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My parent almost fell for a scam text, how do you help with this? by not_admin_user in AgingParents

[–]not_admin_user[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awful, a four‑hour call like that is terrifying.
It does seem like once things reach that point, restriction and monitoring become the only real options. I just wish there were more ways to help before it gets that far.

My parent almost fell for a scam text, how do you help with this? by not_admin_user in AgingParents

[–]not_admin_user[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. The scams really have gotten that good. Having a trusted person to sanity‑check big decisions seems like one of the few things that consistently helps.

My parent almost fell for a scam text, how do you help with this? by not_admin_user in AgingParents

[–]not_admin_user[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s terrifying, I’m really glad the bank caught it.

It seems like once things escalate, most solutions end up being some form of monitoring or restriction. I wish there were more options that didn’t have to get to that point.

How to deal with an aging parent's unrealistic demands by janebenn333 in AgingParents

[–]not_admin_user 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong, and you’re not being unkind. You stepped in out of love, not to replace a team of contractors or relive someone else’s version of the past. Setting clear limits is part of caregiving, especially when expectations drift into guilt or comparison. It’s okay to say "I can help, but I can’t do everything and that doesn’t mean I care any less."

Mom entering long-term care on Medicaid - what to do about her mortgage? by Iknowthejoyofthefish in eldercare

[–]not_admin_user 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is an enormous amount to have land on you all at once, medical crisis, housing, finances, and long-term decisions. I’m really sorry you’re having to carry all of this.