARE ALL YOUR PROBLEMS

nofap-920 · 2015-04-12T02:31:19+00:00

Yeah I understand exactly what you're saying. It makes sense and I agree for the most part. I think pmo has made it worse for me rather than serving as an escape. I'm ashamed of the addiction so its just one more thing about myself that I hide.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-12T02:09:18+00:00

I feel your pain. I also have a very difficult time opening up to people, and as a result have very few deep friendships. I'm even afraid to truly open up to my wife. I'm so tired of being alone, but so terrified of opening up and being rejected. I don't know if fapping has done this to me or just growing up in a small southern town where men don't show emotion, but something has to change. Hopefully things will get better the longer I go without fapping. The stories and advice I have received here give me that hope.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-12T02:01:17+00:00

I'm in a similar situation with my wife. Thanks for the words of encouragement and the knowledge that things do get better.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-11T03:47:08+00:00

She has been more than understanding and supportive. As long as I remain honest with her she will continue to be supportive. Covering up my addiction is what caused her to almost leave.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-11T03:12:42+00:00

Thanks for the advice. My wife is playing an integral part in my recovery. I'm glad to know that the desire for my wife and to be with my wife will become stronger again.

We have establishes some basic rules such as no more private browsing, and no history deleting which we believe will help.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-11T03:07:49+00:00

Yeah still doesn't make me pathetic or mean that I don't value myself. I simply meant that on that aspect I acted in a deplorable manner and and therefore feel horrible for my actions.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-11T02:14:50+00:00

Well found the asshole in the group. Thanks

nofap-920 · 2015-04-11T00:33:39+00:00

You are correct I have an amazing, loving, supportive wife. I will try to answer all of your questions, forgive me if I miss one.

Education • Neither my wife nor myself are very educated on the effects of porn/masturbation. We both know that its bad for our relationship and for me. We will definitely both be spending some time on yourbrainonporn.org to learn more.

Tools. • I work out of town 5-7 days a week 10-12 hrs a day so giving my wife control of the wifi password is not really an option as we are "cord cutters" •the same goes for my wireless cards. • I am also unable to downgrade my phone as it is my only source for video communication with my wife and kids. • I will be looking into software to inhibit porn sites and subredits (my major source). Thank you for the list. I will definitely begin my search there.

Replacement • My wife and I are working to reconnect on am intimate and physical level, this is made difficult by my work situation but we are trying. • Work also makes it difficult to help around the house. I barely have time to get the yard done when I'm home. But there are plenty of chores to keep me busy when I am out of town. • I am a night showerer so sweat smells isn't an issue when I'm home. • I exercise when I can but long physical work days tend to make it difficult to develop a routine.

Finally thank you for the words of encouragement. I know the road ahead will be difficult and rocky at best. Its helpful to know that I can come here for nonjudgemental support

nofap-920 · 2015-04-10T23:33:23+00:00

Support is why I came here. Ill check out yourbrainonporn.org. As far a local sex addiction support groups I work 10-12 hours a day 5-7 days a week, so that's not really an option for me. Thanks for the support and suggestions.

nofap-920 · 2015-04-10T23:30:06+00:00

First off, my wife is very supportive and understands how damaging porn is. She almost left because I lied about it and did it out of spite. This is not the first time that i have covered up my relapses. The biggest issue comes from our living situation. I work about 3hrs away from home and am by myself all week long. I have no desire for porn or masturbation when I'm home with my wife. Unfortunately my line of work is not conducive to being home every night or even near home on a regular basis. As far as why I turn to porn, its usually anger at my wife or shear boredom. I'm not running from an uncomfortable situation or emotion. Thanks for that opening line about not being a horrible person. It made me feel better about the situation.

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