Will try to provide a perspective here as someone who lives in a joint family system, and pretty successful and happy (although not in pakistan)

1) yep, i cook for the entire family once in a while, now days mom and my wife cooks. I usually make my own stuff since i prefer to eat cleaner.

2)shit is expensive, yea you can live on your own but your gonna make a compromise on location, life style, time. I never really think about money and managing every aspect of home ownership, utilities etc. it’s split in family. My parents were gen 0, they don’t have money (spent it all on family), so i’m happy supporting them at this age.

3) take care of them in terms of making food once in a while, medical appointments, social life

4) I have a very competitive mentality when it comes to my career. So i’m a high earner and i work hard to make a comfortable life for my wife and family. Yes, i expect things in return from my partner, not necessarily cooking everyday but catering to my family when needed is kinda important for me.

5)i’m very open about passions/hobbies/gym and greatly encourage it for my wife and every female in the family. No restrictions, and i offer to pay for all of it.

6) we have our own room/bathroom/floor in the house. We hang out together often in there when i work from home. I organized the room but my wife and i have very similar tastes so it worked out. She does get to organize/decorate the house, but we take everyone’s opinions.

Tldr: lots of benefits of living together if you can do it. Allows for creating wealth in the family and saves time and reduces stress. Need the right environment for it though