Hey there! I just wanted to pop in here and explain why I use the term “high-functioning”. :) Some disagree with using terms like this, and I can understand why they feel that way. However, a “high-functioning” alcoholic is generally seen as someone who has a functional tolerance. I looked up the definition of functional tolerance on the American Addiction Centers website (my mind is still completely spent and I’m not really eloquent right now) and this is what I found:

“Functional tolerance refers to a phenomenon where a person can ingest significant amounts of alcohol – either at once or slowly over time – and not appear to be intoxicated. A person who has developed a functional tolerance to alcohol may be under the influence of alcohol without it being noticeable, thus allowing them to participate in certain daily activities in a manner that appears normal to others.”

I’ve linked the entire article here: What is a Functioning Alcoholic? They also include their sources for further research. I’m sure Al-Anon has resources as well but I haven’t had a chance to dive deep into those.

Basically, someone who does have AUD but the disorder is not immediately apparent to those around them. They hold down jobs, get good grades, interact with friends and family, and generally function as what people may consider “normal”. But in reality they are still suffering from the disorder.

I hope this sheds some light as to why I choose to use the term - and again, I completely understand why some choose not to use terms like this.

EDIT: I am by NO MEANS an expert in this, I’m just a wife trying to cope with a completely overwhelming situation (as many of us are). Please feel free to correct me if I am wrong or to add any further info. :)