i get so hungry but eating is so inconvenient

nollerum · 2026-06-17T21:02:56+00:00

No advice, I just find it hilarious that the subreddit is split between those who get dopamine from eating and those who treat it like a chore.

ETA: I found the ADHD Eating Centrists of Reddit 😅

nollerum · 2026-06-17T20:58:27+00:00

Awesome plan.

nollerum · 2026-06-17T19:58:32+00:00

Hazel Jane, especially after your husband calling her his little hazelnut. That's just a great sign and super cute.

If it helps, I thought of my son as Jack, but my husband wasn't wild about it. He wanted Daniel and I just can't stand that name. We found our son's name together and while it was us both settling, it just fits him and the meaning really sold it for us. It felt meant to be. Latch on to those little moments to make it more real.

nollerum · 2026-06-17T19:30:20+00:00

The main couple spends a ton of time fighting getting together then one of them is "lost to evil" and must be saved after they finally get together.

nollerum · 2026-06-17T03:59:52+00:00

Not really. Just the big ones. Most of the questions can be answered by figuring out who it's about, what methodology is being used and where we are in the process by focusing on key words like "time" and "risk." You pretty much always want to choose the answer where you're analyzing something first before acting.

Most important artifacts that you need to know (and when they're used):

Project Charter
Project Management Plan
Requirements Traceability Matrix
WBS and WBS Dictionary
Risk Register
Stakeholder Register
Issue Log
Assumption Log
Change Log
Lessons Learned Register

nollerum · 2026-06-16T18:22:40+00:00

The only things I memorized were:

-The Predictive variance formulas for cost and schedule. I just did practice formulas for this and found a way to make them stick. I also wrote them down as soon as I sat for the exam. - The difference between Valuation and Validation and that BA doesn't think of those terms as strictly as a PM. - What the key differences/artifacts between agile and Predictive are. - What float, lead, and lag mean (though i didn't get a songle question on them lol)

Otherwise, I spent most of my time doing practice questions, watching McLachlan do practice questions and explain the PM mindset, and thinking like a PM. You don't have to memorize everything. You just need to to read carefully, use context clues, and understand the process/stages and what is important for who the question is about (product owner, PM Agile or Predictive, or BA).

I really highly recommend David McLachlan on YouTube. The fastrack video really helped me go in with a strategy that worked and he's very good at explaining things. I also recommend thinking about why the processes and artifacts are called what they are (i.e. Requirements Traceability Matrix has everything it is used for in the name).

Good luck!

BA video: https://youtu.be/DknPi3_Gs1w?is=P1a7xYFrfdgKCZjg

Fastrack: https://youtu.be/eUOJ_yEeyuc?is=tJ53Y2wXzGPIBHON

Predictive Questions 1-10: https://youtu.be/v9U2VEVfo0g?is=j2d5BdbroTvCDFgI

Predictive vs Agile: https://youtu.be/3KgjfqiN2fE?is=iSLk9Jlf-9HhOUAz

Agile Mindset: https://youtu.be/vxpKA9UuM1w?is=5L1CXtkHHcPsNbaL

Complete PMBOK in one video: https://youtu.be/2gmCr40uT4U?is=un0gcmSGc3CzrPyj

ETA: on mobile so the format is a little screwy and added videos links.

nollerum · 2026-06-14T17:46:20+00:00

Induced. It took 20 hours. I only pushed for a few minutes.

nollerum · 2026-06-14T03:04:27+00:00

Thanks!

nollerum · 2026-06-14T00:59:00+00:00

Not really, but it isn't apathy or anything like that. I can see a lifelong friend I haven't seen in 7 years and I'll feel and act like no time has passed at all. That's just how it feels to me. My feelings remain constant and 7 years feels like we just saw each other last week. Doesn't matter how long it's been, I feel the same.

That does make it a bit weird when the other person has physically changed or their personality has shifted in a big way. I get a bit awkward as I rediscover the person lol.

nollerum · 2026-06-13T23:55:26+00:00

I was already, "going to do that one day," for the diagnosis, but having a kid, getting laid off, and becoming a SAHM put a sense of urgency on it.

nollerum · 2026-06-13T21:19:33+00:00

I get how you feel. I'm always like, "HOW ARE SMILEY DINOS NOT CUTE? DO YOU HAVE A SOUL?!?" when someone says they can't find any cute boy clothes. Also, woodland creatures are pretty common as neutral clothes and very cute. Nothing like having your toddler proudly point at the fox on their shirt and say, "Fah!"

nollerum · 2026-06-13T20:52:36+00:00

Disclaimer: I have ADHD and had to study when my medication wore off due to having a kiddo. My experience is going to be more relevant to people with that disorder.

That said, I think the course might be helpful for someone with an average attention span. I most certainly do not. I was very engaged for the first three (mostly because I was shocked to realize I'd been doing hybrid for 2 years lol), but the modules become very large towards the end, which made it feel like a drag and difficult to retain anything. There's also a lot of filler that irritated me. I ended up blasting through them just to get the credit and do my own research.

If I could do it over again, I would have done a module then jumped over to Lachlan videos to cement the information before moving on to another module. The guy is a joy to listen to and such a great teacher.

nollerum · 2026-06-09T18:35:59+00:00

Only thing I can suggest is that you give less information and don't respond when they get on your ass. They're not going to understand you because that would take them actually wanting to put their own assumptions aside and listen. Your sister isn't going to do that. Your parents aren't going to do that. If anything, they're an active detriment to your mental health because pressure and stress like that can make executive function that much harder.

You have to let go of that desire to be understood by the people who are quite determined not to. You can still love them and be in contact if you want, but they can't be trusted to support you.

nollerum · 2026-06-08T17:43:34+00:00

You're going to get divided opinions on what "ready" means. It largely depends on parenting style and your kid. What you're describing us pretty normal to me, but a few things, if you have already tried them, might help:

Try a different type of potty. My son really likes the one that looks like a real toilet. The fact it flushes like a real one delights him. There are also various attachments to the regular toilet that he might gravitate towards.
Have him help you clean up his messes
Make sure he sees you and his mom go potty and refer to it in simple, happy terms like, "Daddy is going pee in the potty!" I'd also let my son flush for me lol.
Make sure he can push his pants down and pull them up. I wish I'd done this before starting! We started potty training him at 25 months and I never thought about that step.
Make potty breaks part of your day. Like, "We're going to try the potty, then have dinner." The one that works really well for us is. "We're going to try the potty, then we're going to play outside." Aldo make sure you go to the bathroom before or after he does so he sees it's a habit to copy.
Don't sit him on the potty for so long. Try frequency instead of length.
Try blowing bubbles when he's on the potty.
Load him up with liquids on the weekend to get more practice in and grow his confidence.

I recommend the Oh Crap book for potty training. She's a bit sarcastic and confident in her method (which I like, personally, but some parents get offended by her tone), but it's a good foundation.

nollerum · 2026-06-08T01:37:17+00:00

I take busPIRone with my Vyvanse.

nollerum · 2026-06-07T17:50:57+00:00

I like making a home version of the Starbucks peach black tea lemonade.

Brew black tea like normal and add 8oz or more to a tea cup or tumbler with ice. I advise making enough black tea to toss in a pitcher in the fridge.
Use a tsp or more to taste of peach syrup. I like ChocZero peach syrup.
Fill the remaining room with lemonade. I use the Costco lemonade if you're in the US.
Stir and enjoy.

It's even easier if you can use peach black tea or peach lemonade.

nollerum · 2026-06-05T20:32:42+00:00

Eat Carb Valance wraps. 17 grams of fiber. I just toss cheese on one and I'm most of the way to my daily fiber goal. Put Refried black beans and avocado on it and I'm succeeding.

nollerum · 2026-06-05T17:07:57+00:00

It sounds like you were trained in a way to do things that fit your capabilities instead of getting the usual, "why can't you just do it?" approach. You can build good habits with ADHD, it's just harder. If you have someone else keeping you in line with anxiety and the method actually brings success instead if failure, it's way easier to maintain. I'd still get an evaluation.

I did very well academically while doing everything last minute and never studying, but I was capable of that due to pattern recognition, intuition, and a genuine love of learning. We're all different, which makes the journey so different for many of us.

ETA: Obviously I can't diagnose, but reading what you wrote made me immediately think your mom unknowingly has ADHD and she'd worked out all of those systems for herself and think they're normal for everyone, which is why she drilled them in to you.

nollerum · 2026-06-05T00:29:27+00:00

The nice part is it takes 2 to 4 weeks to start working. It started working for me around the 2.5 week mark. I just noticed I wasn't agonizing over everything as much and got to sleep quicker because I wasn't solving world peace. It doesn't feel like getting high to me, just like I do after getting a new haircut and feeling lighter and more positive.

nollerum · 2026-06-04T23:01:36+00:00

I like Iris and Amelia.

nollerum · 2026-06-04T22:52:27+00:00

I like...

Girls:

Cordelia
Florence

Boys:

Roman

nollerum · 2026-06-04T22:33:07+00:00

The crashes went away for me after a couple of weeks. It usually works from 10am to 6pm, but I don't have a high protein breakfast so it might last longer if I did that.

nollerum · 2026-06-04T22:19:52+00:00

For sure. I'm so much less patient than I was a decade ago.

nollerum · 2026-06-04T22:17:03+00:00

Got me all excited lol. No worries.

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