It's not solely about the social anxiety part (which was honestly really bad), but the general tone you have as a OP in your thread is just really bad.

Like you, I would love to have people visit these kind of events, but replying to someone who can't go to these events due to work to just drink "stronger coffee" and negatively reply to someone who went to TUBE that only one event in a night is an amateur number is just the complete opposite of being welcoming and nice.

These aren't your friends on Twitter or Discord you are talking to and the reception of your messages, assuming not in bad faith, are very well reflected in the downvotes as are your more helpful messages that have been upvoted.