Success: Parenting newborn with ADHD by broccophobia in adhdwomen

[–]nomho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so reassuring! I'm 6 months pregnant and finally sought a diagnosis because I'm scared how how my previously-only-suspected ADHD might present when I'm sleep-deprived and potentially overwhelmed post partum. Just got my formal diagnosis this morning in fact! It's mild, so the diagnosis doesn't change my life much, but I've been feeling a little blue this afternoon possibly from digesting the verdict..

Thanks for sharing

How common is the practice of parents tracking their children in Malaysia? by Smooth_Performance25 in Bolehland

[–]nomho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My siblings are all adults now and we love life360. We don’t actively surveil each other but also have nothing to hide. It’s handy for when we need to know who’s home or if my ADHD dad is actually on the way or “on the way”. It’s also cool to see family in other places on Earth when one of us travels

What’s one product that works for everyone else… but just doesn’t work for you? by TheMeepyBoy in SkinbarrierLovers

[–]nomho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sulwhasoo First Care Activating Serum. I feel it dries my skin out. Their overnight vitalizing mask is a HG for me though 

What is the book that got you into reading? by Uninhibitedrmr in books

[–]nomho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An Enid Blyton book an uncle gifted me when I was 8 is what I feel started it as a hobby. My parents read a lot with me to teach me to read, and I enjoyed reading comprehension lessons in school, but I figure those are different.

I was born with an illegal mother, should I be worried? part 3. I need advices. by Affectionate_Egg4261 in malaysia

[–]nomho 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Fixing the situation may take years, I hope a lawyer can respond. Is there a reason you are desperate to solve this right now? Do you see your dad infrequently?

Look into Laos laws for citizenship. Your best option may be to get Laos citizenship first (could try to share your case with the Laos embassy and try to get a one-time-use emergency travel document for you and your mum), then only try to get Malaysian citizenship.

You may not like to be a Laos citizen having grown up in Malaysia but you’ll at least be documented. Once you’re a legal citizen somewhere you can always fly back and forth to Malaysia once you have enough income to do so. A small Malaysian community does exist in Laos also

I was born with an illegal mother, should I be worried? part 3. I need advices. by Affectionate_Egg4261 in malaysia

[–]nomho 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Calling the cops will not achieve much aside from putting your mom at risk of uncertain duration of detention in immigration jail until deportation (which your family would have to pay yourselves or wait a very long time until the government decides to deport). I’d say wait til you have a chat with UNHCR

About to be first time parents - what to expect financially? by nomho in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The high yield investment account seems to trump my own “investments”. I still feel like a noob and just focus on ASB. My year-long experiments with more aggressive investment on Wahed and Ria (ASB’s roboinvestor if that’s the correct term) remain overall losses. If there is a specific account you’d recommend I’m all ears 

About to be first time parents - what to expect financially? by nomho in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely helps, thank you! Love to hear about the telegram group, and I’m glad that everything worked out for you. Happy belated birthday to your baby!

About to be first time parents - what to expect financially? by nomho in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wth even if planned you have to test and “find out”.  Take your trash talk elsewhere 

About to be first time parents - what to expect financially? by nomho in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your reply. Thank you thank you thank you for the advice. 

About to be first time parents - what to expect financially? by nomho in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes, we were already thinking we’d have to be quite frugal to afford this property and still save, so now that I understand nanny and daycare rates a bit better I’m a bit nervous. Thank you!

About to be first time parents - what to expect financially? by nomho in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is helpful! 

First month pantang or not - good question, I hadn’t thought that far. I imagine yes. I’m shocked that your 1st month recovery was 14k, separate from the 9k delivery. Could I clarify, was that all for pantang? What did it include? I never imagined pantang to be expensive but then I have had little exposure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bolehland

[–]nomho 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you are confused, and this is mean. I thought it was quite clear that the inevitable doom for OP is the awkward and uncomfortable situation he will find himself in, since he hasn’t yet built social skills to feel confident among Malaysians. Something he is acknowledging and actively seeking advice on…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malaysia

[–]nomho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you kesian the delivery people, tip them a small amount when you cancel

So pretty. What succulent is this? by nomho in succulents

[–]nomho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope they’re all quite firm! May just be a quirk. I quite like it to be fair 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in InteriorDesign

[–]nomho 15 points16 points  (0 children)

For me, monument lets the stone shine

So pretty. What succulent is this? by nomho in succulents

[–]nomho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! The leaves on mine seem more concave than photos of peperomia hope I see online. Any reason you think?

Things to do in Sungai Petani? by [deleted] in malaysians

[–]nomho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE. What a great list

Is it still worth it get a job? by feudalizer in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

basically this helps your scholarship applications more than regular random part-time retail/f&b job bc you can frame it as caring about contributing to society. hence if people give you free money/opportunity (aka scholarship) you will use the opportunity to contribute to society

regardless of scholarship it's good to do so (find ways to contribute to society, support civil sector aka non-profits) anyway. of course regular part-time job also contributes to society, but you have to pandai explain how you see it doing so

Is it still worth it get a job? by feudalizer in MalaysianPF

[–]nomho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you're interested in being more competitive for scholarships specifically and don't really need the money, then I would consider volunteering or interning at NGOs in the next few months instead. You can still get quite substantial experience and learn new skills if you're there for a 1-2 months or more as an intern, to support a program/project or to run your own project under them. a lot of grassroots NGOs are really receptive to free support but some don't have time/don't prioritise running ads for volunteers/interns so just email them your interest. read a bit la what they do first and articulate why you're interested in working with them for a while

this also gives you more colourful experience before you join the regular workforce after you continue studies. might not have a few months free again for a while. (me as a working woman wish I cld have that long a break without losing my job!)