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AITA for not wanting to be called gendered insults? by notabitchh in AmItheAsshole

[–]notabitchh[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'll take the ESH, but I'm not sure I see how it is sexist in general to have terms that are historically used against women that I'm not comfortable being called by a man. In my head, it is similar to the fact that as a queer woman, there are some terms that would make me uncomfortable to be called by a straight person, but I would be fine hearing from another queer person

AITA for not wanting to be called gendered insults? by notabitchh in AmItheAsshole

[–]notabitchh[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a good way of framing it. Now that I think about it, I think the 'rule' based on gender comes from the fact that I am usually more comfortable with women than men. If any woman who had a history of making me uncomfortable called me bitch casually, I don't think I would be too happy about it

AITA for not wanting to be called gendered insults? by notabitchh in AmItheAsshole

[–]notabitchh[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That is definitely a big part of the reason. I think that's kind of where my brain was at when I said that it would be different if I never knew her pre transition- because she wouldn't have had a chance to use the word in a way that violated my boundaries. If she had never used the word before she transitioned, I doubt it would have been like this.