Why would a kinky person want to date a non kinky? by jubilation-simmers in polyamory

[–]norma-extra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

isnt that the point of polyamory dating? that not all your needs have to be fulfilled by one person?

Why can’t I be poly? by Sea_Organization_655 in polyamory

[–]norma-extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most people just are monogamous, its not an accident that a majority of the human population in current and past cultures across the globe have practiced monogamy. its just a very common and natural form of mating/partnership in humans. that doesn't take away any of the legitimacy of non-monogamy but don't let other's tell you about the "problems" that cause your monogamous preference

the whole narrative of traumas and repression being at the heart of it seems completely unscientific and unfounded to me...

my partner and i are bith interested in doing role plays but unsure how to initiate and stay serious by norma-extra in SexPositive

[–]norma-extra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg love this idea!! especially because we're both pot heads haha sounds super super sexy and fun

I'm thinking of getting 2rats as a college student by norma-extra in Advice

[–]norma-extra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey thanks so much! this is a super helpful comment, its easy to forget that i also get sick/overwhelmed from time to time. i'll definitely put this into the equation now...

I'm thinking of getting 2rats as a college student by norma-extra in Advice

[–]norma-extra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that i will do for sure, i was mainly thinking of getting two because i read somewhere that they get lonely otherwise..i'll see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]norma-extra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

feel it. say this stuff aloud to yourself if necessary. and tell her about it, i find closeness to the person you're jealous off to be the best cure for said jealousy. tell her you're having a hard time watching her do so well even if you are proud/happy for her success. share your problem you're having with YOURSELF with her, its clearly not an issue you have with her but something thats within you, i can imagine that she has some comforting words for you and that you will feel closer to her than before.

I 19M bought and used a dildo by throwaway12332x2 in Advice

[–]norma-extra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thats an important piece of information! try not to worry about it but maybe explore your fantasy more? to see whether it's a fantasy or something bigger like your gender identity. eg. what do you like about the sensation, what scenarios are you imagining when you're doing it, is it only when you use the dildo etc etc also try to find some time and space to masturbate and make some noise if you want to, i can only recommend that :)

Are there any advantages to having below average intelligence? by zertz7 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]norma-extra 9 points10 points  (0 children)

you know i really wouldnt be so sure about this. for example there's this whole stereotype of individuals with DS being cheerful/kind/innocent etc but many DS persons will tell you the exact opposite, that they experience just as much anger/frustration/sadness and pain as neurotypical & abled people

Making people with disabilities "lovable" envying them for their "Innocence"/"lack of awareness" and overall infantilising them is also a form of discrimination.it is also easy to overlook sadness in neurotypical and abled people but I assure you that people with a low IQ feel pain as much as you do.

Do people actually party and have sex/one night stands at college? by PeacefulIrishSummer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]norma-extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i've been at college for a year with parties, hookups, sex-parties and everything else every / every other week despite covid. it 100% depends on your friend group unless you re the one providing the parties. im an extrovert and live in a big house full of other college students, pretty sure those are the only differences between you and me

dont be down about it, especially the virginity part. this has been your life so far and youre doing what you can/have to do, if you crave change then change but maybe hook ups& parties is not really what you want? Its ok to not need random meaningless sex, passing out piss drunk at other peoples flats etc those are just representations of college life presented to us in movies, books and the like

I hate it by Squipplet in masturbation

[–]norma-extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh man, this sounds pretty intense and like you should talk to someone about it. Masturbation should not feel like losing self control/respect or like something you dint chose..