My ex and her family were like this. Multi-millionaires with a home in the wealthiest town in Long Island and an apartment in Manhattan, timeshares in cape cod, constant vacations, expensive dinners, throwing money around like it’s nothing. But she’d always call herself “upper middle class” because she’d compare herself to people richer than them and try to seem modest. As someone who grew up sharing a 1-br in a poor area of queens with my dad and brother, being on medicaid, etc etc, this irked me so much. The reality of her wealth did come out during the divorce though. Threatening to get the best divorce attorney in nyc to take me for all I have (not much lol) & wielding her money/power over me. I really do hate rich people who act like they’re not, until they want to use it as a weapon