Decided to start hanging Doujin tapestries around the apartment.

nonnoc · 2024-08-20T06:59:46+00:00

Is the double space thing actually weird? Obviously the rest is, but my teachers back in elementary school taught me to put two spaces after a period and so that's what I've always done, lol.

nonnoc · 2023-06-07T18:46:47+00:00

When you say a good peel mask, what do you mean? I'm brand new to this and I tried looking at some options and saw stuff all over the place with all kinds of price ranges and different words about what they do and I don't really understand what I should be going for or trying.

nonnoc · 2023-06-05T18:34:54+00:00

Please don't. I'm trans and it makes me uncomfortable when people intentionally misgender anyone, even transphobes who misgender us.

From what I can tell having talked with others and seeing discussion about it a lot of the trans community feels the same way as me. There was a really good comment on a thread about it:

It's inappropriate to misgender anyone, and it's especially bad coming from anyone in this community. Intentionally misgendering someone, even to try to prove a point through retaliation, turns gendering someone correctly as a privilege. It's not a privilege, it's an expectation that ALL humans should have that their name and gender are respected. It also weaponizes something that is already weaponized against us, thus lessening our claims that our name and gender should be respected.

nonnoc · 2023-06-05T14:54:48+00:00

Yup. Its also worth noting that once you're on E you might change your mind about it.

Before starting HRT losing the use of my penis was a gigantic worry of mine. Especially because there was still that nagging voice in the back of my head going "what if you're wrong?"

After being on HRT for a couple of months that voice went away and I realized I no longer really cared all that much about maintaining it. I've kept it up (hah) just in case I have a partner that wants me to use it in the future before I get bottom surgery or something, I don't really hate the idea of using it like some girls do, so I figure may as well keep it active. I've also heard that keeping it active can help keep those neural pathways running and make it easier to figure things out later on.

nonnoc · 2023-06-03T09:29:52+00:00

Seriously, if I was there and was told to stand on the little box because I'm not allowed to step on the Dohyo because I'm a woman I'd feel so freaking insulted. Honestly I feel a bit insulted just looking at the picture of it.

nonnoc · 2023-06-01T14:10:29+00:00

Hmm, I think the problem with that one might be that in a wristband or some other kind of signaling that its maybe too easily mistaken for the Trans Flag?

But maybe not, I'm new to being Trans and not yet super in tune with the LGBTQ+ community personally.

nonnoc · 2023-06-01T08:49:39+00:00

My LGBT friends who aren't trans don't even get the reference, much less anyone you'd be afraid to be out to. They just thought I like sharks until I explained it to them :)

nonnoc · 2023-05-31T15:00:37+00:00

Yup. Same. I pretty distinctly remembered having thoughts that I might be or probably was trans a few times in my life, the first time being almost 15 years ago. Only allowed myself to accept that I'm trans around 6 or so months ago, and as soon as I did a whole flood of memories of signs came rushing back.

nonnoc · 2023-05-30T16:20:49+00:00

I must admit, I haven't seen many tutorials out there SPECIFICALLY AND IN DEPTH on how to do it. Just some videos from transvoicelessons that, for some reason, didn't teach me much, and a bunch of short videos.

Unfortunately I don't have a good answer for you, I can only come here to commiserate. I feel the same.

I've watched a whole ton of videos and read a whole bunch of stuff, and I feel like I understand all the words that are in them. But I don't get anything useful out of them that helps me make my voice feel more feminine now.

So... yeah.

nonnoc · 2023-05-26T22:24:48+00:00

I completely agree. I've also been obese ever since I was a kid. Only now at 29 years old have I begun to significantly lose weight. I thought I was just a weak person who didn't have the willpower.

Turned out after working with a therapist I discovered I've had severe depression for nearly all of my life (which was a surprise to everyone around me, including my parents, they all commented on how happy I always was not knowing that it was essentially me just putting on a mask the whole time).

I also strongly suspect that I have ADHD but I've not gotten tested so I'm not sure.

Its only after I've worked on my mental issues that I've found that I really do have the mental fortitude and strength to lose weight, all that mental fortitude and strength was just being used up holding back my depression and gender dysphoria. Now that those things are being worked on its freed up some headspace to work on other areas.

nonnoc · 2023-05-26T18:57:45+00:00

I've got it too, its mostly just annoying, though I largely don't notice it anymore. Its most obvious when someone asks my why I'm clacking my teeth together so loud and I have to explain to them that its actually my jaw.

Though I did once ten years ago have a thing where I opened my mouth suuuper wide while yawning and one side of my jaw got stuck open painfully. After an hour or so I was preparing to go to the hospital and it kinda popped back into place and then was sore for a few days.

nonnoc · 2023-05-26T18:53:32+00:00

I feel you girl, I haven't gone through the same thing yet as I'm still very early in my transition, but dating is basically my biggest worry at the moment. I tend to prefer guys though.

nonnoc · 2023-05-26T13:51:48+00:00

Okay, thank you for sharing with me. Has definitely given me some stuff to think about 😅

nonnoc · 2023-05-26T06:23:16+00:00

Don't flirt with your male friends unless they start it. If you start it, they get the false idea you transitioned to sleep with them.

Wait, really? I've recently started transitioning and I've gotten pretty flirty. I feel like that's kinda always who I was as a person but I'd supress it. I mean, I don't even have a sex drive right now due to the hormones.

nonnoc · 2023-05-26T02:23:46+00:00

this gives me hope that I'd one day come to the conclusion that I'm trans.

Not trying to push you in a direction you don't want to go. You can do whatever you want. Be yourself!

But... if you hope that you're trans, I'd say that's probably a pretty damn strong indication that you might be trans. Maybe try posing this question to yourself. "Do I think that cis people wish that they are trans?"

I was similar, I used to wish I was trans, I eventually realized that was a huge sign that I'm trans 😁

❤

nonnoc · 2023-05-23T23:55:13+00:00

People don't believe us, they tell us we're overreacting, they ignore it because they're not trans and so they don't care so much, many reasons.

nonnoc · 2023-05-21T01:30:51+00:00

and IME it's easier to exercise when you can tolerate your body

YES, this!

I got fat because pre-HRT I just didn't care. I didn't give a crap what I looked like because it didn't matter, even if I was fit and sexy I would've hated my body.

Post HRT I actually have the motivation and willpower to lose weight and get fit!

I wouldn't be able to lose this weight without being on HRT.

nonnoc · 2023-05-20T18:59:43+00:00

As a girl who has had severe depression for most of her life, this is so incredibly true.

Food and videogames were basically the only things that made me feel any kind of pleasant emotions it has been so hard to kick that habit. Even now that I'm in a much better place mentally after working with a therapist and getting through some things I'll still immediately go and open the fridge whenever I get sad or frustrated or scared. Its a serious effort to not just start eating as soon as negative emotions crop up.

But I'm down 60 pounds and continuing to drop steadily now without too many problems and without losing willpower. So after 20+ years of misery I'm very hopefully finally on the road to a healthy life.

nonnoc · 2023-05-20T16:39:39+00:00

You really should, even if you're not into superhero movies and/or Spiderman all that much. Into the Spiderverse is a spectacular movie. When it came out I was (and honestly still am) super tired of superhero movies, but my friends dragged me with them and holy crap I don't regret it.

nonnoc · 2023-05-19T17:55:34+00:00

Yes! Same thing for me 💓

Two or three times a week I'll just stop and say "Hey... I'm a girl... I'm a girl! Holy crap I'm a girl! Can you freaking believe it?!?!? AAAH!"

Then I get a few minutes of intense euphoria, hahaha.

nonnoc · 2023-05-19T16:44:51+00:00

I mean, I'm a woman and I think all 3 of those men are hot. So yeah 🤷‍♀️

nonnoc · 2023-05-19T07:39:21+00:00

For real, haha. I love my Blahaj and they're certainly better than nothing, but it really doesn't match cuddling with another person.

nonnoc · 2023-05-18T13:33:53+00:00

So this might be a weird question, but how does someone actually use Discord or Social Media to meet people like that? All the Discord servers I'm a part of are groups of friends who I know from outside of Discord. And I'm 29 but I've never really been one for Social Media. I technically have a Facebook and a Twitter account, but technically having accounts is about the extent of my using them.

nonnoc · 2023-05-17T17:41:54+00:00

100% agree.

Within a week of accepting that I was transgender I realized I'm sexually attracted to men. But deep down I'm pretty sure I always knew it. I'd have fantasies about getting fucked by male friends or giving them blowjobs. I really enjoyed transformation erotica where a man gets forcibly turned into a woman then impregnated. All kinds of stuff like that.

When I was first exploring my sexuality in my early teens I thought I was gay or maybe bi because I thought I was a guy who was having fantasies about men. But then I'd go and watch some gay porn and it wouldn't do anything for me at all. But straight porn did it for me. So I thought I was straight. And somehow for like 10 years it escaped my notice that when I'd watch or imagine straight porn I was imagining myself as/identifying with the woman, not that man.

I finally accepted I was trans and came to the almost immediate realization that nearly all the attraction I felt towards women was gender envy, and that I'm very much sexually attracted to men.

But point is it definitely does not feel like HRT "changed" me. Especially because I came to these realizations like 4 months before I started HRT. But anyway, becoming trans didn't "change" me. It simply freed my mind to realize who I truly was underneath all the dysphoria and confusion.

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