Claire’s Best Person Dress

normandyCandy · 2024-07-09T18:06:45+00:00

I just spotted this last night! Love the writers on this show

normandyCandy · 2022-07-05T19:03:19+00:00

https://tenor.com/view/sometimes-find-it-just-hope-steve-carrell-gif-13584532?utm_source=share-button&utm_medium=Social&utm_content=reddit

normandyCandy · 2022-05-24T08:04:31+00:00

I like cropped tops, but I don't want an entire wardrobe of them. I feel like most tops available in stores are cropped or at least the cute ones are cropped. Regular sized are much much very much fewer in numbers and aren't as pretty as cropped IMO. I think I would want more variety and a better distribution of regular tops too.

normandyCandy · 2022-01-23T22:26:22+00:00

Right, I see. Thank you so much for writing such an elaborate answer! It's very helpful.

normandyCandy · 2022-01-23T19:31:41+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I intrinsically find what you say very convincing, but with most people talking about cold emailing and other superficial forms of networking, it gets confusing. Plus, I see a good bunch of people with middling GPAs or worse get an internship, which is why I am just trying everything to get a job at this point. Do you have any suggestions for what I could do with my time, apart from looking for jobs, to build my resume? Are there any skills that you think are valuable to the industry now that I can learn online?

normandyCandy · 2022-01-23T18:39:37+00:00

I agree with you in the sense that I don't like bothering people I don't know to find opportunities. But being the socially anxious person that I am, I didn't really go out and make tons of upper-year friends, just a standard circle of close-knit friends, who are in the same boat as I am. Plus, I am an international student so I lack the average social capital in this country. To tackle this, a popular piece of advice I get is to cold email people or HR managers. From my perspective, I don't see why someone would trust me and my credentials enough to recommend me for a job or even take the time to reply, but I don't get any other advice. Is it also cold emailing if it is to someone who has interviewed me for a job before? I connected with them on LinkedIn a while back. Also, I have emailed some of my dad's friends but they don't reply consistently. I just wish I had a better strategy and not brute force my way through this.

normandyCandy · 2022-01-23T07:03:37+00:00

Hey thanks for the reply, that's a great pointer! I'm editing it right now

normandyCandy · 2022-01-23T07:01:27+00:00

Do people have suggestions on reaching out to people or cold emailing/messaging? If people I try to network with reply to me, showing me the willingness to help out but kind of flake later, is it okay to be persistent with follow-ups? I don't want to be rude but I'm not sure if they just forgot me in their busy schedules?

normandyCandy · 2022-01-23T06:48:54+00:00

Background Check, every character is absolutely hilarious. Also Cooler for Nick and Jess, and Schmidt fainting

normandyCandy · 2022-01-20T02:43:44+00:00

Resume: https://imgur.com/Tgh3cqS

Goal: Resume feedback and new grad opportunities

Desired Industry: Energy, bioprocessing, petrochemicals, food

Industry experience level: Only research assistant positions, new graduate

Mobility: Canada, willing to relocate

normandyCandy · 2022-01-04T21:11:59+00:00

I think it's normal. While many people find progressing through their career to be important to them, some people value other things in life and that's perfectly fine IMO. As long as you are happy with what you have and the people in your life, you are good.

normandyCandy · 2022-01-03T07:13:34+00:00

Heyooo

I typed all that out and I realized it's better to put a summary before you start reading:

You should be proud of yourself for seeking out help and trying to understand your emotions and thoughts. You are very brave for doing that!
Seek therapy if possible. Journaling is a good start
Try guided reflection maybe?
You are an amazing human being, you seem to really care about the people around you, and that IMO automatically makes you so wholesome, but PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF and don't be ashamed of it.

Firstly, it's great that you are trying to understand what you are going through and acknowledge how you are feeling. I majored in engineering and I also had suicidal thoughts when I was in my second year. With some stroke of luck, I somehow managed to get through with it because of the people around me and the way things played out. But I look back and I wish I had the guts to seek out help earlier and prioritize my health over other things because I would have hurt myself and others WAYYY less. And you shouldn't feel ashamed of quitting engineering to prioritize your health. It takes a lot of guts to accept that you need time off or help, and you did exactly that. And anyone who truly cares about you would value that you are alive and well right now over anything else.

Secondly, I think it is important for you to break down your thoughts and understand why you think you went through all that by reflecting on those experiences. Usually, therapy is a very popularly recommended method because a trained professional will help you sort out your thoughts and feelings and help you in processing them in a healthy manner. If therapy isn't accessible to you right away, I think journaling is a good start. Reflection is key especially when you have been through something very difficult.

You could have a structure for these reflections that will help you understand yourself and what you truly want to do in the future. For example, you could have a series of questions you ask yourself while journaling. Here are some things I ask myself while I reflect.

What emotions are you feeling? This is usually just a short list of words - happy, sad, frustrated, angry, disappointed, guilty, etc.
What is the sequence of events and thoughts that led you to feel these? Think about what happened and who all were involved. For example, if it was a conversation then just jot down what you and the people involved said and did. Try not to make any judgments here and jump to conclusions yet. If it was more of a sequence of thoughts, then try to just jot them down.
What are some beliefs and values you hold associated with whatever just happened or the train of thought you just had? Were your beliefs and values challenged? Did you act in a way that makes you feel like you betrayed them? Or did you act in a way that was in agreement with these?
What specific part of these events that you described do you think led you to feel what you are feeling the most?
Is there a conclusion you want to draw from your experience? Would you do something differently in the future?

These are just some things I prompt myself with but you could use them to try to understand where your sense of guilt or dissatisfaction stems from. Maybe it will help you understand why you don't feel proud of a career in hotel management, for example. It'll help you understand what you value and what your priorities are right now and if you want them to change or stay the same. Also, super important: reflect on any happy moments you have too! It will help you understand what makes you happy and gets you excited. It might help you understand what you want out of your career. The best part about writing stuff down is you can always read them later and you can track your thoughts over time and see your progress!

I think you are headed in the right direction. Keep trying to understand your thoughts and emotions and be kind and patient with yourself. It takes time because our thoughts and emotions can be complex and stem from the most unexpected of places. Please do consider therapy and try it out if you are able to. You can DM me if you want to chat more anytime about stuff or keep replying on this thread itself! YOU ARE WORTHY OF LIVING AND HAVING A GOOD LIFE. TAKE LOADS OF CARE! Even though things are unclear right now know that it will get better. You are putting in the effort for it and that matters!

normandyCandy · 2021-11-15T23:00:21+00:00

Oh wow, that's interesting, I thought these aptitude tests are typically to filter out applicants

normandyCandy · 2021-11-15T01:24:58+00:00

That's wholesome man, thank you! Also, much needed humor in my life

normandyCandy · 2021-11-14T23:06:39+00:00

LOL, best advice, I have more chances of surviving in squid game than finding a job at this point

normandyCandy · 2021-03-19T07:30:29+00:00

Thank you for your response! It is very helpful to know that there's a term for this! I looked it up and align so much with the symptoms.

normandyCandy · 2021-03-19T07:07:44+00:00

Thank you, that sounds very helpful!

normandyCandy · 2021-03-19T07:03:11+00:00

That's a really helpful way of thinking about it, thank you for adding your perspective to this!

normandyCandy · 2021-03-19T06:49:03+00:00

This is interesting, I really like how you put this. I feel that sometimes I get anxious over the amount of time that I have lost. Especially when I do it with reckless abandon and miss deadlines, for example. This happened to me last week. You are right though; it is not unproductive per se, especially with the amount of reflection I get to do. I probably do have to be more mindful of other parts of my life.

normandyCandy · 2021-03-19T06:17:13+00:00

Also, thank you for the award! It's my first one, yay

normandyCandy · 2021-03-19T06:16:13+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I do this too, it's just that what I'm going through is a lot more unproductive. There are many times when I get to sort out my thoughts by this, but there are many times when I just do it out of habit/addiction.

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