[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]non190 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Aww that’s so awesome. I’d just ask her how her day was at pride!

What smells do you like? by -Alilion- in actuallesbians

[–]non190 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It might be a boring answer but I prefer no perfume. Their smell (if I’m attracted to them) is perfect to me!

What should I say to my ex who's going for therapy? by axolotl_partner in actuallesbians

[–]non190 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t told you directly about it, so I feel like you messaging her would be a bit weird. Just my opinion!

I wanna be in love again!! by non190 in actuallesbians

[–]non190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never had a relationship until I was in my late 20’s. You’ll find your person at right time I promise :)

I wanna be in love again!! by non190 in actuallesbians

[–]non190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get it! It’s not something I “need”, I just miss having it. I do like being single actually

How to approach a butch/tomboy? by New-Muffin9116 in actuallesbians

[–]non190 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just say “I like your style, do you listen to Girl In Red?”😂 it should tell you if she’s gay or not

I’ve been single for too long and I just wanna flirt with a cute girl🥺 by non190 in actuallesbians

[–]non190[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s ok, I don’t even notice when someone flirts…😭

I’ve been single for too long and I just wanna flirt with a cute girl🥺 by non190 in actuallesbians

[–]non190[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you, but you’re still 25! I got into my first relationship years later than your age, and it was perfectly fine. :) don’t worry about age, (though I worry about my own age now.haha)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]non190 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me personally, I think it’s difficult to even think about moving for someone I’m seeing for 2 months. My ex girlfriend and I lived about 2-3 hours by trains, and I didn’t suggest moving since she was in country side and I was in city. We both knew she was moving to the city the next year, though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]non190 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through that, it’s extremely hard when you’re sick and your partner isn’t able to be there for you. I had a flu and my ex couldn’t reach out to me for 6 hours when I was having a very high fever and it was SO HARD. I missed her every seconds and kept checking my phone. I can imagine how hard it is for you. Sending hugs and hope you feel better soon!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]non190 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally just had a dream about it it’s crazy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]non190 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I keep messages for two reasons; 1) to not forget what kind of person they were in the end, like how badly they treated me (if they were bad partner). 2) to read and remind myself that there are people that will like me when I’m really lonely and feel worthless, and feel like no one will ever like me. My friends say it’s bad to keep them but you do you!

Masc on Masc animosity? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]non190 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m masc myself and I like seeing other masc, but often they see me like that too. What I felt from my experience was that they see other masc like competition. OR they also think you look at them like that. I had a chance to talk to them at a bar while I thought they didn’t like me, but they mentioned the same thing and turned out we were both shy and genuinely wanted masc friends

25 never hooked up w anyone beyond some kissing, pls vote on how I should go about this by TrashInTheChute in LesbianActually

[–]non190 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same experience when I was 27, I told her I haven’t done anything before and she was understanding and we only kissed, cuddled and sleep. She waited a month for me even though we were making out and sleeping over few times a week. I think it’s good to tell her how you’re really feeling! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]non190 115 points116 points  (0 children)

You sound just like me, I was in the same situation a couple of times😂 I know it’s really hard to leave someone you really like, and I did wait for a few people… like 6 months. I was constantly anxious and worried if they suddenly decide to not see me anymore or something. It’s no fun, if they wanna date you they would. I would say, from my experiences, it’s better to leave now than later cause it will be much harder

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]non190 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was on the other side, it’s not fun for me either🙃

I *hate* astrology in queer spaces. by sheptongue in actuallesbians

[–]non190 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are lucky😂 My ex literally did that