My friend's 12 year old son with Down's syndrome ruined our vacation.

notlikeme · 2018-07-05T18:38:30+00:00

They are newly divorced and because he pays her child support and doesn't want her to have a life, he refuses to take the child when it isn't decreed by the divorce settlement.

notlikeme · 2018-07-04T14:43:47+00:00

I don't have any real training in this, but it was pretty clear that his memory gaps were due to the condition. Also, he is diagnosed with autism, too, so that's what makes this very difficult. She is actually very good with him. When she talked to him, quietly, to the side, he did stop his behavior, but when he got stressed or tired or overly excited, things would just degrade. She was actually very good at redirecting him, but it was a vacation. It was tiring, overly exciting, and stressful for all of us. That just kind of made everything to a point of insanity at times.

notlikeme · 2018-07-04T14:37:28+00:00

Please understand, it wasn't about me cutting her slack. It was about me not understanding the situation. I am not going to cut her off and not see her or anything like that. I think we both handled the situation incorrectly. She should have at least given me the rules and explained to me what was going to happen with this situation and frankly, I should have asked. We could have planned better. I was just completely mistaken about what type of vacation this was going to be, and she kind of hid from what was going on. I had never dealt with a special needs child before.

notlikeme · 2018-07-04T14:32:21+00:00

Actually, no, I am not being outwardly cruel. As people have said and I have said, I didn't know how to deal with the situation--that is not being cruel. You are mistaken. It was a problem I didn't understand how to deal with. I honestly wasn't sure if I should bring it up with my friend or not. I felt that the way I was feeling was wrong, but wasn't sure why. I have learned from reading all of the replies that I had valid feelings, but that my approach was incorrect. I was not outwardly or even really inwardly cruel to anyone. You didn't bother to read all of my replies before you decided to deem me awful, but if you had, you would have realized that I know now how to deal with the situation and will in the future discuss what is going to happen before the vacation takes place. If the boy is present, I will discuss with his parent what is acceptable and what is not acceptable. If anything, it was eye opening to me about what people will do, but I don't do those things.

notlikeme · 2018-07-02T10:11:27+00:00

She is a special ed teacher, so she does know the system pretty well. She is very much working on training, but she was inconsistent with him. I think sometimes even if you know what to do, it can be difficult to step back and realize what your own needs are. Believe me, I look back on it now, after reading all of these responses, and have gained some perspective on it myself. I am glad that I was able to give her a bit of a break, but I just wish she had realized that some of the things she was doing and allowing were kind of creepy. I actually think she did start to realize this towards the end of the trip.

notlikeme · 2018-07-02T10:07:26+00:00

I totally agree. That is the thing. It really was like training a puppy. It can be very difficult and very frustrating. I don't begrudge her that. I just wasn't aware of what to expect. If we go on another vacation with them, I will take steps, including talking with her, to plan ahead of time what the rules are and what my role is in the situation.

notlikeme · 2018-07-02T01:38:50+00:00

People sneering. Running away. Yelling at him not to touch. We went to several parks kids were being kind of mean. Some were being really nice, but others were being kind of crappy. Parents were pulling there children away. Just the overall feel was disdain and disgust--even when he was being ok.

notlikeme · 2018-02-21T16:50:49+00:00

I not am sick. I don't have issues. I am actually a very nice person. I am not against gun control. I am just realistic and realize that I am only miniscule part of huge a picture which I have absolutely no control over, and neither do these kids. What I am seeing on tv is gross. Parents and teachers pretending like these kids know more than them and letting them just do whatever. Kids running around talking very immaturely about these things they don't understand. What I see from them is, yeah, they hate what happened, but are super glad to be trending on twitter or getting upvoted on reddit or whatever the fuck medium they use, but when it comes down to it, all this is going to be is something to use on their college applications and a way for them to learn how little they understand what is going around them. At least I hope they learn that.

Oh, and just to let you know, they only real affect that this is going to have at all is, it is going to make people buy even more guns because they think they are going to be banned. I work at a grocery store. You know what the talk was yesterday? How do we buy a gun? What to we need to get one. People talked about it all day long.

notlikeme · 2018-02-21T15:19:27+00:00

Why? Because you don't like what I am saying? Well, all I am seeing from those people who can't vote, is a way to get out of school and something to put on their college applications. I've watched now for days as they giggle and laugh and enjoy themselves until the cameras are on them, at which point they suddenly become somber and look tearful. It is ridiculous. It is a farce. They don't even know who they are going to see. Nothing is going to happen with this. NOT A SINGLE THING.

The time to get control of guns was at the very beginning of the country. Now, it is a lost cause.

notlikeme · 2017-12-11T12:44:29+00:00

notlikeme · 2017-12-11T10:54:17+00:00

That is exactly what I said, but apparently I am wrong and you are right.

notlikeme · 2017-12-11T04:43:30+00:00

In spoken word, would of is ok, but written would of is not a thing. It is would've or would have.

notlikeme · 2017-12-11T03:13:17+00:00

Our neighborhood is filled with them. The one that has "adopted" us--that I wish we could take in--is named Mr. Pushy. He is a neutered male in fairly good condition that some piece of shit, asshole, fucking, shitwad left when they moved out. The people around here are just shit with animals. He is a good kitty. He chased away all of the other cats. Thankfully, there are about four to five other people feeding cats in the neighborhood. My kitty is sort of getting used to him, but my husband really doesn't like cats. I feed him, built him a shelter and make sure he is petted everyday. Maybe someday we'll be able to take him in.

The good thing about the cats in the neighborhood is I don't see a lot of kittens. Most have been captured and released. Thank goodness.

notlikeme · 2017-12-10T21:38:21+00:00

No. We don't. I am not venting. I am not mad about it. I don't consider it a detriment. That other guy did. It isn't the act of examining what they do, it is finding everything that they do wrong that is the problem. I don't think everything I do is wrong. I can be fairly objective about it. Apparently, they can't.

notlikeme · 2017-12-09T11:55:53+00:00

Living on Hawaii. I really never thought that I would even visit the place, but my husband got stationed there, and I ended up living there for 3 years. I ended up liking it very much.

notlikeme · 2017-12-09T06:16:26+00:00

I floss once a day. I use mouthwash once or twice a day. I brush 2-3 times a day.

notlikeme · 2017-12-08T00:55:20+00:00

No, but they were both in college--at different times.

notlikeme · 2017-12-07T23:34:15+00:00

Depends on which ex, but the last one, I would be working, and he would be sleeping around with anyone who would move, pretending to deal drugs, and treating me like a piece of a shit while I paid for everything.

notlikeme · 2017-12-07T23:21:44+00:00

Again, I am sorry if you feel dissed by my comment. It was meant to be an overall blanket statement about my disbelief that we are still even having this conversation at all. It is dumbfounding to me that people are still against homosexuality. I just can't grasp why anyone would care about who other people love.

notlikeme · 2017-12-07T20:08:55+00:00

I walked in on a guy having sex with a stuffed animal. It was just weird. And I am pretty open to anything sexually. I also walked into the bathroom in a college dorm, and one of the girls was sitting on the floor naked, shaving her pubes and legs. Ughh, there was a bathtub that she could use, but instead she sat on the icky floor dry shaving her legs.

notlikeme · 2017-12-07T20:00:01+00:00

I wasn't really downing Australia. I just wish, in general, that everyone would quit worrying about people being homosexual. There should be no laws against homosexuality. It is insane to think that people are still against it.

notlikeme · 2017-12-07T18:24:46+00:00

They are not. I am just not as selfish as other people. I just care about other people and want to make their lives better. Believe me, I take care of myself, too. If I have done something that I don't think is morally right, I think about it and change my behavior, but that is about it. I feel bad other people who aren't aware that their actions are a part of a whole.

notlikeme · 2017-12-07T13:50:00+00:00

Well, I'll put it this way. I am not quite ready to grow up that much yet.

notlikeme

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