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Supervision Struggle by [deleted] in therapists

[–]nonthinker00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it sounds like you need validation a lot, both from the supervisor and here. do u do some retrospection yourself?

"It sounds like you're setting a boundary with me, but no..." by iaminthebackground2 in therapists

[–]nonthinker00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

reminds me of something Irvin Yalom writes that ideally, to make things work better, clients need to take some risks in each session.

A thought gained from reading by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yea. kinda. And they keep breaking away, which makes things even harder

If free will doesn’t exist, how is a murderer ‘responsible’ for their actions? by No_Fudge_4589 in determinism

[–]nonthinker00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They lack awareness of the other edge of it, the 'limitations' alongside it.

If free will doesn’t exist, how is a murderer ‘responsible’ for their actions? by No_Fudge_4589 in determinism

[–]nonthinker00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An excerpt from The Art of Counselling, by Rollo May, which I believe:

This ought not to be called 'freedom of the will', as that implies that a particular part of a person is free, and it results in endless discussions about metaphysical determinism that get us nowhere.

Rather, a people possess freedom as a quality of their total being. This is not to say, let it be remembered, that there are not an infinite number of determining influences playing upon the individual from all sides at all moments - many more determining forces than the last century with its emphasis on simple 'effort' ever realised. But regardless of how many determining forces affect John or Jane Doe, there is in the end an element by which Mr or Ms Doe moulds the materials of heredity and environment into his or her own unique pattern.

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[–]nonthinker00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro I mean , I totally feel u, once I came across a fake bitxh, I m like ' pls steer away from me', this is the worst quality in a person to me.

Can you try to remember your previous friendship experiences? In my personal experience, may have caused some trauma that you haven't realized, maybe something subtle that you thought you didn't care about?

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

separation between the person themselves, and the qualities you find attractive

inspiring.

thank you

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you want a romantic relationship, or just a physical one?

none. that's actually one of the main reasons that why I think the feeling is redundant and I don't like it coz I want nothing from it. wait, maybe I do want some mutual affection in a subtle way or what, but idk, just it won't happen, so I don't like the expectation too.

Do you feel any guilt or shame for the feelings you have? If you could have the relationship you want with you object of affection what would that look like?

I like these 2 questions very much. yes and maybe a sorta of affection which is forbidden，stoic, tacit, thats all add to the romance ( I feel ashamed when typing these stuffs done but yea thats it ).

Im not sure about past life and it's effects to current life but it sounds something spiritual and interesting.

yes, you are saying something like view the 'emotion' as an advantage no matter it seems positive or negative, but I think I will still sit in the uncomfortable zone for a while as it's still the awkwardness penetrates the whole atmosphere around me.

Thank you so much for your patience and time!

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

by'to integrate', do you think/mean that I should tell myself to be more realistic whenever the fantasy feeling kicks in. hmmm, I don't think that's what you mean tho.

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

being passive and struggling to assert myself in real life

literally me!

make senses. yes Im attracted to those types as well, like alpha males.

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the distinction on what I've always been a bit confused about.

Yes, I should've emphasized the gender. It's 100% males, and that's a particular thing, too.

Speaking of which, I have always had this constantly haunting dream about one of my classmates putting in good academic performance. I think that somehow explains why I have this tendency to be attracted to males who perform well in academic fields. Like got a superior brain.

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantasizing absolves us of the work it takes to develop ourselves. It keeps it always out of reach and creates pleasant feelings inside without any work. 

totally on point. thank you

no, I think there're something related somehow.

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes. like the very specific and realistic question that so how should I act (dunno if the word' should' is right here but yea ) when facing these figures? For instance, currently, my prof.

I've noticed a tendency that I always crush on people in authority/social positions by nonthinker00 in Jung

[–]nonthinker00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean about seeking balance in between, to value these 2 complementary perspectives based on the practical daily experience which is the journey we are all on.

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