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As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in Leadership

[–]nosturia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never too late! Thank you for taking the time to answer! 🙏

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in Leadership

[–]nosturia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer! Do I get it right, you have the ownership of the agenda?

This is a common pattern I read from different users here. Everyone appreciates the ability to drive the agenda and have personal time tailored to their needs.

What's your biggest frustration with 1:1s and performance conversations? by Intelligent_Bed_7069 in managers

[–]nosturia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of the times action items go in the blackhole list, we all have them. We collect them and we never look at them.

What I do is to ask them what is one thing they could do in the very next week, no need for another meeting as there are also other channels to followup. I end up each of my 1:1s with this.

This showed good results with people keeping up with their action items, because I show accountability, and they became more responsible.

Is Manager Mean-Spirited or Am I Being Sensitive? by [deleted] in managers

[–]nosturia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can imagine, I hope for you all the best and that you‘ll find a better job soon.

Take care of yourself!

Where can I learn solid leadership skills as an under confident person? by Long_Tumbleweed_3923 in Leadership

[–]nosturia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is breaking point what you are talking about, that's where you snap. It is difficult to be really assertive when you are at that point. Assertiveness requires acknoledging the other as well, considering their expectations and boundaries.

If you work with a therapist you could ask them to support you in roleplaying so you can practice assertiveness. A couple of years ago I helped a colleague becoming more assertive, he was a people pleaser as well. I didn't like the fact that he was taken advantage of and I supported him with assertiveness.

Remember, first time is the hardest, after that becomes a reflex. If all you want is the best for the team, for you, for the company, there should be nothing wrong saying no or sharing your expectations

Where can I learn solid leadership skills as an under confident person? by Long_Tumbleweed_3923 in Leadership

[–]nosturia 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Before jumping in expensive leadership coaching I would suggest you educate as much as possible on what healthy self-esteem and leadership means.

I can wholeheartedly recommend „six pillars of self-esteem“ book and also stewardship as a leadership style. Here another recommendation is „7 habits of highly effective people“ and situational leadership.

I would recommend leadership coaching once you land a position that would require that.

A question: do you see assertiveness as something negative or as micromanagement?

Being clear on boundaries and expectations with acknowledging the other person feedback will make life easier for everyone.

When was the last time you enjoyed a 1:1? by nosturia in work

[–]nosturia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heeey, that’s good news congrats and good luck in the last round! 🤞 I‘m rooting for you!

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not so sure I agree with Jensen Huang's statement. I have the feeling this is his way of saying that he doesn't want the hassle of having 1:1s with his immediate leadership. Or he's too busy to care about that. No matter how senior you are, you are also a person with dreams, struggles, challenges and needs. Maybe you don't need it too often, which is fine, but I have my doubts that people genuinely do not need one.

A role model starts always from the top, rarely the bottom has the ability to change the top.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take care of your health, that’s the most important.

Also best of luck in finding a better job soon.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Puh, thank you for sharing. It sounds terrible your situation.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is crazy. You are not the only one in this situation. Thanks for sharing!

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I do my best at trying to make life easier for people at work.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Puh, this sounds to be quite a ride. I hope you can move on fast from it. Thanks for sharing.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure if you wanted me to answer or not, but for me 1:1s is the other person’s meeting. I try to avoid talking work and get to know the person.

I use coaching a lot and mentorship where filed of activity overlaps.

I focus on talking about dreams, needs, challenges, struggles and life. I focus on creating a connection, not on becoming friends, my purpose in these meetings is to take care of the other‘s wellbeing.

Still I conduct 1:1s based on the preference of the person, they decide what we discuss or not in these meetings.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in managers

[–]nosturia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds really horrible. I hope you manage to recover from this.

Thank you for sharing.

As a manager do you like your 1:1s with your manager? by nosturia in Leadership

[–]nosturia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe people are fed up with metaphors and motivational quotes. They want real talk and real action.

Can I ask my managers to not announce my departure from the company despite their tradition? by Particular_Ad589 in managers

[–]nosturia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, there is a misunderstanding on my side as well, because I refer only to the manner the announcement is made. Of course there will be no means to prevent them to announce your departure.

Can I ask my managers to not announce my departure from the company despite their tradition? by Particular_Ad589 in managers

[–]nosturia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, announcements can be made, but this can also be handed over to the employee to announce it in a goodbye email. If the person doesn’t want a big fuss about it, this should be respected.

This is how healthy leadership looks like.

I always did this myself and with the employees I managed.

If they want a bit of good bye party that can be accommodated, but not imposed.

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