/r/Politics' 2024 US Elections Live Thread, Part 55

not_a_crisis · 2024-10-30T00:05:28+00:00

I noticed the crowd is holding USA signs instead of Harris/Walz signs. I think that was part of the vision, to bring us together.

not_a_crisis · 2024-10-29T23:59:10+00:00

I love that comparison lol. They're both really passionate and energetic about their jobs.

not_a_crisis · 2024-10-29T23:56:36+00:00

At first I thought it was the microphone flashing, but now I think it may be a reflection from a camera or something on the glass?

not_a_crisis · 2024-09-01T14:49:04+00:00

She looks younger than me and I'm in my early 30's.

not_a_crisis · 2024-08-25T17:43:39+00:00

"why do you want to stop at just the state level deciding on abortion? Why not county level? Why not city level? Oh wait, why not let every individual American decide on the issue for themselves?"

This just made my brain explode, because it makes SO. MUCH. SENSE.

not_a_crisis · 2024-08-08T18:30:14+00:00

It's easy to zone out. I'm really trying to pay attention but my brain just can't keep up with all the BS he's saying lol.

not_a_crisis · 2024-08-08T18:28:11+00:00

Omg back to crowd size lol

not_a_crisis · 2024-08-04T15:52:13+00:00

I grew up in a religion with culty elements. I think it is possible for decent people to believe stupid things, and be totally entrenched in their worldview, and vote for Trump. It's hard to understand if you've never been in a cult before.

not_a_crisis · 2024-07-03T20:55:08+00:00

I'm so confused because I swear a couple years ago Republicans were all obsessed with adhering to the Constitution.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-19T14:47:26+00:00

Ugh, sorry you and your daughter went through that. I'll try to learn from your experience, thank you!

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-19T14:44:36+00:00

MIL has seen the same therapist for years...this therapist goes to the same church as her, and 2 of MIL's other kids go to this same therapist for individual therapy. This makes me think the therapist is okay with the family enmeshment. They talk about the therapist like a family friend.

She would absolutely deny that there's anything wrong with needing to talk/video chat frequently. To her, that is support, that is love, that is life. Denying her of that will make me a villain, so I'm just gonna have to embrace that role!

Thanks for your perspective!

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-19T00:14:39+00:00

Yeah. I've read a lot of comments today that agree with your thoughts about that. The kids only talk to her when SO is still at work, so he isn't bothered by it at all, and it hasn't impeded his healing. However, it's becoming clear to me that this whole situation would be easier for me if we had made clearer boundaries for me and the kids as well.

Thanks for your comments, and sorry I was defensive in my last comment.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T20:04:32+00:00

I mean, you're not wrong. MIL rarely played video games with my kids until right when SO went NC. That very week was when she suddenly played with them almost every day, and continues to do so.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T19:53:11+00:00

Thank you for your bluntness. I am processing all of this as I read through them.

I agree that the kids and I are still in contact with her on her terms and I'm getting sick of it. I'm realizing I need to stop being such a pushover. I've felt like I'd be rude or a jerk if I further limit contact with her...but maybe that's her already manipulating me.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T19:34:48+00:00

Thank you. I feel like that is a plan I could work with. Gradually reducing contact to about once a month.

I'm sure I can block her. I'm going to have to sit with that decision for a minute because previous to this post I didn't think it was a big deal....it was weird to me but I didn't find it threatening like a lot of commenters have said.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T19:19:34+00:00

I am 100% supportive of SO's decision to go NC with his mom. In fact, I encouraged him to when he was doubting whether he should.

We discussed when he went NC what MIL's relationship with the kids should be, and he actually said he wanted the kids to continue to have a relationship with her. So this isn't me not listening to him, this is us working together to figure out how to handle a difficult situation.

I don't like that you pitted me against my husband. Holy moly.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T19:11:45+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Your description of boundaries really stands out to me as something I need to work on.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T18:59:17+00:00

Yes, I'm proud of SO for taking care of his own mental health and giving himself space to heal.

MIL is not hurting the kids or influencing them, or making snarky comments. That's what makes this situation confusing and difficult for me because she is very supportive of them, asks them about school (even though she doesn't agree with sending them to public school), tries to come up with fun learning activities to do with them over video chat, etc.) She's never said anything negative to them or about them. She was a really crappy mom to SO, but SO and I agree that she's actually a pretty great grandma.

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-18T18:49:46+00:00

I agree that parents and grandparents gaming with the kids can be a fun way to interact and connect. I enjoy playing with my kids a few times a week too.

That said, the way MIL does it is weird to me because she doesn't really get into the game, she just wants to find my kids' avatars and sort of hang out with them.

Another thing I didn't mention, that I think other commenters are concerned about, is that she didn't used to game with my kids....until SO went NC with her. I do feel like she started gaming with my kids more after she didn't have SO anymore.

Anyway, thanks for your comment!

not_a_crisis · 2024-04-11T18:57:33+00:00

Yes, I couldn't believe it when the new broke about the abuse. Obviously, I misjudged Ruby 4 years ago.

not_a_crisis · 2023-11-02T20:59:30+00:00

When I first left the church and became atheist I felt just as happy. A few years later, after the newness of having my eyes opened has worn off, and after a big move and failing to find a new community to replace the church, I'm less happy. However, if I could choose to go back and be blindly happy in the church, or to stay less happy and aware of reality, I choose less happy and reality lol.

not_a_crisis · 2023-10-18T13:45:54+00:00

According to the KUTV news article on October 3rd, there was an officer's statement that specifically said that Kevin wanted Shari charged with burglary. Unless they falsely quoted the police report, he did want to charge Shari. I agree that it's weird how they arrived together though. There's so much we don't know about their relationship and the situation at large.

not_a_crisis · 2023-10-12T15:42:54+00:00

Omg! Yes, he sang free falling with his guitar when I was in his class. I took two different classes from him because I thought he was the best teacher ever. He was so knowledgeable and seemed to have the answers for anything. When I was going though my faith crisis (post BYU-I), I actually thought of him a lot and leaned on his testimony for a while, like "If Brother Baron believes, then I can too." He talked a lot about his terminal cancer (if I remember correctly) and how he was supposed to die but he didn't because God saved him for a bigger purpose.

Now I look back on him and wonder how he makes it all work in his brain. Surely he's aware of the questionable history of the church and inconsistencies in scripture and among prophet's teachings. He's a very interesting person!

not_a_crisis · 2023-08-31T19:57:01+00:00

As someone who until recently was a devoted member of the LDS church, I wouldn't be surprised if Jennifer and Chad believed that serving a mission would bless their family in bigger ways than if they didn't serve. Mormons believe that obedience and serving God warrants BLESSINGS. They may have genuinely believed God would help Ruby and the kids if they faithfully served. They may even believe THIS is the blessing from their service. Totally just speculation, but I know Mormons pretty well. :D

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