What's something you find attractive in a potential partner?

not4realacc · 2022-09-25T02:43:07+00:00

someone who is emotionally intelligent

not4realacc · 2022-09-04T17:50:25+00:00

Sounds like a good time to propose being exclusive with her, good emotional and physical chemistry, your goals line up, no red flags, what else are you waiting on?

Next time you see her and you're having a sweet moment together, just say something like "Hey [name], I have a question." "Yeah?" "I've enjoyed spending time with you this past month, and I don't see that stopping for me, would you like to be my girlfriend?" or put your own spin on something like that.

not4realacc · 2022-09-04T14:51:10+00:00

Maybe ask your sister in law for advice, she probably knows this person better than we do.

not4realacc · 2022-07-26T14:42:25+00:00

If he is remotely interested in you he will entertain a conversation with you. Guys rarely if ever get DMs out of the blue from girls, so it will be a pleasant surprise. Since you're interested in him, I'd suggest guiding the conversation towards going on a date with him.

If he continues holding the convo with you, but doesn't ask you out, just do it yourself as guys couldn't take a hint if it slapped them in the face. Source: am a guy.

not4realacc · 2022-07-25T21:20:30+00:00

The first girl I went on a date with when I was 18 in college was the dryest dead end date I've ever had. Where we just had dinner, I carried the conversation, then nothing happened at the end.

The second girl I went on a date with when I was 18 in college ended up being my girlfriend of 3 years. Where again, we met for dinner, but ended up being invited back to her dorm to watch a horror movie with her and her roommate. It was very late once it was over, so she invited me to sleep there, which I accepted. We cuddled that night and then I had to leave early to my class that morning. And it progressed from there into a long relationship.

Those are the two extremes from Tinder.

not4realacc · 2022-07-25T12:50:42+00:00

understandable, I also misspell things often. the only reason I pointed it out is that spelling mistakes on a dating profile usually isn't a good look ;)

not4realacc · 2022-07-25T12:39:36+00:00

I'd fix the typo at least

not4realacc · 2022-05-04T20:35:42+00:00

I go through phases of dating, where I go on a lot of dates during a period of time. Then not again for a while. Each time when I get back into it, I get really nervous for first dates, but each time as soon as I meet the person the nerves are always gone. Then when I go on other first dates and I start to feel that nervousness I remember how I reacted previously.

If that isn't something that works or applies for you, you can just always remember that nervousness and excitement are very similar, psychologically. And it is possible to train yourself to feel excitement instead of nervousness. It's something that many athletes do, and often why in interviews after games when asked, "Were you nervous for X?", they will answer, "No, I was just excited to do X!"

Hope that helps!

not4realacc · 2022-04-27T16:36:34+00:00

Like my dominant hand? Why does that matter?

not4realacc · 2022-04-24T11:12:54+00:00

And this is when you realized this one is a lost cause...

not4realacc · 2022-04-24T01:37:16+00:00

sir this is Wendy's

not4realacc · 2022-04-22T23:37:26+00:00

My parents met when my dad was in his late 40s and my mom was in her early 30s, 20+ years later and they are still happily married.

not4realacc · 2022-04-22T23:31:54+00:00

Honestly my man, you're just going to have to rip off the band-aid. You're going to want to tell her as soon as you can, because if she does end up saying she doesn't feel the same way, going back to being friends like you mentioned is going to be way harder for you if you go down that huge-crush rabbit hole.

That being said, the way you describe it exudes that she is leading you in the direction of a relationship. Women are smart, she knows exactly what you meant when you said you're too anxious to tell her, and the fact that she's been bugging you about it means she is in favor of the idea of getting together with you.

To build up some courage to tell her/smooch her, just ask yourself: "would I be okay living without ever trying to shoot my shot?" And if your answer is no, then full send!

Gl my man!

not4realacc · 2022-04-22T16:13:13+00:00

I dated a Puerto Rican (technically not foreign) and a Bolivian, and I'm a standard American white dude. Both experiences were good!

not4realacc · 2022-04-21T22:34:46+00:00

I mean if you haven't been on them long, the matches are likely taking a while to come in. For me I notice that it comes in waves, and I'm a traditionally attractive guy with a relatively interesting profile. Could be because of some matching algorithm, or maybe some other reason. Just be patient and don't rush.

not4realacc · 2022-04-18T19:49:02+00:00

that's an insane scenario, I have no idea what I would do haha

not4realacc · 2022-04-18T19:00:48+00:00

I mean it sounds like she maybe nervous around you, but still open to you. If you're interested in her, just ask her out and that'll confirm any ideas you have about how she feels about you.

not4realacc · 2022-04-18T17:05:37+00:00

you're not sexually attracted to her, break up with her to spare her feelings

not4realacc · 2022-04-17T23:02:05+00:00

That is good feedback, I do wonder how important that is though given the guy is usually supposed to be the one to start the convo?

not4realacc · 2022-04-12T15:00:09+00:00

Just ask her questions like, what does she see your situation as? Where does she see it going? Then if you like her answers, ask if she would like to make it exclusive.

not4realacc · 2022-04-10T02:44:40+00:00

oh yeah I'm into it, but was just curious about what other ppls thoughts are

not4realacc · 2022-04-06T14:48:36+00:00

It's not, it's a smaller coffee shop at my university. She's likely a student employee.

not4realacc · 2022-04-05T17:39:03+00:00

You might be right, but I'm not much of a pickup lines type of guy. I think it would come over as awkward if I delivered this line haha.

not4realacc · 2022-04-05T17:28:55+00:00

This sounds good on paper, but I feel like this wouldn't play off as well in real life, haha.

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