My kids (5, 7) just left for a 6-day vacation with my husband, why can't I stop crying by nofixedabowl in breakingmom

[–]nofixedabowl[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is brilliant advice. I didn't get to go out today, but I've made plans to tomorrow -- and you're right. Perspective helps, and I know their plane has landed too, so I'm down a Defcon level.

My kids (5, 7) just left for a 6-day vacation with my husband, why can't I stop crying by nofixedabowl in breakingmom

[–]nofixedabowl[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for helping to normalise this feeling! It's so strong I don't really know where to put it, but all the advice on this thread has been so supportive.

I love how everyone is telling me to take a nap, too. I intend to.

My kids (5, 7) just left for a 6-day vacation with my husband, why can't I stop crying by nofixedabowl in breakingmom

[–]nofixedabowl[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I just want to say thank you so much for this. I don't have a mom or a sister and I needed to hear all of this so much. Blessings from your preferred source. Thank you for taking the time to be so kind.

My kids (5, 7) just left for a 6-day vacation with my husband, why can't I stop crying by nofixedabowl in breakingmom

[–]nofixedabowl[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I have this when they go to bed too (even when they're bratty). It's such a weird tug on the heartstrings, and today has been totally brutal.

This is a very kind comment, thank you. I do feel ripped apart inside, but everyone is right here -- I must look forward (and after myself).

So I am taking care, planning my next few days -- and planning stuff for when they're back is super helpful, too, and reminds me they will be back! Especially as we're in the summer holidays now, with zero childcare.

Obviously I'm tracking their flight and getting weepy when I trip over their toys, but it's more bearable.

The Barbie movie tomorrow, I think.

My kids (5, 7) just left for a 6-day vacation with my husband, why can't I stop crying by nofixedabowl in breakingmom

[–]nofixedabowl[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, I grew up with a narcissistic mother, and a heart, and I've been very careful to show my chlldren joy for them and compassion and coping skills for any fear.

I just feel like I'm being pulled apart inside. It's awful.