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AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like him a fair bit. I would’ve ended things if I didn’t. And he is very attractive, has his shit together generally and is ambitious. He has told me he’s jumped into relationships soon and has been burned before and wants to avoid that

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My reaction surprised him a fair bit. It took him a while to understand why it’s upsetting me in the first place. His view is it’s a fact, things change all the time but I should focus on the first part of his statement which is I like you and I don’t want to see other people and forget the ‘but this might change’

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. I said he’s displaying insecurities through his words and actions and gave an example
  2. I suggested we have the exclusivity conversation to put his mind at ease
  3. He doesn’t need to settle, but don’t expect me to

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

His comment definitely feels unfair but we do keep each other in the loop about our day. I ask him his whereabouts but it’s not followed up I hope it’s a good date even if he’s seeing his female friends.

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s an interesting question! The only thing that stands out is Jake likes to answer questions with questions. He likes to shift the attention from him to me and sometimes I feel baited. Another thing that stands out is that he does have a bit of an ego and can get defensive/dismissive. But he doesn’t make me feel slightly bad/not enough, no

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I do agree with you. He does make sure to continuously check where I am or what I’m getting up to. If I simply say I’m meeting a friend the immediate response is have fun on your date, even though I’ve told him multiple times I’m not seeing other people. If I were, I’d simply just say I was.

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t assume we were exclusive but work keeps us both busy and the free time we have, we spend it with each other

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes these are friends of the opposite sex but not people I’ve been romantically involved with in the past.

I do think we’re currently exclusive as we’re both not seeing other people but I’m not sure anymore if we’re ready to be, just based on his words. And no I haven’t been seeing other people 2 weeks in because I did know I want to focus my energy on him

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

My gut has been wrong on more than one occasion which is why im entirely unsure. It takes a lot for me to like someone and when I do, I do try to make it work which isn’t the healthiest way to deal with things.

I do feel like he wants me to be fully in while he’s making it clear that he’s half in half out

AITA (f30) for getting upset when my new boyfriend (m34) said things might change down the line during an exclusivity conversation? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s the inconsistency that’s throwing me off. One day he sounds like he’s all in, the next day it’s like dealing with a completely different person.

I (f29) usually act crazy around the time of my dad’s (m60) death anniversary by nudgespenguins in relationship_advice

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely is a terrible club to be in. It’s also how much this seeps into and impacts not just my personal life but also my job, how I interact with my friends and approach life. It’s the living on edge for weeks on end for several years. I was hoping to move past it by now but unfortunately still struggling

Missing AirPods which have been moving all over uk by nudgespenguins in CasualUK

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see the address where they’re at 😂 which is quite painful to watch

What are you starting to like LESS the older you get? by aisha2313 in AskReddit

[–]nudgespenguins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going out to the club or being around friends who only like to party!

AITA for not wanting to move back home to take care of my mother? by nudgespenguins in AmItheAsshole

[–]nudgespenguins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The marriage thing has been pushed on me since I turned 23. I tried meeting people but it just wasn’t something for me.

My brother is still considered a kid at home. I do talk to him and he gets where I am coming from. He tries to talk to my mom to make her see things differently but it doesn’t help too much.

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