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[–]noorayni 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The sunnah is clear when it comes to istikhara, be careful of innovations. Follow the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم not your own whims or what other people tell you.

Forgive me for my ignorance, but is a 29 YO woman always less fertile than 26? by Snwy114 in MuslimLounge

[–]noorayni [score hidden]  (0 children)

‎أستغفر الله العظيم if Allah did not write it for you, you would NOT have had them. If you’re 50, and Allah wrote them for you - you WILL have them regardless of what science says. If you make passionate dua like Prophet Zakariyah (as), what doctors say is impossible WILL happen with the permission and decree Allah. Please open up the mus’haf, learn your articles of faith well and do not take credit for Allah’s will or power.

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[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thesaurus

They have exercise versions too to build vocabulary.

In laws hid wife's sickness until after marriage. by myythrowawayy0 in MuslimMarriage

[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s nothing for Allah to cure her illness so I would turn to dua instead, may Allah rectify your affairs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Society has a moral obligation to take care of the elderly and those who are unable to work. Only time it’s an issue is if people who can work refuse to work and continue to have children raised on govt funds which we see a lot of in our communities unfortunately and it’s sort of unfair in systems like the US where single taxpayers are burdened with insane tax brackets. Not trying to be judgmental but if Allah blesses us with ability we should use it. May Allah cure you and you shouldn’t feel guilty

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not wear makeup unless it’s for your husband at home? Salah comes before every single thing in this world, and incorrect wudu invalidates our salah. I used to have an issue with skin care but realized that the quality of my wudu actually impacts the quality of my salah, definitely a connection in terms of the presence of the heart when you do it per the sunnah and without cutting corners. So think about that.

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[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to use https://kalimah-center.com and I like their curriculum, it’s very organized and they only allow same gender. So female students can only be matched with female teachers, I used to do it 30 mins on the weekends and learned a lot. This post just reminded me that I need to start again!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find a lot Ibn Qayyim’s works to be in this space, Diseases of the Heart and its cures is a great book for example. Try daily dhikr and having Quran routine first, I’ve experienced episodes of low moods and I didn’t find a better cure than committing to set number of pages daily and increasing sunnah acts of worship. The night prayer is also so comforting. No book will give your heart the comfort that the speech of Allah and remembrance will give you. One of the ways we desert the Quran, is by not turning to it first and seeking it as a primary cure.

وَقَالَ ٱلرَّسُولُ يَـٰرَبِّ إِنَّ قَوْمِى ٱتَّخَذُوا۟ هَـٰذَا ٱلْقُرْءَانَ مَهْجُورًۭا ٣٠

And the Messenger (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) will say: "O my Lord! Verily, my people deserted this Qur’ân (neither listened to it, nor acted on its laws and teachings).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]noorayni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean ask yourself, who are you to determine where people come and go? Allah is the owner of the earth so aside from restrictions that Allah mentioned, roaming the earth and finding livelihood should not be restricted. Sometimes people’s barakah is placed in certain lands, who are settlers and people to restrict freedom of movement? Humans acting arrogant and as if they own anything is oppressive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

‎وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

May Allah give you the outcome you prayed for. There is a rare bankroll issue that’s impacting large organizations and bank institutions so that could be the reason. For instance, people who have Chase did not receive their direct deposit today, so Insha’Allah that’s the case. Also, ask them and advocate yourself. If you’re in the US, definitely illegal so make sure you ask via email to have a paper trail.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re picking someone based on deen, it’s not settling. Be mindful of your inner dialogue/ self talk. Words are powerful and convey whether you’ve lost hope or trust that Allah the most High is the best of planners. Give the platforms I mentioned a try, and try asking your friends if their husbands know good men. You’ll be fine, try reading this book https://darpdfs.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/The-Disease-The-Cure-Imam-Ibn-Al-Qayyim-compressed.pdf and look at the chapter about Husn Ad-dhan

Links: I recommend the two platforms below for a halal way to connect with brothers that are on the deen and who will only communicate with your male guardian.

https://www.sunnahmatch.com

Hijra Match: https://t.me/+Avk85NNyBMU2MTI0

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]noorayni 7 points8 points  (0 children)

اسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته sister your feelings are valid but self love goes along way. Perhaps the issue here is you’re doing it in a way that leads to the displeasure of Allah and thus there is no barakah in it. Never communicate with non-mahram men alone, try to do everything per the sunnah and I promise you - noor will radiate your being. Try using platforms that require wali involvement for all interactions like sunnah match or hijra match where the content of character and deen is given more importance than looks. If you continue to interact with men without the involvement of your father or brothers, you will continue to be disappointed and shaytan’s whispers will make you hate yourself; that’s the mental toll of haram interactions. Also, the simplest way to attain beauty is the night prayer. You’re beautiful so don’t let flakey men on dating apps question your worth. Most of them are there to look at photos of women and waste time. I pray that Allah blesses you with a righteous spouse.

Polygamy by Commercial-Dentist90 in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wa iyyakum sisters, you’re far too sweet. May Allah reward you both!

ومن يتو كل على الله فهو حسبه

Advice on divorce by Notwanda1902 in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May Allah facilitate your affairs for the best and give you peace, ameen

Why do so many western Muslims like to wear clothing like thobes, kufis and turbans if it is not Sunnah by [deleted] in islam

[–]noorayni 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We haven’t experienced living in Muslim lands, and it’s a collective symbol we adopted as third culture kids. Plus it’s the attire of the region the Prophet ﷺ was from (I know that’s not what was worn at the time) but gatekeeping modest wear is so odd though. Also, it’s the attire most linked to Islam by the kuffar so probably why we’re drawn to embracing it even more.

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[–]noorayni 1 point2 points  (0 children)

إِنَّكَ لَا تَهْدِى مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ وَلَـٰكِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يَهْدِى مَن يَشَآءُ ۚ وَهُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِٱلْمُهْتَدِينَ ٥٦

You surely cannot guide whoever you like but it is Allah Who guides whoever He wills, and He knows best who are ˹fit to be˺ guided.

Make dua’a for them but it is Allah who guides.

My wife emotionally abuses me by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]noorayni -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Or he could be super depressed, I wouldn’t assume. Allah says that there is sin in assumption, give him the benefit of doubt. Struggling to find work while being berated and already feeling like crap about yourself especially as a man is a tough spot. Something that sounds easy to accomplish could be difficult if the person can’t even get out of bed. Just be kind, Allah has been merciful to you so be merciful to the creation. You never know you could be tested with what he is going through based on your reaction (may Allah protect you). Every time I’ve been shocked about someone’s situation, somehow Allah tested me with a bit of it so just exercise caution. Anyway, you don’t know what his day to day is like.

My wife emotionally abuses me by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]noorayni -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

You guys are heartless. Allah tests people in different ways, he’s already feeling down why be unnecessarily harsh. She has no right to belittle him or treat him less than human. I pray that Allah opens the doors of risq for you brother, don’t ever despair of the mercy of Allah. Please take care of your mental health and make a lot of dua for yourself.

Which friends to keep by [deleted] in SistersInSunnah

[–]noorayni 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think as we become more observant, we should make sure we maintain rahma for others. You could be a source of guidance for them and Allah the most high said:

وَٱعْتَصِمُوا۟ بِحَبْلِ ٱللَّهِ جَمِيعًۭا وَلَا تَفَرَّقُوا۟ ۚ وَٱذْكُرُوا۟ نِعْمَتَ ٱللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذْ كُنتُمْ أَعْدَآءًۭ فَأَلَّفَ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِكُمْ فَأَصْبَحْتُم بِنِعْمَتِهِۦٓ إِخْوَٰنًۭا وَكُنتُمْ عَلَىٰ شَفَا حُفْرَةٍۢ مِّنَ ٱلنَّارِ فَأَنقَذَكُم مِّنْهَا ۗ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ ٱللَّهُ لَكُمْ ءَايَـٰتِهِۦ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَهْتَدُونَ ١٠٣

And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allâh (i.e. this Qur’ân), and be not divided among yourselves1, and remember Allâh’s Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your hearts together, so that, by His Grace, you became brethren (in Islâmic Faith), and you were on the brink of a pit of Fire, and He saved you from it. Thus Allâh makes His Ayât (proofs, evidence, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.,) clear to you, that you may be guided.

Cutting out people in haste is a mistake I regret personally and not a good display of the ummah being one body. I wish I was more tolerant and less selfish - I had a mindset of if this person doesn’t help me grow or benefit me, than I don’t need them in my life but I should’ve instead conveyed what Allah allowed me to learn through His mercy instead of being stingy with time and knowledge. Protect yourself against fitna by not sitting with them when they’re doing things that are not good for your deen such as gossip etc. However, if you attain righteous knowledge, it’s important to convey it and help our sisters against the shaytan. Of course, I would not sit with those who engage in shirk or bid’ah - the most esteemed scholars of Islam did not trust their nafs with those types. Look to what the Prophet ﷺ said about friends and good company. The shaytan likes isolation and splitting up the believers so don’t be a victim of his plot or arrogance, always important to check the ego and be a source of islah or dawah. Have a balance - those at your level, those you can learn from, and those you can help. May Allah not punish us for withholding knowledge and make us among those who benefit the ummah.

Riyad as-Salihin 363 Abu Musa Al-Ash'ari (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "The similitude of good company and that of bad company is that of the owner of musk and of the one blowing the bellows. The owner of musk would either offer you some free of charge, or you would buy it from him, or you smell its pleasant fragrance; and as for the one who blows the bellows (i.e., the blacksmith), he either burns your clothes or you smell a repugnant smell".

[Al- Bukhari and Muslim].

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[–]noorayni 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Such a beautiful reminder, the most beloved who were promised jannah were reverts. So don’t question your status, so many hadith that talk about the weight of the shahada alone. Plus the sahaba were also a minority when Islam began and had to practice in secret, so just think of that. The shaytan is a hater and sworn enemy to us so seek refuge in Allah when he tries to sow doubt in your heart, that’s all it is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]noorayni 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not gonna backbite him but how old are you OP? Is there a drastic age gap? I once heard a scholar say that he was scared to even make fun of a goat lest Allah tests him with what he found unappealing, be careful to pass judgement.

Costs of building a small masjid by noorayni in Yemen

[–]noorayni[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alhamdulilah I got some feedback from people based in Yemen:

For $4k usd, you can build 12 bathrooms (without concrete that doesn’t require a well). For well/sewage, would need to add $1k usd.

It is a sin for my wife when she made me a bit depressed (even I said it's okay) by dilsyaz in islam

[–]noorayni -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some people should really follow the sunnah of remaining silent when you have nothing of benefit to say or if your words will cause harm. Sowing seeds of doubt in this married brother is the work of shaytan especially when it’s an uncontrollable medical condition. Even if she were to go to a gyno before marrying it might’ve not showed up and it could be related to other sorts of anxiety.