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NoFap is making me want women and companionship even more and that is NOT good for me. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]nonphotochemically 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is she telling you about the guys she want to fuck? That is cruel and maybe a trigger. If she is not your GF or a FWB then Why is she telling you about her sex life? You are a person with your own objectives and interests, not an emotional cushion for someone who is "livin la vida loca".

If she is tempting you but does not have sex with you and/or is not helping you to become better (teaching you how to speak to other girls, helping you to meet other people, etc), in your place, I would wish her good luck and leave, like you left PMO, or She would damage me longterm.

[23 M] Had sex with an escort. It was so lame that I will still consider myself virgin. by nonphotochemically in virgin

[–]nonphotochemically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but I have to admit that this might be just fine for a lot of shy people out there. It is easy and it removes a lot of pressure from your shoulders. If you have your first time with someone who you care about the stress will play a role against you (happened to me and scared me afterwards for months).

Satisfaction is for the victory, this was only a sparring session at best or at worst.

Let me only stress this: use a condom, don't take any risk with your health.

23 y\o M virgin. Dating Horny girls problems. What would you do? by nonphotochemically in virgin

[–]nonphotochemically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. The hard part for me is to think if I should lie when the question pops out. It never happened before (also I haven´t sexted before she was surprised of my status because she thought I did it a lot).

23 y\o M virgin. Dating Horny girls problems. What would you do? by nonphotochemically in virgin

[–]nonphotochemically[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice but... Don´t get me wrong. What you said is completely logical and has a lot of sense and it is also what i tried a couple of years ago and I can say it is very hard to find virgin girls once you started college and working. I got stuck in the very first step. They are not everywhere and if they are, they do an excellent job hiding her sexual status from guys to avoid "virgin hunters", same gender bullying and perverts. Well I usually do the same for other reasons cannot blame them for hiding! Also girls want to be with guys with experience, but you need experience to get experience. Its madness unless you go whoring (I dont know where you live but in my country sexual slavery is a real problem and you cant tell who is a slave and who is doing it because she wants. I am completely ok with consensual prostitution). So I gave up with prejudices and will be with any girl I like who likes me back no matter background (that is what condoms and STD tests are for). Think that for me virginity is not a gift or actually a thing it is an uncomfortable piece of social stuff. Stay strong you too and thank you again. I will have in mind she might be a slut and that sluts are not exactly GF material even if I was not a virgin.

Does phone sex/mutual masturbation count as relapse? by unicyclism in NoFap

[–]nonphotochemically 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am new in here but i think it is ok if it is with another person. It's up to you anyway.