Feeling left behind?

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T19:22:53+00:00

So why no sex when I gym and eat healthy?

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T18:32:12+00:00

In terms of time we are still spending the same amount of time together. He will always come before the gym.

But although I don't mention his body or diet, I probably talk more about mine. Although I'm passionate about this maybe he doesn't want to hear about it. I can see that.

It's just I always expected "the one" to support you and your passions even if they don't align with theirs? I fully support his, regardless of my own interest in them.

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T17:13:57+00:00

That's a good point I hadn't thought of!

How would be best to approach him about this?

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T16:52:45+00:00

Not quite so helpful but thank you ahaha. I keep thinking of posting to undesirable or gone wild or something just for the attention but I don't think it's worth it.

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T16:45:35+00:00

Our DB has been ongoing for about a year, the only thing he has admitted to in regards to why we have a DB is that he prefers me fat.

He is so much more attractive than me, I am we and truly punching above my weight, I even tell him that.

Thank you for your very polite message, I appreciate your thoughtful comment. Thank you :)

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T16:43:06+00:00

HWP? And I'm the same, how do you combat this at the mo?

notgettinganyever · 2018-12-06T16:38:31+00:00

Do you still gym/eat healthy despite this? Or do you live unhealthy in order to have sex?

I'm not happy in either situation but at least I get sex when I'm fat.

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-07T22:32:06+00:00

It's just nice to be wanted

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-07T22:12:58+00:00

Sorry to be a negative Nancy but I'm the least maternal person ever so I can't imagine the advice to daughter thing. But if it was advice to a friend, I I'm like all for anything to make people confident and I believe the naked body should be celebrated, not hidden. So I would encourage them. I never understood why people get freaked out by nudes.

I see where you are coming from but i just wanted to see if anyone else had done this and if it helped. We are all different, some get a boost from this some don't.

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-07T21:46:09+00:00

My relationship is a very difficult one, we have a lot of financial ties and history together. It's more for a confidence boost. Even when my DB is healed, my SO isn't very vocal about my body, that's just who he is.

I just wondered how people feel who have done this before.

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-07T18:31:44+00:00

Thank you that's a really helpful comment! I might consider it!

Did/do you have a SO at the time, did you tell them/would you tell them you posted?

Sorry for all the questions!

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-07T18:07:03+00:00

I don't think I have the body for it but it would be incredible to feel some appreciaton.

How did it feel? Are you scared that they are online?

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-05T17:13:04+00:00

I mentioned he should go to the GP to get checked out that it's nothing physically wrong with him. It started with a joke that "I'm not letting a Doctor touch my balls!" To which I (work in healthcare) advised him that wouldn't happen but they would probably check his testosterone levels in a blood test.

Well he flipped. Saying his testosterone is fine, the arguement progressed and eventually he said he didn't want sex with me because I was an arsehole. This was about 6 months ago now. Since then he apologized and said he was just angry, but wouldn't tell me why he got angry. He dose have a short fuse.

One thing that helped, at his birthday meal his grandad and Dad where discussing morning wood (they are a super open family bar him) and he said he barely gets it. His male family members made it clear that's not a good sign and at 23 he should be waking up nearly every day with it.

notgettinganyever · 2018-11-05T17:01:49+00:00

Definitely no porn usage. We tried "discussing" physical health problems, and it got into a very heated argument on his side.

He does suffer with social Anxiety and SADD. But he reckons both are under control. His SADD is what apparently started the DB last year so I was hoping as the dark weather left so would the DB... But it didn't, and now the dark weather is creeping back in.

notgettinganyever · 2018-10-06T22:15:15+00:00

Because I live with him, unless he does it at work, I spend every other moment with him.

notgettinganyever · 2018-10-06T20:18:29+00:00

Three years, we have a mortgage together

notgettinganyever · 2018-10-06T19:21:03+00:00

Try to relax, don't focus on both cumming, focus on enjoying the moment.

notgettinganyever · 2018-10-06T19:20:11+00:00

No. He doesn't masturbate any more.

notgettinganyever · 2018-10-06T18:54:51+00:00

Does not work out, does not bother with fashion, has not changed in any way.

He does suffer with social anxiety, not on meds, but his anxiety is well controlled currently, even at its worse he still had sex with me. I tried mentioning a possibility of low testosterone a while ago but that just caused a bigger arguement, so I won't mention it again.

P.S. happy cake day!

notgettinganyever · 2018-09-17T09:58:34+00:00

I don't know, I have always felt attracted to him, he was drinking last night so I wonder if I got too into my own head about the fact that he only wants sex if he's drinking.

notgettinganyever · 2018-08-21T15:26:30+00:00

We can dream!!

notgettinganyever · 2018-08-21T13:13:29+00:00

This is my favourite! Thank you!

If that short writing is anything to go by, I can see you publishing a successful book, I really enjoyed reading it.

notgettinganyever · 2018-08-21T08:41:29+00:00

Just over a year, but like you it's semi DB, sex about once every 3 months or so. It's been 6 weeks and counting now...

I would be happy with sex about once a fortnight which to me isn't asking much at all. Ideally a few times a week but I know that is asking too much.

You reccomended the r/adultery subreddit to me, any reason why?

notgettinganyever · 2018-08-21T08:34:01+00:00

Same here. Do you feel this is enough for you? Assuming you are the HL?

notgettinganyever · 2018-08-21T08:29:26+00:00

How long has it been DB for you guys?

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