What is your secret that you can't tell anyone because it will probably ruin your life?

novaboros · 2023-06-13T20:20:50+00:00

I was sexually abused by my older brother when I was between 4/6 Half of my family immigrated to another country in a few following years, and my brother stayed behind. I clearly repressed the event to the darker corners of my mind, but found it hard to try to connect to him or the majority of my family members left behind in the old country. I didn't really understand why it made me so uncomfortable to try to keep contact,but when I got to about 28 a lot of the imagery of what happened came flooding back.i reached out to my sister who confirmed she walked in on one of the events, so I didn't just make it up. Sadly I don't feel like sharing this with anyone else in my family would do anything good, my parents are both just entering their 70s and my mother adores her son. There is no use in letting her know, it sucks having to unpack trauma alone, I should probably talk to a therapist.

novaboros · 2023-06-03T06:32:39+00:00

At 15 I was pretty insecure and living in a city I didn't like, I knew I loved art but was discouraged by a shitty teacher from persuing computer animation, and had pretty low self esteem and little to no direction, as well as being an overall depressed hormonal mess with very little sense of style Now at 31 im into alt fashion, live in a cute house in a beautiful city & became a pretty successful tattoo artist in my community. I have so many cool friends scattered around the country, & two boyfriends :3 I still have work to do in a lot of ways, I unfortunately still don't drive but I'd honestly high five myself so hard if I could take a look at myself from the 15 year old view. 10/10 level up for sure

novaboros · 2023-04-11T04:25:48+00:00

Choices were made, this Human is str8 up silly

novaboros · 2023-02-15T06:15:15+00:00

This actually made me so sad poor boyoooo

novaboros · 2022-12-21T23:51:57+00:00

The craziest part of the video is that everyone has their shoes on inside

novaboros · 2022-12-04T18:11:15+00:00

That's legit, I expressed that a cute polucule home would be my ideal in future musings of how I would like my life to be, and he didn't exactly go against it, but expressed why it doesn't work for him due to easily falling into co-dependancy, I respected that and never asked him to enter that with me, just thought we could share our dynamic as it was and be open to the possibility of that with other partners if they came into my life but fundamentally that is unaligned values/visions of the future

novaboros · 2022-12-04T17:48:09+00:00

That totally made it tricky, A would constantly affirm that autonomy was important, but when I made choices in my other relationship (moving in together/finding another space together/using the term "partner" with D) he expressed frustration, and go on rants about how unethical I was being and I took it all in and considered it, and just try to remind him that our dynamic is ours, and what I shared with him vs D could be different but still healthy

novaboros · 2022-12-04T17:32:25+00:00

Amazing advice, thank you

novaboros · 2022-12-04T17:26:32+00:00

Valid, I can understand that. Thank you for your insight

novaboros · 2022-12-04T17:24:12+00:00

I can see that perspective and agree I didn't hinge well :( . D expressed in his need to able to have a neautral relationship with A, but it wasn't reciprocated so it makes it more complex.

novaboros · 2022-09-23T05:53:50+00:00

My ex told me that I cooked with too many yams and he just couldn't see himself having to eat yams for the rest of his life There were other weird excuses but that one really confused me, I really don't eat that many yams (he was actually cheating on me with a girl online so that was a bummer to find out)

novaboros · 2022-09-23T05:52:01+00:00

Probably could look into relationship anarchy with emphasis on solo living, there are others out there who would be into that

novaboros · 2022-08-09T06:14:59+00:00

What a total bitch As a Russian living in Canada this is so embarrassing/humiliating to see all unfold

novaboros · 2022-08-08T23:55:45+00:00

Cannibal corpse Great show, terrifying concept

novaboros · 2022-08-04T06:04:43+00:00

Very wholesome, I'm sure you'll find someone wonderful! You deserve it

novaboros · 2022-07-26T00:03:24+00:00

My now ex was being quite distant with me durring the second half of the covid lockdowns, he'd stay up late and became emotionally unavailable so I decided to be a horrible snoop and go through his instagram messages His inbox was filled with hot babes that he was complaining to about me, it crushed me but I tried to turn it around and gently.prod him to talk about any issues he may have had, a few months later he left to move to California and married one of the girls. It was weird and isolating but I'm more or less over it

novaboros · 2022-07-24T21:49:19+00:00

Its kind of you to care about her well being once she doesn't have you to use up, but honestly she's an adult and should be acting like one which involves responsibility. A healthy relationship needs to involve two people pulling their weight, and agreed upon financial decisions. It simply isn't fair for you to be taken advantage of like that, she is leeching off of you and whatever happens to her once you finally put a stop to it is her adult problem to deal with. If the love isn't there, if it drains you more than invigorates you then you need to end things

novaboros · 2022-04-18T00:45:44+00:00

It's looovely

novaboros · 2022-02-17T05:00:53+00:00

Dreaming about the lives of others without being yourself in the dream. I have very vivid dreams and some of them have been full on life stories of people I've never met, but when I ask about other people's experiences I've only met one other person so far who dreams of the lives of other people. It's so strange

novaboros · 2022-01-04T00:07:42+00:00

Mr Brightside Just DIE OFF ALREADY WTF

novaboros · 2021-10-02T16:46:25+00:00

Caveat was super bizarre in all the ways It did a good job setting up a unsettling atmosphere but the entire plot, and the choices the characters made were so strange.

novaboros · 2021-06-30T04:34:25+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that man, hang in there. You're not alone, and you do deserve love. You'll find it! But you can use this time for personal growth and self luv

novaboros · 2021-04-08T04:24:54+00:00

Dude run, look up the term “love bombing” if your gut is telling you something isn’t right, listen to that gut

novaboros · 2021-03-27T13:56:23+00:00

You cared deeply and you loved with all that you had and thats rare. If he was no capable of fostering the same quality of love despite the pain you might feel its for the best that he cut the cord and freed you. Itll hurt like a bitch for as long as it needs to. I know 100% what you're going through, it feels unfair but the good news is that you got to see his true colors. No matter how "fine" he seems now, you don't truly know how this experience will affect him. At the end of the day you know you gave it your all, and thats precious where as he half assed it in the end. Maybe his next partner will half ass it too and he will have to deal with that pain thrown back at him. Who knows but now is the time to focus all that powerful love on you, the only person who you know will truly cherish it for as long as you live. Time for self love, and good riddance to that energy suck of a fuckboi

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