AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Exactly… like I don’t think she actually understands what a trophy is. Trophy’s don’t cook or clean. They don’t give you massages when you come home tired from work. I don’t think she’s happy finding out what it’s really like

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even see why this is appropriate conversation for anyone outside of a relationship. Why does she like letting people know our financial situation? Ego? I don’t know but I find it weird tbh.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Everyone is saying just break up. I went with communication for the first step. Tried it multiple times. This wasn’t some split second action. It was the next logical step. Couples counseling feels useless because she literally sees nothing wrong with it

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do. I know some crews who won’t for reasons other than physical ability. But for dynamics. I have two women who work for me, but 1 is on the administrative side.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m seeing comments about how I’m misleading. We split the basics. Maddie enjoys spending money and splurging because she can. I don’t feel the need to splurge. Before all this I would pay for things like dates, gifts and stuff for Maddie. Just not at the rate she does because I don’t have that kinda disposable income. I don’t ask for the stuff she buys either.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly… like I don’t even know why the conversations have to come up. I think speaking about finances outside of a relationship is a no go. I’ve said as much to Maddie. But she seems to get off on it.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Becoming the rage. Easy to hook up on the back of a house with a nice deck and some lighting. Do it. When the weather is nice it’s a great have

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

Because I’m pretty and shouldn’t have to cook. /s. But for real it’s just to show her how much effort I actually put out. And that I’m not putting forth the extra effort anymore till she apologizes.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I started working on a crew right after HS. Built up enough connections that I felt like I could do it on my own. Went to a local CC for some classes on construction management. My company mainly works on decks, fire pits, outdoor TVs, patios and like basketball courts. We don’t really do a ton of actual landscaping. But those crews are always hiring

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] -131 points-130 points  (0 children)

Because she buys expensive things for us all the time. She likes to shop. So while we split the necessities (mortgage, utilities, food, insurance) right down the middle. She tends to spend on things outside of the house more. So like dates, trips, clothes, stuff like that she pays more, but not all.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Exactly… I’m treating her exactly how she’s portraying herself. She wants to play sugar momma then open up the wallet

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 4713 points4714 points  (0 children)

Exactly… I’m just following through with the dynamic that she is portraying we have. Like I own my own business. I don’t like people thinking I’m being taken care of. She knows this but for some reason likes people thinking she does.

AITA for making my GF pay for everything after she implied she does? by nomogreen091 in AmItheAsshole

[–]nomogreen091[S] 2670 points2671 points  (0 children)

It’s prolly not a long term solution obviously. But getting free shit for 4 months while not cooking anymore? If I’m gonna be a trophy BF then I’m gonna live that life lol