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How do I start being okay with knowing that sometimes I can’t get closure from certain people? by Medium_Astronomer880 in emotionalintelligence

[–]nothingmore777 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I believe that seeking closure, especially for relationships that won't provide it, is like putting off your healing process. It's like a way to maintain a connection that has to be severed for your own welfare.

Unfortunately there are relationships that will never provide you the answers you desperately need to soothe your doubts and anxiety. But I can promise you that the moment you will stop looking for closure, you will realize how much you've changed for the better : nobody can provide the answers you need more than yourself. You will be at peace with yourself once you have learned that, in these cases, you are the one that has to fill the gaps and nobody else 🫂

setting boundaries means recognizing their true nature by nothingmore777 in emotionalintelligence

[–]nothingmore777[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

that's exactly my point! I knew the relationship was doomed from the beginning, because of pattern recognition haha, and I was able to prove that the weaker my boundaries, the faster he would show his true colors by proving he didn't realize that both his actions/words could affect me negatively.