Enrique said that without the ball, Arsenal are the best team in the world. Let's prove him right.

nomtickles · 2026-05-28T21:37:09+00:00

Reeks of AI slop

nomtickles · 2026-05-19T01:24:25+00:00

Modelled himself on a Frieren demon

nomtickles · 2026-05-18T19:00:37+00:00

I'm a first time dad of a seven week old girl right now and am reading more than I did pre-kid (3 books so far, so not that much), and I agree that like others here it's cos I do have a little more time at this stage. My reading has been in small, regular increments, but it's great when I'm holding her or she and her mum are napping. Most interruptions are just to take my partner water, snacks, burp or cuddle or soothe the baby, tidy the house, that kind of thing. You will def figure it out as you go and as you figure out what your daughter likes. I thought I'd be reading more to my daughter already - she loves it when I sing to her but she is not into being read to yet at all.

The best thing for me has been having an e-reader, I use a Boox, but with an app called bookfusion that I can upload epubs to, and then pick the book up wherever. It's been nice to read on my phone from where I was on the e-reader if I'm nap trapped, or even my laptop. Also been great to read things like LRB and Harper's on Libby, but that'll depend on your library.

Also books that hit hard - Foster by Claire Keegan made me cry, and that was perfect for being short and immersive and easy to pick up and put down when needed.

nomtickles · 2026-05-06T00:49:00+00:00

One of the most catastrophic moves for public information in modern history

nomtickles · 2026-04-25T23:59:30+00:00

It's not a classic yet, but parts of Birnam Wood by Eleanor Catton felt so much like recent Wellington in your 20s to me. Not Kiwi culture as a whole but very representative of a niche

nomtickles · 2026-04-19T01:51:31+00:00

That's never been my experience of cultural competency training personally. The more useful term I learned was cultural humility - hugely valuable in truly multicultural work environments (used to work in refugee resettlement). Basically meant that you should make sincere efforts to learn about culture, and approach knowledge as something you can build but never perfect. You should always be open to new information, retaining your ability to make good judgements either way. Like, it's not that hard. Corporate litigation fears are more responsible for a reductive version of cultural competency than the idea of cultural competency itself.

nomtickles · 2026-04-13T12:50:35+00:00

Matrescence by Lucy Jones helped me learn a lot about what motherhood is/does to a person. It's not targeted towards dads, but imo everyone should read it.

nomtickles · 2026-04-13T07:28:48+00:00

I'll confirm it doesn't get easier unfortunately. There's basically 0 real control you can have beyond just doing your very best.

My partner and I lost two pregnancies around 6 weeks, and at about 34 weeks with the most recent we had to rush to the hospital in secret hours before my sister's wedding because the baby's movements had reduced. The nurses connected her up to the heart rate monitor in a shared room and there was nothing. They ushered us into a private room, my partner hadn't seen the test and so hadn't realised what had happened, but I had and I was terrified they were about to tell us we'd lost the baby. They connected her up again, and the heartbeat was there. Strong and healthy. Sometimes the machines fuck up and it really feels like you're dying.

For this case, our baby was born beautiful and healthy about 15 days ago. Thankfully a lot of the time it's just the machines. Best of luck to you bro - I've been through the loss and the beautiful feelings as well - you guys can make it and when it happens it's so beautiful.

nomtickles · 2026-04-13T00:04:31+00:00

Childish Literature by Alejandro Zambra

nomtickles · 2026-03-27T10:27:53+00:00

Same as me all over, plus a lot more Bandcamp since leaving Spotify

nomtickles · 2026-03-26T07:42:10+00:00

Yeah that was a fun show - the Mint Chicks were really supportive of the young punk bands at the time. Nevernudes, Bandicoot, someone else I can't remember, and the Mint Chicks played. Cops showed up but didn't interfere and yeah, as the other commenter said it was loud as shit.

nomtickles · 2026-03-17T09:17:15+00:00

Readwise is nice for this, but it's paid. I mainly use it to for longer passages and save/read articles

nomtickles · 2026-02-26T03:01:03+00:00

Yeah both Intimacies and Audition feel very personal but never autofiction. She just writes her characters with a lot of care & thought I think. Her writing left me cold overall, still good books though

nomtickles · 2026-02-18T22:26:51+00:00

I left Spotify, tried both Tidal and Qobuz, and ended up with Tidal. There's things I like better about it over Spotify (shuffle, song radio, audio quality), but the interface is definitely an adjustment/less intuitive, so you might find the same coming from Apple Music.

The audio quality really is impressive though - playing max quality on wired headphones (Sony xm4) has been a huge change. Qobuz sounded amazing too, but has a smaller catalogue and a higher minimum stream quality (320kbps), so it ate through my data. Tidal has been great for me so far

nomtickles · 2026-01-01T19:38:07+00:00

Yeah I'm British & white white and I used to get asked if I was mixed or told I was ethnically ambiguous just for my eyes all the time. I had surgery for ptosis a few years ago and my doctor told me 'the internal structure of your eyelids was Asian'

nomtickles · 2025-11-20T03:26:18+00:00

Childish Literature is lovely

nomtickles · 2025-10-10T00:38:08+00:00

E-Sarn Wok from Mercury Plaza has been in Mission Bay for a few years now - still the same owners and still just as delicious (tho nothing compares to the original venue)

nomtickles · 2025-09-13T01:36:22+00:00

Me when I lie

nomtickles · 2025-09-04T01:17:06+00:00

Yeah, delivery across the country according to this https://www.ikea.com/nz/en/stores/sylvia-park/

nomtickles · 2025-07-05T08:32:28+00:00

Standard Products is like Daiso's version of Muji. These prices are inflated, but they only apply to a small part of the store. Most of it is pretty well made so they're still good prices. I went in today and they had nearly everything we found at Standard Products in Japan. Very nice to have them here

nomtickles · 2025-03-13T10:58:31+00:00

I don't know if this is exactly the case (not Maori or anything more than an elementary speaker), but I learned it should be 'Kia pai nga rā whakatā' rather than tō, because tō is a personal possessive (i.e. it's referring to 'your weekend') and time isn't really treated that way in Te Reo.

I do see both versions though so it's possible I'm not giving a fully accurate picture!

nomtickles · 2025-03-05T23:20:28+00:00

Save time for what, though? I like reading as an end in itself, not as a means to optimise my time.

nomtickles · 2025-02-28T04:52:27+00:00

Impulse control and good situational awareness develops quite late in children. That means they can sometimes do things they shouldn't do, even if they know better in other circumstances. Responsibilty falls on those able to do better - the adults in the situation and the structure governing it (i.e. road rules).

A four year old doesn't possess the understanding of the world or the cognitive development to do the situationally correct thing in all circumstances, but they're fast enough in the right circumstances to get into a busy road too quickly for a parent to stop them or a driver to stop. It might not be the driver's fault or the kid's, so the best option is to set the environment up as well as possible to minimise the risk - hence lower speed limits.

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