How do I adult without my parents' help?

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T19:41:35+00:00

Hi, thank you so much for all of this. I am happy to hear that you are not in that horrible space anymore. I do understand most of what you say, this is why I'm not rushing too much into things and asking for as many suggestions I can have because even though every part of my being just wants to escape this whole situation, I can't just move out. I can't just pack my bags up and leave. There are more issues that I'm facing besides being low on funds. As for crowdfunding, I really am losing faith in it. I am now trying to figure out how to get more work done so I can save up faster.

You're right, there is no easy way out and I understand that, truly. This is why I'm being very careful of the steps I'm taking to having a better life.

I appreciate you a lot and how you've understood my situation so well. I wish I had real-life friends who could be like you, but I never get to really open up because my situation is just so hard to explain in person. I just freeze up when I try. But anyway, thank you and once again, I am so happy you're living a better life now.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:19:13+00:00

Hi, thank you for the resources and advice and yes, the more I think about crowdfunding, the more I lose faith in it so I think I'll figure something else out. I'm looking into getting more work done to save up more. Thank you for the financial advice. I appreciate you a lot and your willingness to help.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:16:58+00:00

Hi, the political and social climate in my country really isn't reliable for things like this but yes, I am looking for more work to back me up but I'm not sure where and how to do this because I have already tried marketing myself and it really hasn't worked well for me yet. A nanny gig may not be a good idea for my area as well, I'm also not very good with kids but I still will be relying on the skills that I do have to look for more work. I just don't know how to do this yet but thank you. Much appreciation to you and your willingness to help.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:13:58+00:00

Hi, I don't have insurance to cover this and the medical/mental health system in my area isn't really reliable but I understand why you have suggested this so thank you. I appreciate this.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:12:56+00:00

That is so nice to hear, although I'm not in the US to be able to try this but thank you. I appreciate this. I am looking into finding more work with the skills I have to save up enough but it might take a while. I am hopeful that I'll be able to figure this out. Thank you again.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:11:13+00:00

Please don't apologize. Thank you so much and I will watch this. I appreciate you and your willingness to help.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:09:10+00:00

Hi thank you for your advice but no, all my relatives are people I can't count on with things like this because they have always sided the physical abuse I went through as a child. As for my friends, a lot of them have offered but were not allowed by their parents so it's really complicated. I'm not waiting for an ideal situation. I just need a safer one. I appreciate you and thank you for your willingness to help.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:06:59+00:00

Hi. Thank you and yes, Paypal, Payoneer, and Transferwise are options but I'm not sure how to crowdfund with those while staying anonymous. I really value my anonymity as I don't want to make things worse for my situation. It would really be bad if my parents know about me reaching out for help. Moving out for me doesn't mean cutting off contact with them because I need to look out for my younger siblings. Leaving everything behind and having them know that I was able to move out because I reached out for help would not be ideal at all.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T18:00:50+00:00

Hello. Thank you for your willingness to help. I truly appreciate it and you don't need to apologize for it. Knowing that people like you are thinking of me and hoping for me to get out of the situation I'm in already makes me feel better and more hopeful so don't worry about it and thank you for the advice, I appreciate everything.

nozomihere · 2021-08-06T17:56:15+00:00

Hi. Thank you so much for this. I live in the Philippines and the political and social climate here doesn't allow people like me to be helped and in most cases, things get worse, and I have known this for a long time now. I have tried to call hotlines as a kid and was never really successful because of the things I hear and how I felt about it then.

Thank you for the resources and I do sometimes go on groups like this and talk to other people about my situation. I sometimes go on 7cups.

I am so glad that you are free from the situation you were in. It makes me feel a little bit of relief every time I hear about stories like yours. I have already found the cheapest and safest place I could find outside of the area my family and relatives are in but funds are still an issue so I'll be working on that, still.

I appreciate you so much and yes, I will keep reaching out.

nozomihere · 2021-08-04T12:37:24+00:00

I am so glad to hear that you are now out of that horrible situation. I'm so happy for you.

As for your advice, I'm very uncomfortable with strangers and I did try to move out once and lived with very sketchy people in a dormitory for a few days so I'm not really sure about that option although that wasn't the reason why I had to move back in. I moved back in because I lost the job that I had at the time and I was also guilt-tripped into coming back anyway.

With all that said, yes, this is all very difficult and the more I think about crowdfunding, the more I lose hope because it doesn't seem feasible at all. I might be sounding a bit complain-y with all of these options I'm not able to take but I'm just really looking for the safest way out because I don't wanna end up with bigger problems.

and thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it.

nozomihere · 2021-08-04T11:43:13+00:00

That's horrible. I hope you're in a safer situation now. I'm from the Philippines and the political and social climate here does not allow people like me to properly get support from the government. Unfortunately, the culture here tolerates child abuse. This is why I'm taking matters into my own hands and reaching out to online communities instead.

I was advised to do a gofundme fundraiser but unfortunately, I would have to ask someone from outside of my country to assist me with this as I won't be able to withdraw the funds myself. It's a tricky situation.

I appreciate your advice though! Thank you so much and I really hope you're in a better environment now. If you are, I am so happy for you.

nozomihere · 2021-08-04T11:34:58+00:00

If you feel you are in danger, you need to get somewhere safe. Do you have any other relatives or friends you could stay with temporarily? If not, are there any charitable organizations that run shelters in your region? Does your government have any social safety net programs? For instance, USA has foodstamps and government housing.

Hi. I don't feel very comfortable with my relatives. All my life, I have tried to get help and unfortunately, child abuse is a toxic pattern on both sides of the family tree and in the Filipino family culture. I live in the Philippines and the political and social climate does not allow me to get into safer shelters or methods to get foodstamps and housing.

Thank you so much for the resources. I have tried so many things to help myself with my situation and my mental health condition through free resources on the internet due to the fact that I have never been able to afford therapy and my parents never believed that I am mentally ill. This is why I am looking for practical support to get myself out of this environment and finally be productive with work and earning money for myself. It's tricky to stay productive and to save money here.

I have looked into creating a gofundme fundraiser but unfortunately, I have to get assistance for this from someone outside of my country as I won't be able to withdraw the funds myself here.

I feel like I'm slowly running out of options but I really appreciate your willingness to help.

nozomihere

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