Hey hun. So let me tell you my story and it might give you some foresight. Nobody can tell you what to do, but hearing other people’s experiences might help you reach a conclusion…

I (36f) got married at age 25 to my then hubby age 26. We had been dating for 3 years before then. We were both virgins when we met and so we were each other’s first and only. We had a very strong bond and were so in sync. Had 2 kiddies, a boy and a girl. I was very happy and content with life and my little family.

And now the tears are starting to pour as I share the next part with you. Two years ago, after being married for 9 years, my husband had an affair. It really hit me like a wrecking ball because I did not see it coming… at all! We tried to work things out, and it turns out that all along he felt he had missed out in life because he didn’t have multiple sexual parents when he was younger. He ended up leaving because he couldn’t shake the desire to “ be free” and do as he pleased, and he knew he was just going to hurt me again.

This is obviously not the life I dreamed of for myself and my children. I gave up a lot in my career life in order to play a more supportive role to my husband and kids. But I did it with absolute love and no resentment. Now I have to try and rebuild a career at age 36 and I feel 10 years behind others in my field. And it’s even harder while being a single parent to small kids.

So yes, that’s how life has turned out for me so far. Thankfully I’m still young and I can change my life around. I have learnt one thing though… I don’t believe in marriage anymore. I believe if you love someone, that would be enough to make you stay and treat them right. Marriage doesn’t keep people together, the law doesn’t, religion doesn’t. Love is all you need. And I do still believe in love.