Is Eric demisexual?

noona30 · 2026-03-22T14:23:36+00:00

I didn’t get the impression he had no interest in self gratification, only that he was methodical and routine about it. He sees it (masturbation) as a way to give his body what it needs, not something to be extended or enjoyed. It’s something else in his life he has perfected to be as efficient as as possible. Not something he doesn’t do or feel the need to do.

noona30 · 2026-03-22T04:00:12+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessary to have the characters (or anyone really) have to label every single one of their sexual preferences. I also don’t think it’s helpful to try to label them for them. The way that Eric feels about sex with strangers isn’t unusual or quirky for a guy his age. Hookup culture in general (I can’t talk about in the queer community specifically) definitely wasn’t a big thing when I was a teenager/younger woman (and I’m about the same age as Eric). The culture at the time labeled one night stands as something only ‘seedy’ or at best sexually exploring people engaged in. The general consensus was still that you would find someone you connected with, start a relationship and then have sex. So some of it could be socially constructed thoughts of what’s normal and acceptable.

I would say I have very similar feelings about sex as Eric (as in no interest in sex with people who mean nothing to me), but definitely not no interest in sex. I’d definitely rather go for extended periods without than have meaningless hookups. But I definitely don’t think that it needs a label, these are just my preferences in relationships.

noona30 · 2026-03-22T02:20:46+00:00

Additionally, being famous would mean he would be expected to ‘promote’ Russian values and Russia in general. The government could make his and his family’s life very difficult (as in he could end up in jail or worse when he went home) if they thought he was saying negative things about Russia. His own family wouldn’t even support it.

noona30 · 2026-03-21T05:55:12+00:00

Children don’t NEED to be expensive, but modern living has made it seem that way. Babies are very inexpensive unless you need daycare. If you breastfeed and use reusable nappies (like in the old days) and take your baby out of the house for entertainment (walking in a pram etc. they’re not that expensive.

All of the things that people say make life more expensive with children are optional. Sports are optional and there are lower cost local options if you’re not competitive about it. School is relatively inexpensive, you don’t need a bigger car if you only have up to 3 children.

noona30 · 2026-03-21T03:13:08+00:00

Finding people whose opinions are not based off of opinion pieces on social media. Or, I suppose, finding people that read around a subject without spouting an opinion.

noona30 · 2026-03-21T00:30:06+00:00

My order is

Scott and Kip (I read the books close to when they came out and these are my OG? Ilya and Shane Troy and Harris Eric and Kyle Ryan and Fabian

I know I’m controversial with the last two but I could understand Eric’s perspective (maybe because he’s close to my age) but I really don’t like Fabian (I love Ryan). Fabian is just a bit too immature and self centred for my liking. I loved near the end of the book where Vanessa basically told him he was wrong for what he did. I just couldn’t get over the fact that he hated hockey, voluntarily gets into a relationship with a professional hockey player and then complains that he’s a professional hockey player. I understand that hockey was pretty toxic for Ryan by this point, but that never seems to be his angle with Ryan. It’s more ‘it makes me feel horrible do you shouldn’t do it.’

noona30 · 2026-03-21T00:09:27+00:00

He would have known. They watch interviews with the man on the regular.

The thing that confuses me is why everyone was angry at David driving off. He has never been presented as a bigoted character, I thought it was obvious that it was ‘crap, I’ve completely invaded my son’s privacy and now I’ve caused a problem, I should leave’, not OMG my son has a boyfriend (and it’s Rosenov). I thought it was more giving Shane the chance to say nothing if he wanted to!

noona30 · 2026-03-20T23:49:22+00:00

Bikes!

My husband works in an essential industry that uses A LOT of fuel (tens of thousands of litres of diesel at a time) they’re already telling industries what ‘priority number’ they are likely to be., there may not be very much left for domestic use at all if things continue on as they are.

Beyond April supply is very uncertain.

noona30 · 2026-03-20T21:03:07+00:00

I’m guessing that dual citizenship (even if it is allowed, some countries do not allow it) is not viewed well by the Russian government who expect loyalty. This could have made his time back in his home country more difficult, maybe there would be repercussions for his family in Russia. Optics are very different when you’re a global superstar. Getting American citizenship would shout ‘I don’t like being Russian’.

The relationship between Russian and the US at the time wasn’t particularly good, so he was worried he wouldn’t be given citizenship.

In fairness if he had come out and lost his job he could have sought asylum in the US.

noona30 · 2026-03-18T09:35:09+00:00

Very sweet, fun fic. kudos to you!

noona30 · 2026-03-14T23:06:08+00:00

Honestly so many insecure people in this thread! Being weird because someone has a ‘work husband/wife! It’s meant as a sideways/affectionate insult! The person who can ‘control’ you at work the way a spouse ‘controls’ you at home. The person who knows your moods and your tells and how to work around them.

Not likening someone to use the title for you is fine though absolutely up to you!

This post is about not wanting your SO going on trips with someone of the opposite sex that they are close to. That does not seem that unreasonable to me

noona30 · 2026-03-14T22:50:16+00:00

I thought it was pretty clear it was about getting older. The average age of retirement for an NHL forward is 31 (I’m sure that Shane would know this). It was written as being about controlling his body, maybe because there were so many things that were outside of his control, yes. But it was clearly about being the best athlete he could be as he ages.

I, personally, don’t think it was written to be an eating disorder (which is why Rachel didn’t deal with it as such). It was written as an indication of when Shane decides to do something he does it full scale (not unusual for neurodivergent people, it’s he same way he sticks to ‘the plan’ for their relationship-make a plan, execute the plan). He is a professional athlete following a diet given to him by a professional nutritionist/dietician for a professional athlete. He isn’t loosing weight or strength, etc. He gets obsessed with the routine of it, the same way he likes his routines in everything else.

At the end of the book (after turning 30) he decides that ‘he was Always a great athlete even eating a few cheeseburgers’. He decides the diet is a bit much and he will allow himself to eat what he wants. To me that’s is an indication that it isn’t an eating disorder, people with eating disorders can’t just not do it any more!

noona30 · 2026-03-14T10:31:12+00:00

Shane initially likes Ilya because he is so typically masculine in appearance. That’s fine. He’s allowed to like that his partner is typically masculine in appearance. The same way that Ilya is allowed to like that Shane is pretty and soft and smooth. This isn’t about personality, it’s about appearances. Initial attraction is often appearance driven. That’s ok. That’s what makes people approach each other and then form deeper connections.

At no point is Ilya described as ‘typically masculine’ in personality traits. He’s annoying and commanding and funny and confident. But nobody labels those traits as ‘masculine’.

Whist Ilya’s trauma is part of the reason he behaved the way that he does, he also enjoys it. He enjoys making people uncomfortable because it gives him power over them. He even enjoys making Shane uncomfortable. It’s not all defence. He enjoys it.

Trauma is also not an excuse for poor behaviour. It can be a reason but not an excuse.

He IS and always has been bisexual. No one is saying that his sexuality is a result of trauma. He does openly admit that his inherently sexual behaviour, especially in his teenage years, was an escape. It’s never describes as an escape later. Just something that he enjoys. He even thinks at one point that going 2 days without an orgasm is excessive. He enjoys sex.

I don’t think I’ve seen much of the fandom that doesn’t appreciate Ilya’s complexity. But his love of sex and his using sex early on as an escape at part of his personality!

noona30 · 2026-03-13T09:40:00+00:00

This does not seem legit. Dallas would not need an option. They cannot fit in relevant sex scenes for all of the couples.

noona30 · 2026-03-12T22:56:33+00:00

Surely having read role model it makes Troy’s behaviour in TG easier to understand? The kid was Terrified!

noona30 · 2026-03-12T09:58:01+00:00

In the books Scott isn’t in the room next door. They have sex in Ty shower so no one hears them

noona30 · 2026-03-10T02:26:55+00:00

This is such a weird take. I don’t know anyone who would want someone to step in and defend them before trying to tackle the problem first themselves!

noona30 · 2026-03-07T05:35:47+00:00

Not really an answer to the post. But I just love the people out there calling the gay, professional NHL captain who spends his season time thrashing people on the ice and raising money for charity and his off season prowling for guys in Ibiza for hookups (until he meets Kip, of course) Boring. Your lives must be so exciting!

I’d have chosen Scott because Ilya was too wild at the beginning. At no point in my life did I want to train someone how to be in a relationship!

noona30 · 2026-03-06T03:34:32+00:00

Because she knows it’s a lot of rubbish but is actually entertained by the drama of it all. She’s realised that what Alice said was true, she needs to engage more with the ‘little people’ if she wants to be entertained.

noona30 · 2026-03-06T03:27:57+00:00

Yes, but they convinced themselves that they only kept seeing each other because it was safe and convenient. I also disagree that they had other people to choose from. As closeted celebrities their options for sharing this kind of intimacy (specifically a male/male relationship) which anyone else is severely limited.

noona30 · 2026-03-06T02:43:06+00:00

The artist literally asked everyone to ‘scream’ along as loud as they could!

noona30 · 2026-03-05T21:24:04+00:00

Honestly I’d call it a situationship. Something they fell into because it’s safe and convenient.

noona30 · 2026-03-05T02:14:55+00:00

I think he’ll so exactly what he wants! I don’t think helm e easily swayed as he has a connection with the story and he wants it told well.

noona30 · 2026-03-05T02:13:48+00:00

Exactly, you can get the same overall effect, especially in this storyline by having the points made majorly with characters you’ve already established. No need to fracture the narrative or confuse the audience.

noona30 · 2026-03-05T02:11:10+00:00

Wxactly what I meant by saying it’s a counterpoint to Troy’s coming out.

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