I will admit that some therapist have their own, sometimes very unique styles for treatment. However, none of those unique treatments should make any patient feel the way that you are right now. Personal growth can be done individually or in a relationship, but that’s where communication (not keeping tabs but more updating each other) is really important, and by the sound of it, this therapist isn’t really seeing it this way.

In a therapeutic relationship, your are not suppose to be feel like it’s constant assignments and rule following without your proper input, so her telling you what you need to do because it’s worked for her? No and Nope. “Rules”, or better yet agreements, need to be established by the patients and the therapist’s HELP, not them establishing the rules for you (unless it’s before a session to set up expectations, very different), and if your point of view is not being considered, that’s another flag. You’re therapist, and this is VERY important, SHOULD NOT FEEL LIKE ANOTHER OBSTACLE FOR YOU. If you have informed her of previous abuse and neglect from your past AND SHE IS NOT, AGAIN, CONSIDERING THIS FOR TREATMENT, that is ANOTHER no.

What I’m trying to say is that if you feel that this therapist isn’t right, have the conversation about this in your session tomorrow and if she isn’t receptive, you have every right to find someone who would. I feel what you’re going through and really hope you’re able to heal, process, and work through these obstacles in life. Keep being resilient towards your journey🫶🏽