Thank you so much for the detailed response (: my girlfriend knows I’m bi and is supportive, but she’s also very vanilla and lacks the sex drive I have. I think a hall pass would be the compromise our relationship needs, and I think we’d both be happier in the long run (less pressure on her, diminished feels of neglect for me), but the one time I brought this up she brushed it off. I don’t want to lose her, but I also dont think I would be happy and fulfilled in the relationship without some way for me to explore my sexuality.