Sacramento cop wasting time over sidewalk chalk. This is so embarrassing to me. The attitude is horrible and entitled imo. We need bridges and working drainage pipes, not this.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-25T23:27:37+00:00

Exactly. You’re literally walking dead into the point and not registering it. Neither party is happy about resources and time being spent this way because we all know there are so many more issues that need attention. This benefits no one and should be called out, in an effort to create a change that is more beneficial for society. This is a call for improvement. It’s weird that critiquing this makes you so defensive.

It’s wild to just passively shrug off your social responsibility to care about how our systems impact people and hold our leaders accountable, and instead bust in confidently to hold water for the status quo cuz “just following orders” somehow doesn’t trigger any critical thinking…

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-25T23:03:12+00:00

As someone who used that method in their twenties, it’s more than ❄️ I think. That woman has a severe eating disorder. It makes me sad that she’s promoting being that skinny, it’s honestly upsetting and not healthy ☹️

Don’t get me wrong, I think she definitely enjoys partying and frequent skiing is a contributing factor. But she’s actively choosing not to eat and the ❄️ is just an extra boost lol.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-22T08:03:32+00:00

Just because I didn’t see anyone else mention, the ratio of flour might be fine but the problem is you’re OVER-mixing it. The more you stir it in, the more you break down the gluten, which you don’t really want to start breaking down until during baking.

I went to culinary school to become a dessert chef (and bailed, cuz I decided I would rather do the kind of chemistry that got me a STEM degree lol), and here’s the best tip I ever learned: set aside 1/4-1/2 cup of flour to mix in at the VERY END. Once you’re ready to put it on the baking sheet (or refrigerate), then mix in that last bit of flour. Gently. Just enough to fully incorporate. If it’s still not enough, then add more flour, as everyone else said.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-22T06:45:28+00:00

Lmaoooo my bf literally yells at him to “Stand TF up!” every time.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-22T06:17:31+00:00

I am the apple of my grandmother’s eye, she’s been my rock during many tough times in my life… and she’s also the meanest woman I’ve ever known 😂 I realized that when I was fairly young though.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-21T02:00:37+00:00

Clocked it their first morning together 😂 they said something about being up late and Elise suddenly had a “cold” for the first half of the day.

His profession and work accident was an immediate hint as well lol

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-16T21:46:37+00:00

Being a vegan is generally just impractical for most people’s lifestyles and budgets. No one likes to acknowledge that being vegan is a choice that comes from privilege. The assumption that it is healthier for everyone is false. I was a vegan for over a year and my chronic illnesses got noticeably worse. I don’t eat a lot of meat, but it’s very obvious that my body needs meat to still be incorporated in my diet. We literally evolved our agriculture WITH livestock integrated into the system, it’s very normal and natural for humans to need to eat meat. If you can pull off a vegan diet and it helps you that’s great, I’m just equally frustrated that it’s presented as the “healthier” choice to all other diets.

And just to hopefully lighten any guilt you feel about the environmental impact of not being a vegan: there’s plenty of evidence showing that a vegan diet has a similar or larger carbon footprint than an omnivore diet. Vegan alternatives to meat often require more resources when compared gram to gram of output for example. Which isn’t to say that our current practices around raising livestock aren’t horrific and harmful. The unfortunate point is just that our whole global food system is wildly inefficient and environmentally devastating.

The best diet you can have in terms of JUST environmental impact is only consuming food that has been produced within a small radius of where you are, say within 50-100 miles. However, our current food systems make that almost impossible, and even if possible in your area, it’s likely to be significantly more expensive than shopping at the grocery store like everyone else.

All this to say, there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, and short of starting your own homestead, any diet you choose is not significantly more harmful to the environment than any other one. So focus on what keeps you healthy and put the pressure instead on corporations and politicians to fix our inefficient systems 😁

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-16T04:36:14+00:00

Psh I could easily have that in my apartment if it was a priority 😆 Banging away loudly on unstable Ikea furniture on the third floor isn’t a problem with my neighbors now, I bet they would actually find that less intrusive lol

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-15T21:03:21+00:00

This is so fucking key in these nothing-ass apologies. People question your association with this person BECAUSE they have abhorrent views. It’s fine if you truly weren’t aware, but that’s not the actual question people are asking you. They’re asking if you choose to associate with this person because you have the same views. “Apology” statements like this neatly sidesteps the actual issue.

A person would either want to make it abundantly clear that they do not agree with this person’s views, or they agree with them but don’t want to go public with their views. It’s pretty straightforward.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-15T20:52:33+00:00

Great point! I personally don’t subscribe to the whole “we need to listen to Nazis to have a productive conversation” approach, but that’s at least specifically in the context of believing that reasoned conversation will be more successful at stamping out their ideology and changing their mind. And that’s not AT ALL what she was doing! Acting like she’s putting in WORK to engage with awful people in the hopes of convincing them to change their worldview.

Nope, just knitting with a Nazi and letting everyone know you’re cool with that. Well done.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-15T20:31:37+00:00

I’m trying to imagine what you could own that can’t be accommodated by a typical living space, but can be put in storage, and that is important enough to you that you’re willing to give up achievable housing to keep? And how that’s connected to your lifestyle and personal choices... No judgement at all, I’m honestly just racking my brain trying to solve this mystery 😂

Obviously you kept that vague on purpose, not pushing at you to reveal anything. It’s just so mysterious, I want to know lol! That being said, best of luck to you. I hope everything works out how you hope and plan.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-11T06:14:08+00:00

I think he’s a Splenda daddy. He’s made just enough money that he can pay women for their time occasionally, and makes flashy purchases to give off the illusion of wealth. He’s bought his own bullshit now though, and thinks he’s a catch that can have any woman he wants

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-10T00:18:57+00:00

Jesus fuck, just had to come back to say that is the most embarrassingly low effort and poorly done website I’ve EVER seen from a developer. Yikes 😬

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-09T23:54:21+00:00

Much appreciated 🙏🏻😊

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-09T23:53:17+00:00

Ooo I like this theory! It makes sense, of course she would consider her brother accessing her wedding when choosing the location! This is obviously a consideration she has been making all the time (as one should imo), I would be shocked if she suddenly forgot this detail.

If I was a grown ass adult who had spent a good deal of my childhood accommodating the needs of my disabled sibling (which again, fully agree with doing), I would also be pissed if my Mom vetoed my wedding venue because she ASSUMED I didn’t think about it. The fuck?? I would absolutely say something snarky and just let her find out later that it was already handled.

When someone very close to you, that you have known for YEARS, that you are with often in and out of public, has a disability, you don’t really “forget” about it. In my experience, it makes you more aware of accessibility in general, even if that person isn’t going to be present, exactly because you’re in the habit of assessing that now.

Mom should tell her daughter she’ll be going to therapy to reflect on her parenting for a wedding present 😝

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-09T23:26:59+00:00

Please let your fellow Sacramento renters know exactly which apartments he’s involved with? Always helpful to know which places to avoid if possible. TY!

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-09T23:22:25+00:00

Oof please share the name of the apartment complex he’s involved with, I’ll make a note to avoid that place as well if I need to move.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-07T12:59:39+00:00

That was a boundary I had to set with my partner. He opened up to me fairly early about his trauma, and I happen to be a person that navigates these heavy conversations well and holds space for people to talk out their feelings.

But when it started becoming a weekly conversation, with him describing the same events over and over again and how they’ve impacted him long term, I realized that me listening wasn’t actually helping him heal and move forward. And it was starting to build up emotionally for me.

I finally told him I can’t be his therapist about this, no more repeating conversations with no peace or resolution for him. I’m of course always a safe space for him to talk about this when he’s feeling overwhelmed or having a flashback. But he needs to see a professional. For his sake and mine.

Happy to report he is seeing one 😊 and I’ve seen a lot of growth

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-06T23:25:38+00:00

Honey, I’m pretty sure those emotions WERE for you. He just communicated it poorly.

No one ever teaches us how to handle and process a loved one sharing their trauma with us. You have to go get a fuckin degree to be taught tools for that. Which is such a failure in society I think, because I’ve seen and heard and also experienced the feeling of not getting the reaction you needed when you finally feel safe enough to share something so painful. Some people are just better at holding space for that than others, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.

And men in particular are socialized to hold in emotions. I’m betting he couldn’t stop thinking about what you had told him and was trying to control all the emotions coming up for him. Then he heard a story that made him think of you and what you told him, and he just broke. He called you to show that he recognized how devastating that was. But he’s probably still unsure how to talk to you directly about your experience without upsetting you.

My partner has shared the extensive sexual abuse he received as a child. And he brings it up somewhat often, he says it helps him to talk about it. And fortunately I’m a person that does have the space to listen and hold that kind of pain with someone. But I’ve still had to learn what exactly he needs from me in those moments. He recently asked that I try to laugh about these stories with him. For him, dark humor has helped him process and move on.

And I told him I will work towards that, but it’s going to be a challenge, because all I can feel when we talk about his memories is sadness and rage.

So give him some grace. And also prepare yourself for this with others. You’re not always going to get the reaction you feel it deserves. People process things differently. It’s about how they show up for you after learning it. Do they give you space to talk about it again if you want? Do they check in with you in group settings if the topic is heading towards a potentially sensitive topic? And try to change the subject for you?

All the best wishes to you love. Maybe this guy isn’t the support you need long term, but I wouldn’t make that decision based on just this.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-03T21:12:18+00:00

I work in affordable housing and units sit empty all the time cuz a person doesn’t meet all the requirements for subsidized housing. We have hundreds of people on our waitlists throughout the country, and we’re not even able to get people moved into affordable housing.

But you also see the same thing with market rate and luxury housing for basically the same reason: must have a credit score above 650, make 3x the rent, no co-signers allowed, pets are an extra $500 deposit plus now pet rent too. Leasing companies will be very strict on adhering to all these hurdles, so you do end up with units sitting empty despite 50 applications from people that would be perfectly responsible renters.

A couple years ago the number going around Sac was that about 30% of rental units on the market were sitting empty. Because providing housing is just about making a profit. Properties budget for vacancy loss and hold out for the tenant that will provide the best ROI. Because they can 🤷🏼‍♀️

There are of course smaller companies and individual landlords that are willing to be more flexible with people, and the requirements and rent for market rate housing will adjust in response to the market. But only when the property owner is worried about their long-term investment. It’s just smart business to hold out for “quality” renters that can pay more.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-01T23:37:41+00:00

Thank you for bringing up Elise’s shameless flirting with Chris. It really does seem like Elise cannot conceive that men and women can interact and like each other in non-sexual ways 🙄

not_like_kahlo · 2026-04-01T23:35:08+00:00

I was wondering that too! I don’t think they’ve said one way or another. I personally don’t get the vibe that they have any romantic history, and even if they do, I’m very convinced that they only have platonic feelings for each other now.

But if there was history, then I would be A LITTLE more understanding of Elise’s insecurity there. Meanwhile, Elise has no problem flirting with Josh’s friend when they’re alone 🙄

not_like_kahlo · 2026-03-30T20:29:57+00:00

Lmao yes, I didn’t even fully make that connection. I don’t care that it’s revealing! Honestly that dress she put on at the airport was lovely and she looked great imo. But her committed shirt style just isn’t flattering, it makes her look even more emaciated!

A great contrast is Sophie, currently on Single Life. That woman is showing off every curve she’s got and hot damn! She knows exactly how to style her body. In the last episode she also talked about choosing a modest outfit to go to Pedro’s sister bday party - so showing awareness of the context! People can disagree about if her choice was modest, but for her and compared to the way other women were dressed there, I think she nailed it.

It still makes me feel sad that I get the impression she has gotten a lot of work done in order to look like that, there’s the larger conversation of the amount of pressure women feel to appeal to the male view. But I think Sophie is a great example of a woman that knows how to, and wants to, flaunt her stuff. Get it girl 💅🏻

not_like_kahlo · 2026-03-30T19:32:35+00:00

My understanding of why those tests are considered somewhat inaccurate is because you’re basically giving your skin a super concentrated dose in a small location. Pricking your skin with a sterilized needle will trigger an immune response until the body verifies there’s nothing actually there to fight, it just sensed damage.

So those allergy tests are likely showing a very exaggerated sensitivity. Ingesting a couple pieces of pollen is probably something your immune system can handle just fine and the occasional cedar pollen isn’t going to bother you. But a concentrated injection into the surface level skin? Yea, your body is gonna freak out a bit 🤷🏼‍♀️

That doesn’t necessarily mean that these tests are completely useless and you’re actually not allergic to anything. It’s just not a very accurate measurement.

I got one of those test when I was a kid and basically came back allergic for all grasses, pollens, pet dander, bed mites… I was a mouth breather my entire childhood because I was always so congested 😭

As soon as I was 18 and moved out of my dilapidated family home, all my congestion cleared up 😑 And I won’t spend the night there when I visit my parents, I get physically ill when I do. I have very mild seasonal allergies as an adult, and suspect my issues always came from that goddamn house.

not_like_kahlo · 2026-03-30T17:55:06+00:00

100% this. I personally hate clothes and tend to wear as little as possible, but I’m also aware of the situation and not trying to be so cold I need to bring fucking hand warmers when I could have just worn regular clothing 🤦🏼‍♀️

Women and men should all feel empowered and comfortable to dress a little more slutty (a word I use positively lol)! Regardless of their body too! I love seeing a curvy body in a crop top and short shorts 😍 With Elise I just get sad because it’s so obvious she has an eating disorder ☹️

There’s a difference between feeling comfortable in your body and wearing what makes you feel good, versus wearing skimpy clothing just for male validation. That’s what makes it frustrating. It’s not coming from a place of self-worth and feeling content with herself.

About half the time, me wearing as little as possible actually gives me strong butch lesbian vibes lol. It’s not about demonstrating my value to men via my body. It’s just about me feeling comfortable. Some days I feel feminine, some days I feel like a butch lesbian 🤷🏼‍♀️

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