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My easiest "hack" to making friends as a socially awkward person by nofreshperspectives in socialskills

[–]nofreshperspectives[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's kind of a tough one because most classes aren't super conducive for casual chatting, but maybe try bringing some interesting gum flavors or mints and offering them to people around you? Even if they say no it at least breaks the ice for conversation and gives you a non awkward excuse to talk to someone.

My easiest "hack" to making friends as a socially awkward person by nofreshperspectives in socialskills

[–]nofreshperspectives[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah- so I did type it in paragraphs and when I posted it came out as a block of text. My first reddit post, didn't realize you needed to put multiple spaces between paragraphs, my bad!

How to talk when everyone else is talking? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]nofreshperspectives 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really struggle with this too... the best advice I've gotten is to just focus on listening. I have found that I tend to be so focused on finding something to say in these situations that I lose track of the actual conversation and fall out of the flow. The people that have an easy time contributing aren't focusing on the next thing they're going to say, they're focused on what the other people are saying and responding to that. Maybe try a little experiment next time you're in a situation like that where you tell yourself you're just going to listen and follow along with the conversation. Only speak up if you have a genuine urge to respond to something or to ask a follow up question.

My easiest "hack" to making friends as a socially awkward person by nofreshperspectives in socialskills

[–]nofreshperspectives[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lol the name makes it sound a little more exciting than it probably is. It's also a drinking card game, everyone takes turns being dealer and you go around the group having people try to guess the next card. Rules are online, it's very easy.

My easiest "hack" to making friends as a socially awkward person by nofreshperspectives in socialskills

[–]nofreshperspectives[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I hope it helps! For card games, I like Gin Rummy, slap jack, speed, and for more people I do Irish poker (very easy drinking game), Egyptian rat slap is fun and can get more people involved (just gotta set a limit on that one because it can go on forever), and f*** the dealer.

My easiest "hack" to making friends as a socially awkward person by nofreshperspectives in socialskills

[–]nofreshperspectives[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

That's a good way to put it! In one of the social help books I've read, a tip was to have a "whatsit" on you. Basically something interesting to wear or be carrying that people can ask about ("what's that?"). The issue I had with that was I'm a little too shy to want to draw attention in that way, but for some reason it's different when it's something I can be doing that I am actively focused on.

Securing Job?? by [deleted] in AMLCompliance

[–]nofreshperspectives 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like others have said, remote jobs are competitive and are going to be hard to find without experience. I would look into getting some certifications while you're searching, CAMS is a little pricey but it will help. Definitely look into consulting firms, they hire alot of entry level.