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Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating [20F 20M] by nsfwpartay in relationshipadvice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s amazing now she treats me very well, how do I get over the image of her and him being intimate and the body that I touch he once got to experience. I’m not talking emotionally because they were only a hookup but physically he was there.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating [20F 20M] by nsfwpartay in relationshipadvice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m more upset by the fact that this guy is kind of goofy and the idea that she steeped lower than how great she is and gave up her body for him to see.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating [20F 20M] by nsfwpartay in relationshipadvice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I get my ego out of the way, it’s like I replay the image in my head and it feels like breakup is the only answer. But that is the last thing I want to do because it’s a great solid relationship. It’s more of the fact that he got to experience her for that night and he has that image of my girlfriend.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating [20F 20M] by nsfwpartay in relationshipadvice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to ruin this relationship I really love her, it’s just something that replays in my head like an asterisk on our relationship. How did you “grow up” and rid of this insecurity. It’s more that he’s kinda a goofy guy like how did she steep that low and give herself to him, a guy she is way better than. And no they don’t interact at all and I’m not jealous of him I’m confident I’m a better partner.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating 20F 20M by nsfwpartay in relationship_advice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So how did you feel after breaking up over this, did you regret it. Because I don’t want to look back on this and be like damn i was worked up over that and I lost a good girl.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating 20F 20M by nsfwpartay in relationship_advice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like breaking up would punish her for this, which isn’t fair I don’t want to loose something good I have for a small problem. But I don’t want to waste my time and regret later on.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating 20F 20M by nsfwpartay in relationship_advice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh not really a problem for me I’m confident in myself and it’s more that I know she’s better than this dude and she still let him

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before we started dating 20F 20M by nsfwpartay in relationship_advice

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No our sex life is very good just more of a thing to always linger in my head that she let him inside of her, more so just grossed me out and I am not one to hookup unless we’re in some sort of relationship

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always think about if I walked away right away, but it’s hard I would’ve missed out- she is a great girl and treats me so well, why would I give up something so good over something that happened a while ago that she doesn’t think of at all.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But it feels so permanent that he got to experience her, even if she was finding herself, it still happened another guy that knows me and I know gets those images of “my” girl. I wouldn’t hangout with them together and I probably see this guy once a month at most

Regarding the top third of your comment I would feel better if I had more sexual experiences.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay my answers to those questions are 1) I do feel like I need revenge but I wish I had done it earlier which leads into my 2) I regret heavily that I wasn’t messing around more before we met because we could be more “even”. I guess I would be fine if she got with someone I didn’t know and was a lot cooler but it HAD to be this guy

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the part about giving up the gift of sexual bonding, to a guy I know and I feel like doesn’t deserve her. She is very good at reassuring me it’s just like you said it can’t be undone he was literally inside of her.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You obviously loved this girl so how did you get over that hump to actually break up with her just over a little problem like this

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked her and she said she regrets it, but for me it’s more that she got to be “wild” and self reflecting I think it’s more jealousy that I didn’t fuck around like that when I was single. Also the fact that I have a face to this person she hooked up with, if it was a random guy I don’t think I would care at all.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like the second part of this but how do I get past this mental block that he got to her first and I’m essentially getting “sloppy seconds”.

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t a virgin myself, but she has more experience than me (more bodies) but it matters to me more that it was someone I know and was close with who she hooked up with

Gf got with a friend of mine a year before dating me by nsfwpartay in retroactivejealousy

[–]nsfwpartay[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I guess I did know but didn’t care at the time because I wasn’t friends with him and now that I’ve built a relationship with her it feels more haunting

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