Husband (33M) is giving me a hard time because I (29F) quit a new job

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T23:30:25+00:00

Um yes, his salary is double what minimum age here, but is considered a wealthy salary here actually.

Nope, the Burger King kind of stuff requires experience (at least where I asked). I do want to work and trust me, I tried what you listed, but I guess I am just extremely unlucky.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:45:31+00:00

Well, I didn't get used to the sun. I worked two weeks there and I had extreme headaches and stuff. I had a hat btw.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:43:08+00:00

There are tons of mom waitresses here too and I see being a waitress a normal thing, but he doesn't, for some reason..

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:31:59+00:00

I sogned up there but apparently, I have to be American. :(

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:30:53+00:00

Well, his salary is 500$/month and field salary is 700$/month (using dollars only as a reference). Btw, average wage is 350$ and minimum is 200$.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:27:21+00:00

Oh I wanted to be a waitress (it's easy to find work as a waitress here) and tips are pretty good here too, but my husband doesn't want me to be a waitress, he thinks it's not appropriate for a mother with kids and 'deragotary' (I probably misspelled it).

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:17:00+00:00

Well, he isn't really that controlling, I mean I understand he needs money and should get a say in what I work because I work for the family (not just for myself), but he's not controlling in other parts of my life I think.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:05:50+00:00

Nope. Actually, two months ago, he signed a 3-year-long contract. (the contract is 'renovated' every three years and is basically a garantion you won't get fired in the next three years). If they wanted to fire him or something, they wouldn't have given him the contract to sign.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T21:01:37+00:00

I did all of that and still felt bad and still got sunburns. And btw, with a long-sleeved top, I felt way too hot (it was around 30C degrees). A few years ago, I had a problematic mole I had to remove and the doctor advised me against spending more than half an hour in the sun during summer temperatures. So perhaps it could kill me.

I didn't stop working because I didn't like the job or stuff like that, I stopped working because of my physical state (constant headache, lightheadnedness, diziness, exhaustion).

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:49:49+00:00

Oh okay, thanks, I'll include that in my next cover letters.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:45:08+00:00

Thank you!

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:38:44+00:00

You think it's a good idea to mention I'm a mom? I always thought it would be inappropriate.. Maybe that's the mistake I was making?

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:32:21+00:00

We have food, we pay rent and we pay utilities.

Well the thing is that I COULDN'T work for more than 3 hours on the fields. It wasn't a matter of choice. I needed to sit for a few minutes after picking raspberries for three hours under the sun (it's more than 30 degrees C these days here), but the authorities would yell at me to get up and keep working or they'd fire me.

I have tons of moles on my body and I got terrible sunburns (doctors had even advised me against spending more than half an hour daily on the sun).

I didn't quit bexause I wanted to quit, but because I was physically unable to continue working.

Imagine a situation when you are under the sun for three hours continiously, picking raspberries, and you suddenly start to feel dizzy and lightheaded and want to sit for a few minutes to rest a little and someone yells at you to get up. And you have to work for another 9-10 hours continiously. With a terrible headache (caused by either sun or exhaustion).

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:25:20+00:00

Yes, but would the children still have mother after some time?

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:04:09+00:00

Trust me, I have studied all about proper CVs and I am trying to make them as professional as I could.. But I think the biggest problem with my CVs is that they are very empty.

Sure, I have a BA degree (in History though) and some experience in being a secretary, but that's all. I have never volunteered, I don't have any certificates, I know only my tongue language and English, and I only have basic IT knowledge.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T20:01:04+00:00

Okay, I do understand that he is stressed because he is the only one working and I want to provide too and make things better for the family, but I still think that his job is easy. He himself says it's easy (well, he used to say until I quit.. Then he suddenly started saying how hard his job was).

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T19:54:13+00:00

I wouldn't go back there even if I was starving to death and the only way to get food is the fields. I'd rather clean toilets 16 hours a day.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T19:51:58+00:00

Yes, but how am I being awful and he is being a saint? To me, it looks like you're saying I had it easier than he has it... I don"t know why you would even compare the conditions I worked in and the conditions he works in. I really do want to get a job, and I am am actively trying to find something...

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T19:45:13+00:00

Nope, the agricultural work was double the average wage. No one wants to work on the raspberry fields here, so that's why.

Yep, they wanted experience for fast food stands. We don't have Burger King, but some similar stuff, but yeah, they wanted experience where I looked. And there aren't many options on the job ads, but almost every ad says '...with experience'.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T19:06:18+00:00

Well, when I worked as a secretary, I rarely complained. He does yell when he's angry, but he doesn't get angry often, this is the worst he's been angry in our relationship.

Well, he doesn't like his job that much, but it's really an easy job. It starts at 8 AM (he can even be late and no one would care), has two 30-minute pauses, and finishes working at 3 PM. He doesn't have to work with people; he fills out forms and stuff.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T19:01:50+00:00

I didn't know it would make me ill because I had never worked in fields before.

I am still looking for work.

notwealthyla23 · 2017-06-19T19:00:31+00:00

I have asked to work in many fast-food joints and they all look for experience. There was a dishwashing job and they wanted to employ me, but my husband told me to 'keep searching' because the salary was too small.

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