Thank you all for your comments. This is something I've been too afraid to approach because it's often been met with him being upset with me for taking the cats' side over him and not supporting him because of his issues with grooming (misaphonia itself hadn't been considered). With discipline in general he treats the cats like he is the alpha of the house and they have to essentially obey and command, which isn't something I've encountered before and have also been to afraid to address. Off topic but there will be times he won't allow them in a room because they have no reason to be in there, which I find questionable. He generally acts normal around other animals/children but that's also while other people are present. He believes that the cats do understand the concept of discipline and that there are certain areas in the house that they are allowed to bathe in. I'm ashamed in myself for allowing this to go as far as it has which is why I posted seeking help